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It's Hard Not to Hate You by Valerie Frankel
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Dec 29, 2011

really liked it
Read from December 17 to 28, 2011

I'm not going to say that It's Hard Not to Hate You by Valerie Frankel changed my life--but it certainly made me think. Like Frankel, I've felt down about the number of friends I have, my physical fitness/health, and my future success in a challenging industry. I've been jealous and angry and unhappy and my insecurities have gotten the best of many of my past friendships and relationships. While reading this book, I was surprised by how well I related to the author--I no longer feel foolish or concerned about the things I've always "hated" or the negative emotions I've felt over (seemingly) menial events. Frankel reminded me that it's healthy--and almost necessary--to express these emotions as I feel them, rather than bottle them up until I can't take it anymore. Sure, there are right and wrong ways to go about doing this, and she definitely provided me with a few tips that I'm sure will be helpful in the future. From Frankel, I learned that my need to feel appreciated, loved, wanted, and respected isn't silly or desperate--it's human nature to want these things and to make it known that you want them.

I also need to mention how entertaining this read was. Though Frankel focused on very serious topics at times (cancer, romantic relationships, self confidence, self doubt, parent-child relations, the death of a spouse), she found a way to add humor to them and I applaud that. I feel like I learned a lot about myself through this book. It's possible that I was always aware of these feelings, but could never find the words I needed to express them. Frankel had them, though, and through her, I've further developed a bit of my own self identity. I feel like I learned a few good lessons while reading, and I feel even better that I was able to laugh along the way.
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