I found it fairly parallel to Mormon feminist essays, but with the Evangelical Christian slant. On some levels it's like "Dance of the Dissident Daugh...moreI found it fairly parallel to Mormon feminist essays, but with the Evangelical Christian slant. On some levels it's like "Dance of the Dissident Daughter," but 2 decades later. And it doesn't go quite as deep as Sue Monk Kidd's does. Probably a good intro to feminist Christian thoughts, but nothing new to anyone who has been in those waters for a few years.(less)
It was ok. Fast and easy to read. I think it required me to suspend reality a little too much. I'm trying to put my finger on...moreApril 2014 RS book group
It was ok. Fast and easy to read. I think it required me to suspend reality a little too much. I'm trying to put my finger on why it didn't work for me.
It's obvious that the middle aged women becoming invisible concept is literal here, and I think I could do with that, but the extension that what was causing it was drug interactions probably should have been brought in sooner. It didn't get mentioned until many chapters in. It's like the first few chapters wanted to play with the invisible metaphor, but the author needed a "plausible" reason for it, so she just threw in the medication aspect.
And even that I could go with, but no one really noticing all these *literally* invisible women walking around in floating clothes? Yeah, I can't suspend reality to make both of these stretches for the same book.
Once they introduced the drug thing, I figured, "Oh here, the plot will speed up!" But then they go back to the invisibility metaphor and finding yourself and personal development and at the very end bring in a rush of pharmaceutical company stuff to wrap it all up.
So maybe my issue is pacing? I think that the pharmaceutical inquiry could have been written up with more twists and turns and been a much bigger part of the book. Very rushed at the end, large plot points ignored until too far into the book. But hey, a quick read.(less)
Thoughts before book group: I liked it a lot. Easy to read. I felt some of the narratives cut off early at the end of the chapt...moreMarch 2014 RS book group
Thoughts before book group: I liked it a lot. Easy to read. I felt some of the narratives cut off early at the end of the chapters and then jumped elsewhere, but I guess that's just the style of this book. I really liked reading about his drive and dedication to his work and becoming a chef. Found that admirable.
I did feel for the mother of his child. He keeps on going because having a child in his life would hurt his career and there is no thought about her own career. But I guess that's patriarchy for you.
After book group: A lot of the women thought he sacrificed family and relationships for his career (which he did) and didn't find at as admirable as I was thinking it was. A couple of comments on how he didn't call his mom often and missed funerals. On both of those points, I'm probably guilty, so I wasn't going to judge him for that. I rarely call my mom and if she wants to talk to me, she calls me and that's usually about 1-2 times a month. But I think that's just our family culture and who says that's not Marcus' family culture, too? I think I saw my cousins less than 5 times as I was growing up, and my grandparents just a couple of times. And when I was a freshman in college and called my parents weekly (for the first few weeks of my first semester), my dad would mention that I was acting homesick, so I stopped. So yeah... phone calls: not that big of a deal. And my husband who has a big family who sees each other at least once a year doesn't ever call his parents either except for birthdays and holidays.
So, yeah. I admired his career focus but I guess others thought it was a bit extreme. I think it's fascinating to learn how others build their careers. (less)