So fascinating, and very empowering to those of us who are quiet, and enjoy it that way.
The author uncovers the truths and myths behind America's lovSo fascinating, and very empowering to those of us who are quiet, and enjoy it that way.
The author uncovers the truths and myths behind America's love affair with extroverted leadership by exploring the worlds of Dale Carnegie, Tony Robbins, the Harvard Business School, and the evangelical Christian world through Saddleback Church in California. There is so much pressure to be a person who is domineering and quick: quick to make decisions, quick to act, quick to speak. There are so many myths that a workforce that emphasizes collaboration, through open office plans and group brainstorming sessions, are most productive. The author exposes these myths and explains how those who are more reticent, who take time to consider decisions and make thoughtful, well-reasoned judgments have been actually more successful and productive for society. Studies and research reveals that mmany of the most creative thinkers of our day, and the most highly skilled inventors and musicians, needed time alone to process, practice, dream, and build. Being alone, and quietly thinking, builds not only focus, but patience to keep trying and working and refining until you get something right, whether it's designing the world's first computer, playing chess, or being an incredible musician.
Introversion gets such a bad rap. It doesn't mean you don't like people. It means you get energy--you refuel--by being by yourself for a while. That is NOT a bad thing at all!
I really liked how she ended the book with ways parents of introverts can encourage their children to be open to experience many things, but also empower them to choose what they will try and what they will not. Such good advice and examples.
I wish I'd had this book when I was young, and when my children were young. It's GOOD to be thoughtful! Take your time and don't let yourself be rushed into making a snap decision. Oftentimes, those who do make those quick, "confident" decisions, are WRONG.
P.S. Her description of attending a Tony Robbins seminar, packed with "true-believers," was a hoot. That man has a cult following of people who are only too happy to shell out tens of thousands of dollars to buy his products and sit closest to the stage during his seminars. Fascinating, but rather scary! ...more
At first I was enthralled by the plot. But about 23 halfway through, I couldn't wait for it to be over. It was such a dark situation, and the book kepAt first I was enthralled by the plot. But about 23 halfway through, I couldn't wait for it to be over. It was such a dark situation, and the book kept going over and over and OVER Rachel's horrible alcoholism, her pitiful life, and her hopeless obsession with her ex-husband. I was so ready for a change of scene; it was almost suffocatingly dreary. Then, at last, there are finally some clues to where you can guess the murderer's identity. Finally, blessedly but ridiculously, the end comes. I was so relieved to be done with it. All I can say is, this has Lifetime movie written all over it I would have liked to have given this 2 1/2 stars, but gave it 3 because the book did pull me in and made me want to finish; but the ending was very over-the-top, sensational, and unconvincing. I guess I am in the minority about this, but that's okay with me!...more
Witty, entertaining, intelligent--this was a very good audio book. Rob, a scared Midwestern child of divorced parents, had a passion for acting that hWitty, entertaining, intelligent--this was a very good audio book. Rob, a scared Midwestern child of divorced parents, had a passion for acting that helped him find his footing in the hedonistic, no-parental-supervision culture of 1970s Malibu. I never knew much about him before, but it comes across immediately that he is a very articulate, talented, and driven guy; I can't recall him saying he ever took an acting class, which is pretty impressive. He was extremely candid about his poor decisions and his people-pleasing inability to say "no" in his 20s. His eventual realization that he was an alcoholic, and his courage to face and beat that demon, was admirable. I also am impressed he is still married to the love of his life and that they have been stable parents for their two sons. Bravo, Rob; way to figure out how to maintain a sane personal life amid the instability of the entertainment world. p.s. I read some reviews from some people who wish he had "dished more dirt". I disagree and am glad he did not. He was candid, yet still classy. I also like that he says this book was "a love letter to his wife." ...more
If your book club is looking for a book to discuss, this is a great one.
It's not a happy, light-hearted read; instead, it's about the choices peopleIf your book club is looking for a book to discuss, this is a great one.
It's not a happy, light-hearted read; instead, it's about the choices people make, and the results of those choices. It was beautifully written and engrossing, with characters who had very real histories and personalities.
One of the best quotes from the book comes from a minor but very memorable character, Frank, the victim of much injustice.
He said, “You only have to forgive once. To resent, you have to do it all day, every day. You have to keep remembering all the bad things.”
What a great treasure to keep from this book.
Like I said, it wasn't a happy-go-lucky story, but very thought-provoking and was well worth it....more
I absolutely loved "Me Before You", so I was very excited to read more by JoJo Moyes. Unfortunately, One Plus One was not nearly as appealing to me. II absolutely loved "Me Before You", so I was very excited to read more by JoJo Moyes. Unfortunately, One Plus One was not nearly as appealing to me. It was SUCH a downer--just a continual pile-up of bad events happening, one after the other after the other, to this poor family. I actually skipped several chapters. I know Moyes uses humor to soften situations, but for some reason the humor in this book seemed very sparse. It was worth a listen, but it was not of the caliber of "Me Before You', in my opinion. I did like the characters. I also liked the ending; it just was such a long, dreary haul to get there.
This was definitely an above-average famous-person memoir. Her personality is so engaging, and she is a great storyteller. I so appreciate her being pThis was definitely an above-average famous-person memoir. Her personality is so engaging, and she is a great storyteller. I so appreciate her being proud of her Christian faith in the show-biz world; I also admire her deep love for her adoptive parents. Also, her honesty about the hectic, nomadic lifestyle of an entertainer, and how it is simultaneously fulfilling while wreaking havoc on personal relationships, gave me insight into a lifestyle I certainly will never experience. I listened to it on audio CD; hearing her voice made it even better....more