Considering the subtitle "Harness Your Body's Energies for Your Best Life", I had expected a book that would deal more with having energy - i.e., theConsidering the subtitle "Harness Your Body's Energies for Your Best Life", I had expected a book that would deal more with having energy - i.e., the opposite of fatigue. In that respect, Body Intelligence disappointed. It was however, an interesting look at how our surroundings, thoughts, attitude, habits etc. can affect us throughout the course of our day - and how we can change these things to achieve our desired results. However, if you are fairly well-versed when it comes to health, positive thinking and basic nutrition, there probably won't be much for you here. If on the other hand you are new to these topics, I would definitely recommend it.
*I received a free advance copy through Netgalley, in exchange for an honest review.*...more
One of the best books I have read in a while. Lily Bart, our protagonist, is heart-breaking in her attempt to be true to herself, yet yearning for a pOne of the best books I have read in a while. Lily Bart, our protagonist, is heart-breaking in her attempt to be true to herself, yet yearning for a place in a society that is obsessed with status and has no room for those who do not conform. ...more
I listened to the Podiobook version for free. There were bits of it that I really liked - especially in the first half, and then there were bits thatI listened to the Podiobook version for free. There were bits of it that I really liked - especially in the first half, and then there were bits that I couldn't disagree more with. Thought-provoking either way....more
May is the woman behind BrocanteHome, and this book is a wonderful collection of her inspirational and thought-provoking essays on how to turn your hoMay is the woman behind BrocanteHome, and this book is a wonderful collection of her inspirational and thought-provoking essays on how to turn your home into your perfect nest. ...more
While I disagreed with Dr Amen on some of his interpretations of the differences between the male and female mind, this was overall a book well worthWhile I disagreed with Dr Amen on some of his interpretations of the differences between the male and female mind, this was overall a book well worth reading. Dr Amen goes over the importance of treating your brain with the respect it deserves and keeping it healthy through nutrition, exercise, mindfulness, psychology, etc. and I would highly recommend it to anyone interested in keeping their brain healthy into old age. ...more
While I'm not a Buddhist (more of an Atheist), and you don't have to be to learn from Bernhard's valuable experience.
"You are going to be okay," in these circumstances, means "Things are uncomfortable now, but you will get well. You will be better." But it doesn't always happen that way. This is a book for people who will not be their old self again and for all those for whom, at least now, getting better isn't possible. This is a book that most reassuringly says even to those people, "You, too, are going to be okay - even if you never recover your health!"
How to Be Sick is "how to live a life of equanimity and joy despite my physical and energetic limitations." The book and the practices contained therein are easy to read and understand, although I did have to read it over a period of time. The reason for this was both to take the time to absorb the information, but even more so for me to accept that I needed to know these things.
While the tools would indeed be useful to anyone - sick or not - as someone who has only in the past year become seriously sick, it is at times difficult to read about other people, who are also chronically ill. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, and yet I am so incredibly grateful to learn from the experience of others who have had to deal with chronic illness. And while I still have hope that I'll find a way to get (somewhat) better, I also have to accept the reality of this moment.
You can argue with the way things are. You'll lose, but only 100% of the time. - Byron Katie
It's just so hard to, first, truly recognize that you're chronically ill and, second, to accept that this illness is going to require you to change your plans for life in ways you never imagined, not the least of which is giving up the profession you loved and worked so hard to build.
However, I also found great hope, that even during extremely difficult circumstances, it is possible to find meaning and purpose in life, which I truly believe that Toni Bernhard has. I am so incredibly grateful for her work, both in her book(s), and in her writings for Psychology Today.
How to Be Sick is both a great introduction to Buddhist concepts (that I think are thought-provoking whatever your beliefs) one of my favourite concepts are the four brahma viharas, frequently translated as the four sublime states:
Metta - loving-kindness; wishing well to others and to ourselves Karuna - compassion; reaching out to those who are suffering, including ourselves Mudita - sympathetic joy; joy in the joy of others Upekkha - equanimity; a mind that is at peace in all circumstances
I felt a special connection to the concept of metta, which is not just compassion or loving-kindness for others - but also for ourselves and our bodies in illness:
Using metta phrases can also become a powerful forgiveness practice. I might repeat to myself, "Be peaceful, sweet body, working so hard to support me." When I repeat a phrase with that sentiment, I'm also forgiving myself for getting sick. It's not my body's fault that I'm sick. It's doing the best job it can to support my life.
Karuna, or compassion, is equally important. Having compassion for yourself and your sickness:
I blamed myself for not recovering from the initial viral infection - as if not regaining my health was my fault, a failure of will, somehow, or a deficit of character. This is a common reaction for people to have toward their illness. It's not surprising, given that our culture tends to treat chronic illness as some kind of personal failure on the part of the afflicted - the bias is often implicit or unconscious, but it is nonetheless palpable.
At the back of the book is an excellent guide covering specific challenges, and which practices from the book might be most useful.
Leo Babauta has this wonderful habit of giving gifts every year on his birthday, The One Skill was his birthday present last year. I highly recommendLeo Babauta has this wonderful habit of giving gifts every year on his birthday, The One Skill was his birthday present last year. I highly recommend downloading it! It's a beautiful primer on happiness, minimalism and how to let go of what is non-essential in life....more
I was late to the party, but like most other people I really enjoyed reading about the KonMari method. Yes, you do have to take certain parts of the bI was late to the party, but like most other people I really enjoyed reading about the KonMari method. Yes, you do have to take certain parts of the book with a grain of salt, but it is incredibly thought-provoking and inspirational. Highly recommended. ...more
Storytellerby Jodi Picoult - like all of her brilliant novels - tangle with the more difficult questions. Who's got the right to forgive? Can murder eStoryteller by Jodi Picoult - like all of her brilliant novels - tangle with the more difficult questions. Who's got the right to forgive? Can murder ever be justice? Or mercy?
You will ask me, after this, why I didn't tell you this before. It is because I know how powerful a story can be. It can change the course of history. It can save a life. But it can also be a sink-hole, a quicksand in which you become stuck, unable to write yourself free. You would think bearing witness to something like this would make a difference, and yet this isn't so. In the newspapers I have read about history repeating itself in Cambodia. Rwanda. Sudan. Truth is so much harder than fiction. Some survivors want to speak only of what happened. They go to schools and museums and temples and give talks. It's the way they can make sense of it, I suppose. I've heard them say they feel it is their responsibility, maybe even the reason they lived. My husband - your grandfather - used to say, Minka, you were a writer. Imagine the story you could tell. But it is exactly because I was a writer that I could never do it. The weapons an author has at her disposal are flawed. There are words that feel shapeless and overused. Love, for example. I could write the word love a thousand times and it would mean a thousand different things to different readers. What is the point of trying to put down on paper emotions that are too complex, too huge, too overwhelming to be confined by an alphabet? Love isn't the only word that fails. Hate does, too. War. And hope. Oh, yes, hope. So you see, this is why I never told my story. If you lived through it, you already know there are no words that will ever come close to describing it. And if you didn't, you will never understand.
It's the story of a small-town baker hiding from the world, until she strikes up a friendship with a man old enough to be her grandfather - with a story of evil he's kept a secret for most of his life. How do ordinary people end up able to commit horrific crimes?
Did I know this brutality was wrong? Even that first time, when my brother was the victim? I have asked myself a thousand times, and the answer is always the same: of course. That day was the hardest, because I could have said no. Every time after that, it became easier, because if I didn't do it again, I would be reminded of that first time I did not say no. Repeat the same action over and over again, and eventually it will feel right. Eventually, there isn't even any guilt. What I mean to tell you, now, is that the same truth holds. This could be you, too. You think never. You think, not I. But at any given moment, we are capable of doing what we least expect. I always knew what I was doing, and to whom I was doing it. I knew, very well. Because in those terrible, wonderful moments, I was the person everyone wanted to be.
I don't want to give too many details away, suffice it to say that Picoult is as thought-provoking as ever. She's a master at pulling at your heart-strings while making it completely impossible to continue to see the world in black and white - which is why she's one of my favourite writers. ...more
Lately I've been digging deeper into health looking beyond just diet, and instead embracing the importance of all aspects of our lifestyle. The PrimalLately I've been digging deeper into health looking beyond just diet, and instead embracing the importance of all aspects of our lifestyle. The Primal Connection: Follow Your Genetic Blueprint to Health and Happiness by Mark Sisson is the best guide I've found so far to get started on this. While there's still plenty of things to dig further into, it's an excellent primer on a wealth of topics, such as:
Nature + Wilderness
I'm talking about a life of physical challenge but ample leisure. I'm talking about living by the natural ebb and flow of light and darkness, season to season. I'm talking about living in smaller groups. I'm talking about play and creativity and getting dirt under our fingernails - a life of the raw senses and an overlapping of the self and the natural environment.
Not all of the suggestions might work right now, but there are plenty that help you bring these aspects into your life in little bits and pieces and I love knowing what I can work towards going forward.
I've noticed for a while that taking plenty of time for sleep, spending time in nature and generally slowing down is incredibly important for both my mental and physical health and well-being. The Primal Connection has helped me look at more ways to get these things into my day-to-day life, as well as pointing out other important areas such as playing with dirt - and playing in general. I highly recommend it!
How do you make sure to make time for sleep, play, nature in your life? Have you noticed these things making a difference?
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Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourselfby Lissa Rankin, M.D., is a difficult one for me. On one hand I am a skeptic at heart aMind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself by Lissa Rankin, M.D., is a difficult one for me. On one hand I am a skeptic at heart and I tend to question most things in life – whether that be religion, work, lifestyle and health. As an example I am gluten free, even though I am not (to my knowledge) Celiac. And you know, gluten free is all a fad… Although my decision came after reading about an Italian study that showed 75% of women with Endometriosis do better on a gluten free diet, you could easily - from a skeptical perspective - pick it apart: It wasn't a double-blind study, there was no control that people really stayed gluten free, etc. But I decided that it was a good enough reason for me to give gluten free a proper chance. After I reached my initial goal of 3 months I already felt much better, and since then I have halved my consumption of pain killers. Which is anecdotal evidence, and therefore counts for practically nothing in most skeptical communities.
Furthermore, I know that I do much better when I follow a primal/paleo diet and cut out all grains, legumes, processed/refined sugar and most dairy. I always stay gluten free, but I can tell you when I eat processed food (including processed gluten free foods) and particularly anything rich in sugar, my body reacts. Strongly. Again, this is anecdotal evidence and even though I could link you to hundreds and probably thousands of blog posts from people who are paleo/primal and where these lifestyle changes have improved their health and wellness, it is still “just” anecdotal evidence. Or worse, “all in our head”, a statement which I am particularly sensitive to as I have had several doctors tell me that my period pains were “all in my head” and that I just needed to get over myself. This happened for years until I finally saw an OB/GYN specialized in Endometriosis who straight away recognized my symptoms and had me booked in for a laparoscopy (the only way to diagnose Endometriosis). Turns out, it was not all in my head.
With that being said, I do think our head and our mind can play a massive role on our health, wellness and recovery. We know that our mind can play a huge effect on our body, so that we might get better when given a sugar pill as long as we believe it is the real medicine, aka the placebo effect. Similarly we might experience side effects from medicine – even if we have received no real medicine – this is also known as the nocebo effect. It is a fine line though, I don’t believe in “the law of attraction” – that it is out “fault” if we become ill, but I do think our mind can play a huge role in our getting better. What I don’t understand is how often the conventional medical community will completely disregard the placebo effect as a useful tool in helping people to heal. At the end of the day, if I halved my pain from going gluten free I don’t really care if it’s the placebo effect – I care about how I feel and my health.
While I did not agree with everything that Lissa writes in Mind Over Medicine, I thought it was very thought-provoking and a great read to start thinking about these issues. I really loved her own journey from a more “standard” medical approach, to beginning to look at the role that our mind plays in our health. Her dedication to her dad (who was also a very skeptical doctor) was very heart-warming:
I hugged Mom and mused about what my father would think about this book if he had read it. The whole time I researched it, his voice was the voice in the back of my head, questioning me, prodding me, pushing me to go deeper, serving as the ultimate skeptic I was trying to win over.
I also really appreciated her focus on providing references for her statements:
Throughout this book, I make every effort to back up what might seem like far-out statements with scientific references. Because I know that what I’m about to teach you will raise eyebrows, I’ve written this book just for the people who are skeptical, as I was. I’ve laid out the book to walk you through my argument as if a jury of my physician peers were judging me.
Lissa starts of by talking about the different thoughts around how placebo works; 1) they think they will get better, 2) classical conditioning, 3) emotional support, 4) other treatment and 5) disease resolves itself. She goes on to talk about how negative thinking has been shown to have an effect on our body and how our thoughts can actually change the way our DNA expresses itself.
Lipton says, “When we shift the mind’s interpretation of illness from fear and danger to positive belief, the brain responds biochemically, the blood changes the body’s cell culture, and the cells change on a biological level.”
When our beliefs are hopeful and optimistic, the mind releases chemicals that put the body in a state of physiological rest, controlled primarily by the parasympathetic nervous system, and in this state of rest, the body’s natural self-repair mechanisms are free to get to work fixing what’s broken in the body.
Talking about the use of alternative treatments (this is where I get very skeptical, to be honest):
Instead of dismissing such treatments, I’d like to make the argument that perhaps nontraditional healing modalities work not so much because of the modality being practiced as because of the potent combination of positive belief in the healing method, the nurturing care offered by the practitioner, and the relaxation responses these treatments induce. Perhaps these modalities are, in fact, highly effective— but not via the means we might expect.
In conventional medical wisdom, we call anything that doesn’t outperform placebo “quackery.” But haven’t we lost sight of the real goal? I suggest we reconsider our evaluation standards regarding the efficacy of medical treatments. If the patient is getting better, does it really matter whether the treatment is better than placebo? Is resolution of symptoms and cure of disease not the ultimate goal? Does it really matter how we achieve such a goal?
One thing that turns out to be very important is whether or not we FEEL in control of our health and our lives:
Psychological states can directly affect the outcome of remission from some diseases, at least those that are immune-mediated, as many cancers are. This may explain why optimists are healthier than pessimists. Because of their healthier explanatory styles in the face of negative life events , optimists are more likely to learn healthy adaptations in response to life’s shocks, making them immune to states of helplessness. Pessimists, on the other hand, feel like life’s shocks are inescapable, and like the listless, helpless rats, they get depressed and their immune systems weaken . Over the course of a lifetime, fewer episodes of learned helplessness may keep the immune system stronger, reduce stress responses and their negative health outcomes, and reduce the likelihood of disease.
Radical self-care also involves things like setting boundaries, living in alignment with your truth, surrounding yourself with love and a sense of connection, and spending time doing what you love. You need radical self-care, not just in your health habits, but in the rest of your life.
Merely knowing what needs to change isn’t enough. The hardest part of the process is mustering up the guts to actually do what you know you need to do.
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Lissa goes on to talk about the importance of happiness, how we can deal with our own negative thoughts and beliefs. She also goes into great detail about the importance of balance in our lives, what she calls the ‘whole health cairn’ – if one of the stones/parts in our lives isn’t balanced, our physical health is often the first to go. Lissa ends by giving us suggestions on how we can write our own individual prescription to help us create more balance and vitality in our life. ...more
Lean In for Graduates(the updated and expanded version of Lean In) by Sheryl Sandberg is a very thought-provoking read. While I might not agree with eLean In for Graduates (the updated and expanded version of Lean In) by Sheryl Sandberg is a very thought-provoking read. While I might not agree with everything in it, it left me with a lot of things to think about.
Lean In has been criticised for being very middle class-centric - and it is. Some women aren't interested in leaning in, other are more than busy making enough money to make ends meet. Sandberg herself addresses some of these criticisms in her introduction to Lean In for Graduates:
This book makes the case for leaning in, for being ambitious in any pursuit. And while I believe that increasing the number of women in positions of power is a necessary element of true equality, I do not believe that there is one definition of success or happiness. Not all women want careers. Not all women want children. Not all women want both. I would never advocate that we should all have the same objectives. Many people are not interested in acquiring power, not because they lack ambition, but because they are living their lives as they desire. Some of the most important contributions to our world are made by caring for one person at a time. We each have to chart our own unique course and define which goals fit our lives, values, and dreams. I am also acutely aware that the vast majority of women are struggling to make ends meet and take care of their families. Parts of this book will be most relevant to women fortunate enough to have choices about how much and when and where to work; other parts apply to situations that women face in every workplace, within every community, and in every home. If we can succeed in adding more female voices at the highest levels, we will expand opportunities and extend fairer treatment to all. ... I know some believe that by focusing on what women can change themselves—pressing them to lean in— it seems like I am letting our institutions off the hook. Or even worse, they accuse me of blaming the victim. Far from blaming the victim, I believe that female leaders are key to the solution. Some critics will also point out that it is much easier for me to lean in, since my financial resources allow me to afford any help I need. My intention is to offer advice that would have been useful to me long before I had heard of Google or Facebook and that will resonate with women in a broad range of circumstances.
While there are definitely other issues that we as feminists, and as people in general, need to address, but in my opinion that doesn't make the topics discussed here less relevant.
Because it is relevant that the way men and women are treated within the professional world is often very different. Sandberg's cover the differences (backed up by studies), and talks about different ways to manage your career:
As you start your career, you should be aware that men are often promoted based on potential, while women are promoted on past performance. You should also be aware that when men are successful, they are often better liked by both men and women, but when women are successful, they are liked less. I have asked audiences around the world to raise their hands if they’ve been told they were too aggressive at work. Time and again, a small fraction of men raise their hands, while a great majority of women shoot a hand into the air … and sometimes two. You should also be aware of the internal barriers that we often impose on ourselves. Too many women sit on the side of the room when they should be sitting at the table. Too many women lower their voices when they should be speaking up. This is not our fault. We internalize messages that say it’s wrong for us to be outspoken, aggressive, and as powerful as— or even more powerful than— men. In response, we alter our actions.
Professional ambition is expected of men but is optional— or worse, sometimes even a negative— for women. “She is very ambitious” is not a compliment in our culture. Aggressive and hard-charging women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.
Even worse, the messages sent to girls can move beyond encouraging superficial traits and veer into explicitly discouraging leadership. When a girl tries to lead, she is often labeled bossy. Boys are seldom called bossy because a boy taking the role of a boss does not surprise or offend. As someone who was called this for much of my childhood, I know that it is not a compliment.
From a very early age, boys are encouraged to take charge and offer their opinions. Teachers interact more with boys, call on them more frequently, and ask them more questions. Boys are also more likely to call out answers, and when they do, teachers usually listen to them. When girls call out, teachers often scold them for breaking the rules and remind them to raise their hands if they want to speak.
The keynote speaker, Dr. Peggy McIntosh from the Wellesley Centers for Women, gave a talk called “Feeling Like a Fraud.” She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can’t seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are— impostors with limited skills or abilities. ... For women , feeling like a fraud is a symptom of a greater problem. We consistently underestimate ourselves. Multiple studies in multiple industries show that women often judge their own performance as worse than it actually is, while men judge their own performance as better than it actually is.
This experiment supports what research has already clearly shown: success and likeability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women. When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less. This truth is both shocking and unsurprising: shocking because no one would ever admit to stereotyping on the basis of gender and unsurprising because clearly we do.
All through my life, culturally reinforced signals cautioned me against being branded as too smart or too successful. It starts young. As a girl, you know that being smart is good in lots of ways, but it doesn’t make you particularly popular or attractive to boys.
“We believe not only that women are nurturing, but that they should be nurturing above all else. When a woman does anything that signals she might not be nice first and foremost, it creates a negative impression and makes us uncomfortable.”
For women, taking credit comes at a real social and professional cost. In fact, a woman who explains why she is qualified or mentions previous successes in a job interview can lower her chances of getting hired.
When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. She’s communal, right? She wants to help others. Professor Flynn calls this the “gender discount” problem, and it means that women are paying a professional penalty for their presumed desire to be communal. On the other hand, when a man helps a coworker, it’s considered an imposition and he is compensated with more favorable performance evaluations and rewards like salary increases and bonuses. Even more frustrating, when a woman declines to help a colleague, she often receives less favorable reviews and fewer rewards. But a man who declines to help? He pays no penalty.
An internal report at Hewlett-Packard revealed that women only apply for open jobs if they think they meet 100 percent of the criteria listed. Men apply if they think they meet 60 percent of the requirements. This difference has a huge ripple effect. Women need to shift from thinking “I’m not ready to do that” to thinking “I want to do that—and I’ll learn by doing it.”
Most people would agree that gender bias exists … in others. We, however, would never be swayed by such superficial and unenlightened opinions. Except we are. Our preconceived notions about masculinity and femininity influence how we interact with and evaluate colleagues in the workplace. A 2012 study found that when evaluating identical CVs for a lab manager position from a male student and a female student, scientists of both sexes gave better marks to the male applicant. Even though the students had the same qualifications and experience, the scientists deemed the female student less competent and offered her a lower starting salary and less mentoring. Other studies of job applicants, candidates for scholarships, and musicians auditioning for orchestras have come to the same conclusion: gender bias influences how we view performance and typically raises our assessment of men while lowering our assessment of women. Even today , gender-blind evaluations still result in better outcomes for women. Unfortunately, most jobs require face-to-face interviews.
When I hear language like that, I bring up the Heidi/ Howard study and how success and likeability are negatively correlated for women. I ask the evaluator to consider the possibility that this successful female may be paying a gender-based penalty. Usually people find the study credible, nodding their heads in agreement, but then bristle at the suggestion that this might be influencing the reaction of their management team. They will further defend their position by arguing that it cannot be gender related because— aha!— both men and women have problems with that particular female executive. But the success and like-ability penalty is imposed by both men and women. Women perpetuate this bias as well. Of course, not every woman deserves to be well liked. Some women are disliked for behaviors that they would do well to change. In a perfect world, they would receive constructive feedback and the opportunity to make those changes. Still, calling attention to this bias forces people to think about whether there is a real problem or a perception problem. The goal is to give women something men tend to receive automatically— the benefit of the doubt.
I greatly recommend Lean In for Graduates - to both men and women. These topics matter to all of us. I sincerely believe that we will all do better, achieve more - in both our professional and personal lives - if we work together on a fair and equal basis....more
Excellent, powerful and thought-provoking. Own It is all about how you own your own power, finding out what is YOUR message to share and having the coExcellent, powerful and thought-provoking. Own It is all about how you own your own power, finding out what is YOUR message to share and having the confidence to share it....more
How to Self-Promote without Being a Jerk by Bruce Kasanoff is a quick and easy read, but that doesn’t take away from the timeless and inspirational content. Kasanoff's writing style is very clear, precise and easy to understand.
The basic idea is that it is possible, and indeed preferable to promote yourself – but it is possible to do this without being a jerk. The way to do this is to be:
I very much enjoyed How to Self-Promote without Being a Jerk and thought it was a great reminder – although for those of us who keep up-to-date on personal development there wasn’t a lot of new ideas (at least not “new-to-me”). Quotes
By first thinking help this person, you will change the way that others perceive you. There is no faster or more effective way to change your interactions and relationships. You will be viewed as a positive, constructive, helpful, and dependable person. People will think you are perceptive, attentive, and understanding. That's why this way of thinking is not altruistic; it is selfish, in the best sense of the word. The single best way to help yourself is to always be looking for ways to help other people. Sure, you'll be making the world a better place, and over the course of your life, you will help many thousands of people. But don't do it because you ought to or because it's the "right" thing to do.
Instead of figuring out what you really want to say, you might tend to cram too much information into one document, whether that happens to be a memo, report, or presentation. There are many ways to phrase this. You could ask someone to identify three things you should consider changing. You could ask them for their three least favorite aspects of the work you did. You might try asking them to identify three things they did not fully understand. The key is to not be too negative in your request. If you say, “Tell me three things you hated,” most people will say, “I didn’t hate anything, it was good.”
Lots of people — myself included — talk a good game about being open-minded. But how many of us are truly open to ideas that challenge our most closely held beliefs? This question is important because the odds are overwhelming that at some point, your career, marriage, or even your life will be wholly undone by your belief in an idea that proved to be wrong.
The best business people are show people, as are the most effective educators and the most compassionate physicians. Whether consciously or not, they operate their professional lives as though they were in show business.
Partner with others, but do so in a thoughtful and cautious manner. Choose partners who have solid reputations, who share key values with you, and with whom you have common goals.