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Midnight and the Meaning of Love by Sister Souljah
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Oct 31, 2012

did not like it
bookshelves: rejected, library-book, urban-fiction, mcpl-monroe-county-public-library

Quit around the first half of the first book.

I think the author is trying to teach some lessons here, but I don't think they are ones I need. Trust, mainly.

I cannot wrap my mind around the idea that the main character is, what? 16? He's married and seemingly lacking in flaws while maintaining humility and also is highly desired by every lady in the world. He Knows What To Do. Apparently.

It's like . . . she's writing this book to prove a point. That's what it feels like. It's all right to do that, naturally, but I think it would have been more effective had she been a little more subtle about it.

Plus, the way women are treated makes me itch. I've been on a feminist kick, these days. The mother is the saintly caretaker, Bangs is the whore, Akemi is the bride, Naja is the guileless little princess, yeah, uh-huh, whatever. It's cliche and inaccurate. At least the male characters are that way, too.
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message 1: by Nandi (new) - added it

Nandi Crawford You know, I bought the book the very day it came out and after a minute, I put it down. I don't think he was trying to make EVERY woman want him. but as in life, we get folks, who like us but we don't necessarily like them. just the same he didn't take advantage of anyone. In fact, he was respectful of the women INCLUDING Bangs, and if you ask me, if Bangs was such a whore, why would he do the thing he did? a man like that wouldn't even bother with a lady like that, but somehow, he likes her and all,and I consider myself a feminist and I don't feel they were treated cruelly. I mean he didn't have to leave his mother with folks he trusted. would your father do that? If someone you love goes to another country, would you do it? that is an insurmontable challenge in and of itself and doubly so if there is a language barrier. I do believe that every woman is deserving to be treated right but I don't feel he treated the ladies bad here. just me.

Sarah Oh, I didn't mean to imply that Midnight treated the women badly. He treats them quite well actually. What I meant is that the author created the characters, men and women alike, as tired stereotypes. I notice it more in the women because of the whole virgin/mother/whore thing female characters are constantly written into, but this concept of a male protagonist as being loved by every woman he meets is also a stereotype. Lordy, I used to watch anime. Trust me on that one.

I hope that clears things up.

Did you like the book? I can't tell by your first sentence. Why did you put the books down?

Nadia Hello Sarah O,
I completely agree wth everythng tht u said. both books wr tht of a fairytale, and a real depiction of any human being. definitly a cliche...The story lacked a realness.

Irma Saldana I personally loved all the books to this series. I read in order to learn about things I am not able to see. I get to keep my mind open to every opinion because a closed mind is a useless mind. Even if I read a book and don't like it there is no way I can't finish it, just doesn't seem right to me. Now I might start another book and take a yr to finish the other one but I will succeed in reading every book I start

Nadia I too have read all the books in ths series, and also feel like I have to finish every book that attempt to read, because like you I dnt feel like its right not see the whole story through. However, for me even wth an open mind I found ths particular book to be very annoying. I often hear ppl say that he(midnight) treats woman like every man should treat a woman, which is true, however he was not a man;he was a child. The book was not cohesive, and at times very pornagraphic.It also made know sense at all. Soulja had many of the tranlsations, aswell as the times off.The style of clothing dnt come out until a few years after stated in the book.

message 6: by Lyn (new) - rated it 5 stars

Lyn The udenese culture is just this way, they think and do things very differenly then the American culture. They teach dicipline, respect and honor. In 3rd world countries they do marry very young, its their way. And I can see how you could not relate. I encourage you to study the Bangladesh culture, it is very prevelent there with young girls being married off as early as 13.

Janell @Sarah have you read any of her other books? The prequel to this book is 'The Coldest Winter Ever' Midnight's character is continued from that book. I also understand your perspective regarding the treatment of females but the reality is that's some people's real reality. I would just say be open to other ideas that askew your own and know though things need to be changed at the end of the day this was a fiction book... ^__^

message 8: by Pinkcotton (new)

Pinkcotton I didn't realize midnight had a sequel. I picked it up at the library last week, and I must say I'll be returning tomorrow. I am on the last chapter of book 1. This book is horrible! Very unrealistic and her facts for the year 1986 were so wrong. She described a car on page 131 "worlds fastest passenger sedan....Amg 375 horsepower, seven airbags" really sister souljah? They didn't make cars with airbags in 86' hell we barley wore seatbelts. She is delusional. Anyone who thinks her books are good works of fiction, needs to find a better selection of books. I'm so cool on her books.

message 9: by Brjden (new)

Brjden Crewe I agree somewhat. The story is very far-fetched and she's remaking the character from the Coldest Winter Ever where every time he talks about a woman, he's calling them "bitches". And he's not 16, he's 14; making it even less believable.

message 10: by Nina (new) - added it

Nina Coleman I feel nowadays every reader seems to deconstruct novels instead of just read them with an unbiased eye. What is reality? What's wrong with stereotypes? It's fiction right? This didn't happen, so I think she can do whatever she wants with her characters. She's not trying to build a podium to discuss real social issues with women or men. Fine. You're a feminist or have those ideals, but that doesn't mean these characters are stereotypical at all. There are so many people in the world each person has to represent someone or parts of a person. I haven't read this book, but I read the one before this one. I think she was just trying to stretch some boundaries, especially with her main character. He's a black male hero. I think that was the point of it all. Now if her execution was flawed that's one thing, but I never buy into others opinions regarding stereotypes. I mean how can you minimize or rationalize someone else's experience of a particular situation?

message 11: by Nandi (new) - added it

Nandi Crawford Sarah, I am truly sorry to respond at such a late date to your reply, but I hope you see this. after reading this book as well as the latest book on Porsche, my thing with the books is the theme of using very young children to do things that adults do. the girls are young,but somehow they do they have to to make it through. Midnight was a complete change from The Coldest Winter.matter of fact, I didn't recognize him in the follow up books. the women seemed tired because to be honest,we are. I wish we weren't but it's the truth.

message 12: by Wsb (new) - rated it 3 stars

Wsb Important thing to remember is that Midnight is from a different culture. His entire way of life, way of thinking and mentality is completely at odds with mainstream American society. If this is not taken into account when reading the book, you will not understand or enjoy it.

message 13: by Nic (new) - rated it 1 star

Nic I hated how the Midnight books portray every female black American character as desperate, dangerous, sex-crazed 'whores' (a word used dozens of times in the book) - it seems women only deserve respect when they are modest, submissive & virginal. The worst example of this was when Midnight says he could never fall for Bangs/Tiffany because she isn't pure, even after he finds out she has been raped by her uncle since she was 5!!! He wonders if she enjoys being raped by him ffs. Appalling.

I honestly cannot believe a woman wrote this. Midnight treats his womenfolk as valuable posessions worth killing for, but posessions nonetheless. Such antiquated, misogynistic crap.

I also hated the endless descriptions of outfits & designer brands in almost every scene. Materialism was worshipped as much as Allah & virginity in this book.

I loved The Coldest Winter Ever so I was very let down by Midnight.

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