Nothing new but a wonderful intro book for someone who has no idea what you mean when you say "Be a little nicer to yourself"

I also like her mantra:

This is a moment of suffering.
Suffering is part of life.
May I be kind to myself in this moment.
May I give myself the compassion I need.

Kristen maintains that recognizing our suffering is the first step in learning self-compassion. We can't just keep going forward, pretending nothing happened. And we don't want to through a huge self-pity party every time we get hurt. This mantra is a sturdy sweet in-between place.

Another good idea from the book: self-compassion is made up of self-kindness (being gentle and understanding with yourself rather than harshly critical and judgmental), recognition of our common humanity (feeling connected to others in the experience of life rather than isolated and alienated in your suffering) and mindfulness (holding your experience in balanced awareness, rather than ignoring or exaggerating your pain).

You need all three to be truly self-compassionate. You want to hold all three equally.

Good for therapists, coaches, newbies to self-care.