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A Stolen Life by Jaycee Dugard

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Sep 16, 11

bookshelves: adult, non-fiction, read-2011, icky-subjects, 2011-publication
Read on September 02, 2011

This is a monumental book in many ways. It's one of the few times that a victim of prolonged sexual imprisonment has come forth to tell her story, and the importance of having a record of this first-hand account cannot be discounted. Jaycee Dugard was kidnapped at the age of 11 and held captive for 18 years while a man repeatedly raped her and had her bear two of his children. She was miraculously freed at the age of 29 and, two years later, seems to be overall pretty well-adjusted and happy.

I've read a fair amount on this subject, but it's still very painful to read about Jaycee's story. One of the awful things about her situation is that her captor was "nice" to her when he wasn't assaulting her, sobbing and apologizing profusely, and telling her she was "helping him" with his problem. The confusion of dealing with that must do untold amounts of damage, since if someone is always monstrous, it's much easier to look upon him as the enemy. While it's natural to wonder about these things, it has always troubled me when I hear strongly worded questions about why victims in these situations don't try harder to escape. I think it's very difficult to imagine the amount of physical and psychological fear and confusion that these individuals undergo, as well as the coping mechanisms that they must use in order to simply survive. Through Jaycee's words, it's possible to come closer to understanding how someone in a devastating situation is relentlessly conditioned into doing a dominant person's bidding--and how her reality changed so much that she began to look upon being separated from her captor with crippling fear of the unknown.

While I am glad that readers have a chance to read Jaycee's story, it does worry me that it comes so soon after her release in 2009. Elizabeth Smart has similarly just signed on to be a commentator for ABC News, and it makes you wonder if Elisabeth Fritzl can be too far behind. I cannot even begin to imagine the kind of damage this kind of violence and depravity does to someone, let alone a child whose character hadn't even been fully formed at the time of her kidnapping. It troubles me to think that in our insistent need for information and our need for heroic stories in this modern age, we may unintentionally be harming these poor women with the pressure to present a pulled-together, picture-perfect image for our benefit.

But perhaps I don't give enough credit to their strength. While there is a great deal of pain in reading Jaycee's story as you relive her suffering, it is also impossible not to be moved by the resiliency of the human spirit. The joy she took in the pets that came and went over the years; her attempts to stay positive, chronicled through journal entries; her pleasure in the birth of her "beautiful baby girls." One of the things that touched me the most was the notion that a child of 17--with a fifth grade education--was determined to provide some sort of education and future for her two children by downloading daily lesson plans and teaching them herself. It speaks to an extraordinary spirit, as well as to the extraordinary capacity of the human heart.

The fact that these kinds of violent acts happen in the world are incredibly shameful and tragic. In sharing her story, however, Jaycee Dugard has helped many readers to see that human beings can and do survive impossible situations...and that it's important to appreciate the many precious freedoms that we so often take for granted.

A note about the book: This is an incredible piece of testimony to a shocking perpetuation of violence against a human being. I am glad that the publishers chose to keep Jaycee's young voice, which sounds unspoiled and unguarded in a surprising and touching way. There were some editorial missteps, however, that I felt detracted from the book quite a bit, including leaving in inconsistent tenses, confusing timelines, and switching back and forth perhaps a little too often between past and present for a fairly short book. Addressing these issues would have streamlined the book immensely, and it's puzzling that more efforts weren't made to provide a better framework for the story.

Additional Reading:
Readers who are interested in exploring other books with similar topics might consider Living Dead Girl, which is the best fictionalized story about kidnapping and imprisonment that I've read to date. I was NOT a huge fan of the much more lauded Room or the more recent Circle 9, however.

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message 1: by Stephen (new)

Stephen Wonderful review, Wendy.


Wendy Darling Thanks Stephen!


Michelle, the Bookshelf Stalker I didn't think a good review could be written for this book but you proved me wrong!


Wendy Darling Thanks Michelle. I had similar concerns to yours about being respectful of Jaycee's experience, so I did the best I could.


message 5: by Rebecca (new)

Rebecca There's no way I would ever read this book myself (I'd have nightmares) but I'm glad Jaycee was able to survive and make something of her life. Thanks for reviewing this, Wendy.


message 6: by Nafiza (new)

Nafiza Brilliant review, Wendy.


message 7: by Lora (new)

Lora Wonderful review, Wen. :)


message 8: by Samantha (new) - added it

Samantha Souza I'm in the mood to have my heart wrenched. As always your reviews are amazing!


message 9: by Meg (new) - added it

Meg I read 'Stolen' this year, and it made me sick... I'm not sure how well I'd handle it knowing that it wasn't a fiction story I was reading...


message 10: by Lisa (new)

Lisa I read "3,096 Days" last year, written by Natascha Kampusch about her abduction and captivity. I found it hard to read but she didn't write about the sexual abuse she endured. I don't think I could read about Jaycee Dugard's experiences. It sounds too horrific. Good review.


Wendy Darling Thanks so much, everyone, I appreciate your comments.

I had to return Stolen: A letter to my captor to the library before I could get around to it, but I'm hoping to read it soon, Meg. The fact that this book is non-fiction does make it hard to handle.

And Lisa, thank you for telling me about Natascha Kampusch's book! I hadn't heard that she'd written one, so I'm adding it to my TBR list and adjusting this review as well.


message 12: by Emily (new)

Emily amazing review!


message 13: by Phoebe (new)

Phoebe Oh wow, I had no idea she had a book released. I tend to be fascinated with this kind of captive child story (Steven Stayner, etc.) Have you read the Collector? It's a somewhat similar fictional story and just brutal.


Wendy Darling I'm somewhat fascinated with this type of story too, Phoebe. I haven't read The Collector yet, but I'm adding it to my list. I appreciate the recommendation.

Thanks Emily!


message 15: by Zeek (new)

Zeek Great review- it's always a good sign when a review makes me want to read the entire thing w/o skimming- which i tend to do often! Good job! ;)


Wendy Darling Oh, thanks so much Zeek! I skim a lot of reviews too, so I'll take that as a compliment indeed. ;)


Greta is Erikasbuddy Great review WEDNY!! Yours is way way better than mine ;) I had a hard time writing it but I told my husband like EVERYTHING and he couldn't believe what that poor girl had gone through. I too can't believe she wrote that so soon after her release. I'm starting to wonder when the LIFETIME movie will be made.


Wendy Darling Thanks Greta! Your review was great, I really hope she gets to do everything she put on her list, too. She deserves it. (And yeah, a Lifetime movie probably isn't too far behind...)


Hayden Casey This is a fantastic review! I can't even believe how well you put our collective thoughts into words. I really struggled with the review for this.


Wendy Darling This was a really difficult review to write for me, too, Hayden--I think just about everyone who reads this book would feel the need to be responsible and fair. It's such a hard subject, I certainly could have written 5 times as much as I actually did and talk about the perpetrator's wife, the parole officers, her state of mind, etc., too. It's enormously complicated and sad, though I'm glad she seems to come out of it with a mostly positive outlook...which is just amazing.


Amber Great review! I was blown away by her mind set now. Did you see her tv interviews? I also thought it was good she is so protective of her girls' privacy.


Wendy Darling Thanks Amber! I haven't seen any of her television interviews, but in the book she seems very loving and protective of her daughters, too. It's incredible that she survived with such indomitable spirit intact.


message 23: by Maggie (new)

Maggie Brilliant well thought out review, thank you. I also found "Room" to be disappointing in so many ways.


Wendy Darling Oh, thank you Maggie. This wasn't a perfect exercise in writing, but that didn't matter to me as much as the powerful content.


message 25: by Peter (new)

Peter Not to be a pedant, but do only women get kidnapped/raped/abused? The way you write seems to indicate that you think that to be the case


Wendy Darling That's what you'd like to comment upon in this review?

I am not unaware that men are also kidnapped/raped/abused. The author of this book is a woman and it happened to be women in the other recent cases of prolonged sexual imprisonment that came to my mind. So this sentence " I think it's very difficult to imagine the amount of physical and psychological fear and confusion that these women undergo, as well as the coping mechanisms that they must use in order to simply survive," yes, did overlook men in similar situations.


message 27: by Jim (new)

Jim Awesome review, Wendy! Just as the story needed to be told, it needs to be talked about and understood. A terrifying, despicable tragedy, and the incredible resolve of the victim to get through it. You walked that fine line brilliantly.


Wendy Darling Thank you, Jim. This was one of those reviews that was difficult to write because it is such a sensitive subject, but I definitely found a great deal of value and insight in reading the book. I hope that came through.


message 29: by Claire (new)

Claire I have read Stolen but that is where I personally draw the line. I couldn't read this book, but I love how you added things about it into your review. I didn't know she taught her children. Good for her. It is truly amazing the attitude she has about her life. It is inspiring. Plus, we love E. Smart here. Her trial was highly publicized here and it was hard to listen to the things that happened to her. Ugh! Now she is super into advocating. Thanks for bringing this book to my attention.


message 30: by Jim (new)

Jim Wendy wrote: "Thank you, Jim. This was one of those reviews that was difficult to write because it is such a sensitive subject, but I definitely found a great deal of value and insight in reading the book. I hope that came through."

Thanks Wendy, and it came through with vivid clarity. I agree with Claire's comment - I couldn't read this book, but I am very thankful for the insights that you provided in your wonderful review.

Since I am reading The Collector, I have started thinking about the mental processes of the victim, and how they can manage the resilience, and endure the unspeakable horror, that you so vividly captured in this review.

It occurred to me that the Patty Hearst kidnapping case had some possible parallels - something about dominance and the indirect effects of submission-to-survive. My own thought process hasn't progressed beyond that. I hope to understand more when I have finished Fowles' account.


Nenia Campbell I'm reading this now!


message 32: by Melinda (new) - added it

Melinda Clayton What a fantastic, thoughtful review. I'm in the middle of the book now, and your review captures exactly what I'm thinking (feeling) as I read.


Jeanne Neusetzer Good thoughtful review. It should be noted however that the narrative was initially intended not as a coherent memoir but rather an exercise of catharsis as prescribed by her therapist after her release. Only afterwards was it submitted for publication, with how much editing I am unaware. At least that is how Ms Dugard has attested.


message 34: by Wendy Darling (last edited Mar 06, 2013 02:50pm) (new) - rated it 4 stars

Wendy Darling Thanks Claire--I know this is a hard thing to read about for sure.

Jim, there's always a certain amount of Stockholm Syndrome that seems to occur when people, especially children, are kidnapped. I think it's natural when you are forced to rely upon upon someone so completely for not only your survival, but for simple human contact as well.

Nenia, I'll come to check out your review!

Thank you, Melinda--I'll come check out yours as well. It's such a difficult book to read/talk about.

Jeanne--I certainly understand that this was a means of therapy for Jaycee, and I hope it was a cathartic exercise for her. I still contend that in releasing it as a book, the publisher could have made some simple structural edits so that readers could have a better sense of the timeline. Just my opinion, though, and I rated the book trying to separate the value of the reading experience from any editorial choices. But I know I've read a number of reviews that were so turned off by the jumbled narrative that it definitely did affect their ratings.


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