Considering that my reading was introduced via her autobiography (which I loved), friends that favour her work, and her literary status, I think the u...moreConsidering that my reading was introduced via her autobiography (which I loved), friends that favour her work, and her literary status, I think the unveiling of this novel may have been doomed to disappoint. I mean, I liked it. I just didn't love it.
I also found the interludes of myths somewhat tedious, and begin quickly skimming them towards the end. (less)
I read this for a book club and enjoyed her descriptions (and often snarky) of Vancouver and it's neighbourhoods.
Basran's writing is meticulously det...moreI read this for a book club and enjoyed her descriptions (and often snarky) of Vancouver and it's neighbourhoods.
Basran's writing is meticulously detailed, which felt a bit mundane throughout the first quarter of the book. The emotional depth felt authentic throughout, despite some over-the-top plot points. (less)
A. selected this as part of our "twenty-something/twenty-nothing career/personal development book club." Yes, we're that cool.
The most fascinating pa...moreA. selected this as part of our "twenty-something/twenty-nothing career/personal development book club." Yes, we're that cool.
The most fascinating part of this book was that the author had an affair with a man twenty-five years her senior, and the time I spent googling and thinking, "really?". This really isn't the topic of the book, but merely a branch from which I pursued my own nosy, entertainment-weekly interests.
Now for the book:
10-10-10 makes a far better article/column than a book. To save you the time and energy, here is the general idea. When making decisions, consider the consequences that will occur 10 minutes from now (immediate future), 10 months from now (short-term future), and 10 years from now (long-term future). Everyone's 10-10-10 is different because we each prioritize a unique set of values, and spending time attempting to figure out or understand those values is very important for guiding your decision making. This edition contains the Proust questionnaire and a questionnaire Welch created to help you hone in on what your values may be. The advice is relatively good common sense, yet it provides a useful tool for structuring decision making when most of act of 'feelings' or gut impulses.
The rest of the book is anecdotes as to how the author and other people used 10-10-10 to make important decisions in their life for work, love, parenting, etc. I didn't find many of the stories relateable, but I'm probably not the target demographic for this book. Also, I didn't find Welch and some of her personal opininons very relateable (which is odd because I usually hold an unquestioning idolization of any female that finds great success as a writer.)
All this being said, I gave this book two stars because I have used this idea when I was confronted with a new career opportunity, and I think it has made me a bit more confident in my decision-making. (less)
I recommend this book to all my twenty-something friends and family, not necessarily as a twenty-something bible but more a thought-provoking conversa...moreI recommend this book to all my twenty-something friends and family, not necessarily as a twenty-something bible but more a thought-provoking conversation piece. I flew through the book on first read, put it down for a few days, and picked it up and read it again.
Jay's book is filled with case studies of other twenty-somethings, and I found all of them to be very relatable in one way or another. I also had friends call me after, yelling "that's me!" in response to one chapter or another. My own dilemma is indecisiveness, and this passage really resonated with me:
"By starting a career, he imagined he was agreeing to decades of the status quo. Saying yes to one concrete thing felt like saying no to an interesting or limitless life. In fact, it's the other way around. If Ian didn't say yes to something, his life was going to become unremarkable and limited."
The book seems to be very polarizing because it's really a no bull-shit look at how your twenties set the stage for adulthood. Jay works against the idea that thirty is the new twenty, and argues that concerns about love, work, health, family etc. can't be put off until thirty, when shit gets real essentially.
My main critique with the book are as follows:
Everyone's path in life is so truly unique that I don't feel comfortable measuring the potential happiness of myself or others with how proactive we are/were in our twenties. I actually wouldn't recommend this book to my thirty-year old friends because it just seems depressing and harsh. For example, she says thirty-something's will never be able to "catch up" to friends that started in their twenties. I don't think that everyone who didn't use their potential in their twenties is necessarily destined to become a depressed alcoholic in their thirties, or forties. The book nods to the economic downturn, but seems to assume that most underemployed twenties are choosing not to enter careers instead of actually not having the opportunities available to start one.
Overall, though, I still recommend this book and learned a lot of useful information. (less)