When I first started seeing ads promoting this book it was really the subtitle "Women, Work and the Will to Lead" that grabbed me. I looked around the...moreWhen I first started seeing ads promoting this book it was really the subtitle "Women, Work and the Will to Lead" that grabbed me. I looked around the Internet and found Sandberg's TEDTalk which raised some interesting issues but it didn't leave me bowled over like a lot of other people. Having seen some phenomenal TEDTalks in the past I figured hers would be on par. Well the ideas were but the delivery didn't make me go "wow" --but it did make me get the book and good thing I did because it definitely made me go "wow" and more than once.
The book is very well-written and everything she says that could be questioned is backed up by proof with succinct and easy to follow endnotes so she's not just throwing around grand ideas she's actually gathered ideas from far and wide and brought them together in a concise and very thought provoking way without sounding condescending or ivory tower like. She comes across as a regular smart woman who has the same concerns and worries as other women and mothers which was what I found made the book a very accessible and interesting read. She didn't come across as the COO of Facebook that you would imagine to be a slave to her job, has tons of cash so it's easy to say "be more involved in your work" because someone else is looking after your kids at home. She was a normal woman with normal fears, career setbacks, mishaps and OMG I am a spaz stories and that in itself was wow for me.
Her main message is that often women don't get fully involved (lean in) enough when they choose to do something out of fear of not being liked or coming off as too smart or thinking that they can't really do it instead of just trying or winging it plus a myriad of other reasons. It's a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation. She gives examples from her life and other successful women's lives that if you really give it your all you can succeed and happily too. Her three main questions were basically:
*Why aren't you leaning in? *Why aren't you sitting more at the table instead off at the side? *What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Now this sounds a bit too "rah rah rah come on girls we can do it" but it's not at all like that. The questions in context ring very true. When I first read those few lines I thought "whatever" but she gives example after example of why women don't do enough of these things and that it has to stop because everyone would benefit and she clearly shows how for all walks of life. You might want to get to the top at work or maybe as a volunteer in your community or maybe at home and you can without feeling guilty. She makes a good case about how the women's movement of the 60s was supposed to give women choice not guilt which is what several women feel when they stay home to raise their children or go out to work.
This is far from the kind of book I'd ever think to read but I'm very glad I did because it really encourages you to get up and give it a shot when really you have nothing to lose and that's something that both women and men can benefit from. The ending especially was excellent and had me tear up for how you feel like she's really speaking to the reader and says come on and just try and you can start by something as simple as leaning in wherever you are.
Sheryl Sandberg is definitely a fresh and strong voice for women and men together. It's win win all around the way she tells it and if anything you go away from the book thinking hey maybe I can --and while I'm at it let me go tell my friend because I know she can too and my other friend because he needs a new perspective too and suddenly you have a whole new movement. It's very "wow" the way something so simple can be so powerful and profound. (less)
The only thing I found funny about this book is the title. If you like 16 year old boy humor or Maxim magazine's style of humor then odds are you'll l...moreThe only thing I found funny about this book is the title. If you like 16 year old boy humor or Maxim magazine's style of humor then odds are you'll love this book. The writing style and presentation of a brief story or anecdote followed by a few quotes from the very abrasive dad are well-done but I just didn't find the content funny for the most part. The dad sounds like a horrible parent with his f- this and f- that to his kids and he comes across like a mean and miserly curmudgeon. I didn't get the ending either so it was an even bigger let-down. To me this book is a good example of media hype and not much more. (less)
Good overall but the Chicken Soup novel he co-authored on the subject is much better and has more "meat" to it. Too many quotes in this one, sometimes...moreGood overall but the Chicken Soup novel he co-authored on the subject is much better and has more "meat" to it. Too many quotes in this one, sometimes has an airy-fairy feel. (less)
A really good romance and overall story. Even the side stories, that have nothing to do with the romance or introducing new characters, were well-done...moreA really good romance and overall story. Even the side stories, that have nothing to do with the romance or introducing new characters, were well-done without feeling like they were taking away from the romance.
The Texas twang and expressions were laugh out loud hilarious. It had a small town homey feel like Bon Temps in the show True Blood where everybody knows everybody. The set-up of the story reminded me of Julia Quinn's Bridgertons series in that the stories appear to be light and funny but there's some major drama that gives real meat to the novel.
The steam is well-done and it was never a sex with no story scene as some contemporaries can be. There are some parts where you just cry and cry and that's saying something if you normally don't cry when you read. These scenes could have easily turned into a seen-it-all-before-sap-city thing but they were very well-written so that never happened.
Having read a few of Gibson's other books (including the fan fave "See Jane Score"), the writing always seemed average, nothing special but here the story is tighter and the humor flows better.
For someone who's not a fan of straight up contemporaries this was a nice surprise.(less)
Nothing connects in this story. It's like "A Day in the Life" and it's painfully boring. The father is a horrible person and the mother isn't that muc...moreNothing connects in this story. It's like "A Day in the Life" and it's painfully boring. The father is a horrible person and the mother isn't that much better. The little boy tries to get some attention but is basically treated like trash at every turn and you don't know why. Then there's a Mexican guy who appears --and disappears and then the grandfather --no idea what these people are doing in the novel. And what about the red pony? Well that story is over and done with in about the first 5 pages. The ending makes no sense at all and I thought I might have had an abridged copy but nope, that was it. This is one of those novels where you're scratching your heading going "what the ???". I can't believe they make/made kids read this in school. This is a great way to turn them off reading forever :-/ A complete waste of time. (less)
I’ve read this book by Sandra Hill countless times already only with a different title and characters :-/ It’s so superficial, filled with bad romance...moreI’ve read this book by Sandra Hill countless times already only with a different title and characters :-/ It’s so superficial, filled with bad romance novel stereotypes and now that she’s venturing into light erotica it’s also dumb with just plain bad writing.
I had high hopes for this book because the (misleading) back blurb sounded good. Well the “strong” SEAL/WEAL trainee heroine turns into a weakling who never once tries to take down the oafish Viking hero who appears to be suffering from depression. The author sets up the heroine to be this independent minded, physically strong character only to have her mind turn to mush when faced with the hero. The heroine has moments where she gets all in his face but she backs down or pouts most of the time. Of course there's also her love for the small children of the clan (how sickly sweet) and she turns into a court jester practically with her trying to loosen things up --typical time travel nonsense. The so-called banter/arguing is laughable with an outdated/old-fashioned contemporary language (feels very 80s) and the steam is either icky or just plain eye-rolling/stupid. There is no depth whatsoever to the characters, the humor is mostly 14 year old boy toilet humor and the writing just feels like she had to slap out a book fast.
This was a total waste of time. The series is actually continuing, though who knows why. If it’s to repeat what’s already been done then just end it and move on. Hill seems to have turned into a has been author who now just takes out the cookie cutter à la Connie Mason boring the reader to tears. (less)