I am particularly impressed by her suggestions and advice to introverts about how to move around in the wo...moreWow, incredible book.
Just... so... spot on.
I am particularly impressed by her suggestions and advice to introverts about how to move around in the world,including how to both improve their own intellectual and social lives, and their roles in the lives of the extroverts they love (or just those they want to get along with). So many self-helpish/psychology text present their concepts but with little concrete advice as to how to deal with differing responses to the world; Cain definitely follows through. I will be keeping my copy on the shelf for continued reference. (less)
I started this with some skepticism because it centers a lot around business habits, and I couldn't see how that cou...moreBoth fascinating and frightening.
I started this with some skepticism because it centers a lot around business habits, and I couldn't see how that could help me out with my personal habits. Although I still wish he'd included a bit more help with personal, I was was surprised at how much our business habits (both in our own worksphere and also how we interact with companies when we buy products) are both connected to and influence our personal habits. Being aware of how we respond to marketing illuminates how we can move through our days, blithely unaware of how our actions form and sustain both good and bad habits.
I am definitely walking away with some ideas and inspirations of how to alter my own personal daily habits. Although Duhigg focuses a lot on how to replace a bad habit with a good habit, I'm left a little bit uncertain as to how to simply form a good habit. He frequently illustrates how habits are formed but sometimes falls short of concrete ways to implement these ideas. Perhaps this this process is a bit less concrete than I hope for; perhaps I need to read the book again to better instill the concepts. I'm not saying I don't have at least one bad habit I'd like to change but I honestly have at least a couple more good habits I'd like to form. Thinking about it, I'm sure it's possible to do this transformation process of replacing a bad with a good, but sometimes these actions are disparate or incompatible with one another (or there's an unequal number with which to work).
In any case, Duhigg's examination of our psychological process while forming or discarding habits is illuminating and helpful.
I wanted so badly to like this more than I did. I pre-ordered this book on my Kindle long before it seemed anyone else - let alone Oprah - knew about...moreI wanted so badly to like this more than I did. I pre-ordered this book on my Kindle long before it seemed anyone else - let alone Oprah - knew about it. For the first several months after the release, however, I didn't get to it because I was in my final months of finishing school.
But after that it took me several months to read it primarily because I just felt so disengaged and cold towards Strayed. I thought it was all here for me - a grieving woman (been there) traveling alone (been there), and using the opportunity to face down her demons and help herself recover? Sounded absolutely like my type of narrative.
My primary hesitation throughout the story was just simply that I could not empathize with Strayed's responses to her circumstances. Although throughout the book she states that she blamed herself and took responsibility for all of the destructive things that she did, to both herself and the people around her, ultimately, the core of the message was that she excused her behavior as a response to her mother's death. I'm just not sure I can can fully buy this. I am inclined to believe she might have done these things anyway, and just scapegoated her mother's death.
I know Strayed was young when her mother died young, but she wasn't that young; she was in her mid-twenties, and that also felt strange. She blamed her stepfather for becoming distant after her mother's death, and also blamed him for an incident for which she, as an adult woman who was raised by her mother to be strong, could have taken responsibility but apparently believed that he should have. Early in the book, she essentially says that her stepfather abandoned her to the life of an orphan, and at first I felt for her, and then I realized she was an adult, not a minor, and what was her stepfather supposed to do? Set up a shrine to her mother and never have a relationship again? I do agree that (view spoiler)[moving his new wife into the home apparently still shared with the (adult) children of his deceased wife was asking for a lot from them. (hide spoiler)]
And, to address a running theme throughout the book that just made my skin crawl every time it happened, I could not relate to the concept of wanting to have sex with a man within the first few minutes of meeting him. Wait. Scratch that. I can, actually, relate to wanting to have sex with a man shortly after meeting him. A man. Not almost every single damn man I meet. She did refrain from wanting to have sex with (view spoiler)[the man intent on raping her, but not with the creepy stranger who groped her in the back seat of the car in which she was hitchhiking... instead, she wanted him to do it again. (hide spoiler)] I really, really don't think I'm being prudish here. Really. My response to these scenes had less to do with sexual concerns and more to do with a claim to be trying to be less self-destructive and not seeing these actions as exactly that.
So, yes, the indiscretions of youth, and the sometimes insanity of grief. Still not enough for me to relate to so much of this journey. I would still recommend this book, with some hesitation, as perhaps her experiences can be more easily sympathetic to the right person, and some of her insights are beautiful, the writing eloquent. ["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>(less)
Except that I couldn't manage to finish it as she did.
huh. I listened to a couple NPR interviews with Davis and they made me very excited to read this book. This information he provides is really quite interesting but it still draaaaaaags. I was listening to it on audiobook and got through three discs, of which I had to keep reminding myself, "Oh, yes, I'm listening to an audiobook" and actively tuning back in.
Giving up for now. Perhaps I just need to be in a different mindset; I may return and try it again another time.
Despite the size of this book (a smaller hardback just brushing 300 pages) and despite my earnest attempt to devote time to it (as necessitated by rea...moreDespite the size of this book (a smaller hardback just brushing 300 pages) and despite my earnest attempt to devote time to it (as necessitated by reading it for a final project for math class), it seemed to take forever to get through it. And I cheated.
I found this a frustrating narrative. I was enthralled by the personal and professional details regarding Leonardo but skimmed through pages of math far beyond my comprehension. I don't pretend to be anywhere near competent in math but I've discovered in this class that, given time and a good teacher, I can understand concepts pretty well. This book seems to market itself (and is categorized in the library) primarily as biographical, then art, then science. This made me approach it feeling like, sure, there's going to be some math in here and I'm going to have to deal with that but sort of assumed (to my fault) that given the apparent mainstream targeting that it would be at least comprehensible. About a quarter of the way through, despite reading examples multiples times in an attempt to understand them, I began to believe that even my mathematically and scientifically minded friends would have some difficulty following it. This made it more difficult to understand the general concept of the golden ratio and at about page 200, I put the book down, went to Wikipedia, and understood the whole concept better just by reading the first paragraph on that page.
Also, it feels really cobbled together. For the second half, I skimmed through it, looking for the pertinent parts I needed for my project and details about Leonardo, which I always find fascinating. I get the sense that the author is a great artist and a great scientist and probably even a very good writer but the book seemed like he worked on different parts of the whole - concepts and historical aspects linked to both Leonardo and the golden ratio - but then just kind of them threw them together instead of forming a more comprehensive narrative. I found myself reading things towards the end about which I kept thinking, "Well, why didn't he explain that earlier?"
I think dumbed down a bit for a more general audience and with a better editor for the general map of the book, this book would have found a wider audience. If I had picked it up for the Leonardo aspect alone as pleasure reading and not for primarily a school project, I would have abandoned it far earlier. As it was, I still couldn't bring myself to read the whole second half. I'm glad the book was written; I love reading books that combine two of my pleasures - art and science - it just feels like it could have been better executed. (less)