1. Master the courage to interrogate reality. (everything changes; apprehend & admit the truth)

2. Come out from behind yourself into the conversation and make it real.

3. Be here, prepared to be nowhere else. (speak as if each conversation matters in a transformative way)

4. Tackle your toughest challenge today. (name & face the problem; stay current)

5. Obey your instincts. (don't just trust them)

6. Take responsibility for your emotional wake. (the conversation is the relationship)

7. Let silence do the heavy lifting. (breathing space, insight; discover what the conversation needs to be about; words can be emptier than silence)