This book is a total breath of fresh air for anyone who is dismayed or confused by all the unnerving self-help/relationships advice aimed at women. The author delivers a common sense message with a lively, convivial tone. I was impressed by her high powered academic background, and appreciated that she could also write in a friendly, engaging manner. Ruti is like the best friend you wish you could meet for brunch over the weekend to sort it all out. I highly recommend this one!