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Amanda's Reviews > MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search For A New Best Friend
MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search For A New Best Friend
by Rachel Bertsche (Goodreads Author)
by Rachel Bertsche (Goodreads Author)
I picked up this book because of the familiarity of the story. Relocated to a new town...left all my close friends on the other side of the country...miss them like hell.
Bertsche does a great job of taking a blog and elevating it to a book. She sprinkles research in with her ancedotes and reflects on her own abilities as a friend. I learned some new things (it takes bi-monthly dates for 3 months to reach "friend" level, the four levels of friendship, the idea of having "brain room" for 150 friends...). The research also explained why I've long felt that my idea of "friend" is often different from others--we're talking about two different levels of friendship.
This book did point out just how much WORK making friends takes, and for an introvert, the schedule Rachel put herself on is panic-inducing. Just the thought of 1-2 "girl dates" a day, 6 days a week makes me queasy. At the rate of "new peopleness" that I am comfortable with, it may take me 15 years to reach the point she got to in a year. Which was the unexpected and somewhat depressing revelation which came out of the book.
One very thought-provoking take-away was the idea of what friendship should be and how that evolves as we age. Definite food for thought.
Bertsche does a great job of taking a blog and elevating it to a book. She sprinkles research in with her ancedotes and reflects on her own abilities as a friend. I learned some new things (it takes bi-monthly dates for 3 months to reach "friend" level, the four levels of friendship, the idea of having "brain room" for 150 friends...). The research also explained why I've long felt that my idea of "friend" is often different from others--we're talking about two different levels of friendship.
This book did point out just how much WORK making friends takes, and for an introvert, the schedule Rachel put herself on is panic-inducing. Just the thought of 1-2 "girl dates" a day, 6 days a week makes me queasy. At the rate of "new peopleness" that I am comfortable with, it may take me 15 years to reach the point she got to in a year. Which was the unexpected and somewhat depressing revelation which came out of the book.
One very thought-provoking take-away was the idea of what friendship should be and how that evolves as we age. Definite food for thought.
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05 sett. 08:46
I would like to see more books that are more informative in the way that I prefer to deal with on the subject, too. I've been dealing for years with my own shyness and the difficulty with making the leap to "person who says hi to you and makes small talk" to actual "Friend" that is part of your life. Guess Gordie LaChance was right, you never do have friends like you did when you were 12.
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