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The Reasons of Love by Harry G. Frankfurt
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May 10, 07

really liked it

This book is by the Princeton professor who wrote _On Bullshit_. Basically, he argues that we don't necessarily love things according to a logic of their extrinsic value. Rather, the things we love are valuable to us precisely *because* we love them. It sounds like a simple observation, but Frankfurt provocatively spins out its far-reaching implications, considering topics such as incommensurable loves, ambivalence, the despair of purposelessness, and self-love. _The Reasons of Love_ is the kind of philosophical treatise that exudes a vague scent of the self-help genre, but in the most delightful way possible.

I read the book last spring, and I just started re-reading it tonight. How much suffering and confusion would be avoided in this world if we only knew for certain what we love and value most...

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Tanya Hi-this sounds reall interesting. Have you ever read any Carson McCullers? We read an excerpt from the Ballof of the Sad Cafe and Other Stories in high school that was unforgettable--the short story we read compared adult love to an infant's need to masticate every object he encounters--the encounter is not about the object but about what it means to his place in the universe; it is another data point in his definition of self. It was an incredibly selfish definition of love that appears to be reflected in all of her works (though I haven't read much) always the lover is some kind of a user and the beloved is some sort of passive victim

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