I'll be honest, I have not finished this book. It started to drag a bit for me, but I do plan to finish it soon. In spite of the drag, it's a great book. A compelling case that reinforced my feeling that encouraging my child to be very peer-oriented is not necessarily a good thing. {Disclaimer! I was not very peer-oriented at all as a teenager so that feels very natural to me; I had friends but I don't feel I was heavily influenced by them.} There is a lot of societal pressure to have children socialized, in play groups, and getting along with their peers from a very young age but this excellent book challenges that point of view--and I think the challenge is successful. of course a child should be able to 'get along' with other children but their values need to come from their parents.