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The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida
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Sep 19, 2010

it was amazing
bookshelves: philosophy, psychologie, sociologie
Read from September 08 to 19, 2010

Stop hoping for a completion of anything in Life:
most men make the error of thinking that one day it will be done.
Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you've been born to do, NOW.

Live with an open heart even if it hurts

A free man is free to acknowledge his fears, without hiding them, or hiding from them.Live with your lips pressed against your fear, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.

Never change your mind just to please a woman: you should always listen to your woman, and then make your own decision.

Your purpose must come before your relationship: your mission is your priority.

Lean just beyond your edge: own your fear, and lean just beyond it, in every aspect of your life, starting now.

Do it for love:there is no essential difference between entering your woman's feminine heart and entering fully into the world. Both forms of intercourse, sexual and worldly, require sensitivity, spontaneity, and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails.

If you don't know your purpose, discover it, NOW: without a conscious life-purpose a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events. The superior man is not seeking fulfillment through work and woman, because he is already full. for him, work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts.

Be willing to change everything in your life: will experience layer after layer of purposes, each one getting closer and closer to the fullness of your deepest purpose. as you dissolve each layer and move toward the center, you will more and more be living from your deeper purposes.

Don't use your family as an excuse
Dont' get lost in tasks and duties

Stop hoping for your woman to get easier: a woman will always test her man for the pleasure of feeling his strength in loving, his capacity to transcend nuisance, his persistence in his own truth, and his capacity to share the truth in love with her, even when she is complaining, especially when she is complaining.

The truth of the feminine is whatever she is really feeling, in this present moment.

Praise your woman

Instead of tolerating your woman's moods of closure and complaint, open her moods with your skillful loving.

Don't analyze your woman: 90% of a woman's emotional problems stem from feeling unloved

Don't suggest that a woman fix her own emotional problem: one of the deepest feminine desires in intimacy is to be able to relax and surrender, knowing that her man is taking care of everything. a happy woman is a woman relaxed in her body and heart: powerful, unpredictable, deep, potentially wild and destructive, or calm and serene, but always full of life. the best way you can serve your woman is by helping her to surrender, to trust the force of love, so that she can open her heart, be the love that she is, and give this love which naturally overflows from her happiness.

Stay with her intensity, to a point. Keep your breath full. keep your body strong. keep your attention present. no matter what your woman says and does, give her love.

Don't force the feminine to make decisions: you need to play the masculine pole if you want your woman to play the feminine. always help your woman make decisions by giving her your perspective and telling her your choices, while letting her know that you love her regardless of the decision she makes.

Your attraction to the feminine is inevitable. if you feel uncomfortable with your attraction to women, you are probably uncomfortable with your own masculine essence. Any negative attitude you have about your attraction to women is a sigh of fear; somewhere along the line you learned that such attraction was bad or evil. your attraction to women, all kinds of women, is natural, normal and beautiful. in fact, it is an aspect of the same desire that will ultimately lead you toward spiritual freedom.

Chose a woman who i your complementary opposite: you will only be happy in intimacy if you choose a woman who is your sexual reciprocal as a partner. and you will only be able to survive such an intimacy if her dark and light sides are equally embraceable to you.


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