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In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms
by Laura C. Schlessinger
by Laura C. Schlessinger
I really enjoyed this book. As a stay-at-home-mom myself (and a woman who fervently believes that is the ideal way to be a mom), I appreciated hearing how important the work I'm doing really is. I haven't yet hit a point where I doubt that, or where I feel that I would rather be doing something else with my life, and I don't feel like I'm "wasting" my talents or my college degree, but there are definitely days when things are just HARD and it's nice to get a little pat on the back and hear someone say, "You're great--and you CAN do this!" I also really appreciated all the advice and suggestions Dr. Laura offers for SAHMs (like how to respond to people who criticize you for being "just a mom" or websites to check out for creative ways to keep kids entertained).
That said, I have to address Dr. Laura’s tone. Throughout the book, she speaks against career women and feminista types in an almost unbearably harsh manner. Although I didn’t particularly love this, I think you have to call into mind her purpose for writing the book. Certainly there are notable exceptions and situations where women can not and even should not stay home with their children, for whatever reason, but I don’t believe Dr. Laura wrote this book for these women. I believe she intended this book to be a source of support and validation for SAHMs, and a wake up call to women who choose not to be SAHMs specifically because they feel it would be a waste of their time and talents, or just plain boring. To those women, I say let the truth be spoken unapologetically, not to offend but to ENLIGHTEN and (hopefully) inspire—children need their mothers, and that message should be shouted from rooftops, not whispered quietly under a blanket.
That said, I have to address Dr. Laura’s tone. Throughout the book, she speaks against career women and feminista types in an almost unbearably harsh manner. Although I didn’t particularly love this, I think you have to call into mind her purpose for writing the book. Certainly there are notable exceptions and situations where women can not and even should not stay home with their children, for whatever reason, but I don’t believe Dr. Laura wrote this book for these women. I believe she intended this book to be a source of support and validation for SAHMs, and a wake up call to women who choose not to be SAHMs specifically because they feel it would be a waste of their time and talents, or just plain boring. To those women, I say let the truth be spoken unapologetically, not to offend but to ENLIGHTEN and (hopefully) inspire—children need their mothers, and that message should be shouted from rooftops, not whispered quietly under a blanket.
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Jan 20, 2011 01:34pm
I really, really liked this. I'll be curious to read your review! I own it if you want to borrow.
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Thanks, Heather! I think I'm just gonna grab it at the library tomorrow since I have to go return some things anyway, but I appreciate the offer! I'll let you know what I think when I'm done. I've heard tons of good things about it. Hey, by the way, I don't know if you'd be interested, but I'm gonna reserve a private reptile show at the Bean Museum sometime in the next couple weeks. I'll send you an email with the info once I confirm the reservation, but just to give you a heads up!
I think where I took issue with her tone was that degrading and belittling other women is not any way to enlighten and inspire. No one, both SAHMs and all other women, benefit from belittling the women who don't stay home. Certainly the truth can be spoken unapologetically, but like you said the truth is that all women have different situations and staying at home is sometimes not ideal or possible. The truth is broad, not black and white. The ideal is perhaps black and white, but that is not possible for many. Dr. Laura was harsh and unkind, and even if the purpose of her book was to praise SAHMs, I doubt that most SAHMs (including you) want to be praised by tearing down all the women around them that don't have the same lifestyle. And in terms of persuasion, persuading is done with evidence, love, and insight, not unkindness and criticism. Just my opinion. But if you read my review you probably saw that I felt strongly about it :). I love the idea of her book, but her tone and approach really ruined it for me. That said, I'm glad you enjoyed it and of course I respect your views! :)
