I first got involved in this book because my stepmother, Lise Menn, is one of the editors and contributing poets. I was supportive and admiring--- butI first got involved in this book because my stepmother, Lise Menn, is one of the editors and contributing poets. I was supportive and admiring--- but I had no idea what I was in for.
I realized that NO ONE has written a book like this before. The widow experience today is still taboo. You are supposed to be old, pious, stoic after initial tears, two-dimensional, heterosexual, (but not particularly sexual)--- and stick to your knitting. Well, screw that!
I have never lost a long-time partner. It is different from the loss of a parent. You are not the child. You are the lover, the confidante, the peer like none other.
Had I ever considered myself among their circle, considered this particular intimacy with mortality? Well... I do now. At 56, my age today, it’s right on time.
For those of you wondering about the caliber of the work, it collction features some of our best women poets working in the English language today: Mary Oliver, Tess Gallagher, Maxine Kumin, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, (!) Sandra Gilbert, Regina Murray Brault, Ann Cefola, Patricia Fargnoli, Jane Hayman, Laura Manuelidus, Ann McGovern, Ellen Steinbaum, Phyllis Wax... and many women I’d never heard of before, but am now in awe of.
I knew this book was a labor of love, and loss, but I didn’t realize what a nerve it would strike. It has been on bestselling poetry, inspiration, readers lists since it came out. I work in publishing, and it just makes you realize: THIS is not going to stay under the covers anymore. I am so proud of all of them. ...more
Fantastic. I'm torn between heartbroken I'm about to get to end, and desperate to crack the mystery. And there's more than one, of course. Sean Duffy,Fantastic. I'm torn between heartbroken I'm about to get to end, and desperate to crack the mystery. And there's more than one, of course. Sean Duffy, we need you every day....more