Dr. Kristin Neff's, Self-Compassion is the non-preachy book about how and why we beat ourselves up and how to stop. To engage with her reader, she clearly defines terms, explains relevant research, weaves in examples that include her personal experiences and stories from close friends to help her and her student (the reader) connect. Never did I perceive her attitude to be arrogant (I know it all and you don't) or condescending (can't you see, it's obvious stupid!). The book is grounded in research and science, but written with a caring and compassionate mindset.