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***Now that I have finished the book, this is what I can say I learned from it: If you are a woman who married a good man and you are unhappy in your marriage, you have the power to change that by treating your husband better. Instead of asking "why am I not getting what I want/need out of this marriage?" ask the question, "what more can I be giving in this relationship." Giving is the secret to getting. Dr. Laura gives a lot of concrete and simple ways to treat your husband properly. I like that she emphasizes and celebrates the differences between men and women. God made men the way they are and so who are we as women to expect them to be different, more like us? Instead, we should treat men as men and care for them in the way they need us to. Then we will receive the things we need as women to be taken care of.

"Man hating" feminists will hate this book, but in my view it is just such women that have changed marriage for the worse. I believe the feminist movement made a lot of positive changes in the world- but I also believe that things have swung so far in the other direction that at times men are ridiculed, looked down upon, hated, etc., just for being their inherently masculine selves. As Dr. Laura says, "[women] have been brought up with the notion of "unisexuality," the sadly mistaken and distructive belief that men and women have no differences...Well, the fact is men and women are different physically, psychologically, motivationally, and tempermentally." "Ultimately, the well-being of both men and women is maximized when acceptance, attention, and nurturance is given to what is innately different and special about men and women."

Now I'm going to go try and change the destructive things I've been doing in my marriage. And now that I've written a book I will go...]]>