"Manic-depressive disorder confers both advantages & disadvantages to the society."
This is one of the most insightful & addictive piece of wri"Manic-depressive disorder confers both advantages & disadvantages to the society."
This is one of the most insightful & addictive piece of writing I've ever read. We were assigned 2 chapters to read in conjunction with Mood Disorder week at Med School, and I was instantly hooked. This book is written by a professor on the John Hopkins' psychiatry faculty, who herself suffers from bipolar disorder.
I can't help but feel impressed by the courage of the author in publishing her experiences & struggles with manic-depressive disorder, especially because of the stigma that inevitably comes with mental disorders. In addition, by publishing this book, she risks compromising her professional anonymity in teaching & research.
This book changes the way I feel & think about mental disorders. I wish I could recommend this book to everyone I meet.
“When I first thought about writing this book, I conceived of it as a book about moods, and an illness of moods, in the context of an individual life. As I have written it, however, it has somehow turned out to be very much a book about love as well: love as sustainer, as renewer, and as protector. After each seeming death within my mind or heart, love has returned to recreate hope and restore life. It has, at its best, made the inherent sadness of life bearable, and its beauty manifest. It has, inexplicably and savingly, provided not only cloak but lantern for the darker seasons and grimmer weather.”
“The Chinese believe that before you can conquer a beast you first must make it beautiful. In some strange way, I have tried to do that with manic-depressive illness. It has been a fascinating, albeit deadly, enemy and companion; I have found it to be seductively complicated, a distillation both of what is finest in our natures, and of what is most dangerous.”...more
Life is such a funny little thing, isn't it? You meet one person who would change you for the better in the most fundamental ways, boost your self-estLife is such a funny little thing, isn't it? You meet one person who would change you for the better in the most fundamental ways, boost your self-esteem, make you the leading actor in your own life when you've been previously eclipsed by siblings/ best friends, make you realise your self-worth etc. But even then, there's no guarantee that he or she will remain a permanent fixture in your life. Maybe they're just there to make you into a better YOU and then pass you onto your new phase of life.
Tiger Lily is an exceptional tale of courage, resilience and self-discovery. It breathes new life into a worn-out yet beloved classic, spinning a fresTiger Lily is an exceptional tale of courage, resilience and self-discovery. It breathes new life into a worn-out yet beloved classic, spinning a fresh and different angle into the whole Peter-Wendy dynamic. Through the narration of Tinker Bell, Anderson brings us on a journey that renders us completely breathless, with an ending that catches at our hearts and imprints on our souls. There will be not one reader who could not relate to Tiger Lily's heartbreak, especially those of us who had our hearts trampled on by our first love.
Headstrong, silent, shy, passionate, unpretentious and resilient - Tiger Lily is all of these. Tiger Lily constantly struggled to be accepted by her tribe, but failed miserably when she was shunned for her uniqueness. Although she feigned indifference about the ugly opinion of others of her, those closest to her (Tik Tok, her foster father and Pine Sap, her best friend) knew that deep down she minded very much. Nevertheless, Tiger Lily's spirit would not be crushed - Taunted, bullied, isolated as much as she was, something deep inside her soul remained untouched and unbroken.
Until, she met Peter Pan. Wild and free-spirited, Peter Pan represents the freedom she never had. Although Tiger Lily was immensely drawn to Peter, she was determined not to show it. I think I can understand why. Hiding her affection for Peter was Tiger Lily's strategy to keep her hold on him - The less she shows that she loves him, the more he would assure his love for her. And, let's not forget that it is not in Tiger Lily's nature to display affection in straightforward manners, possibly a psychological consequence of being abused since childhood.
Why Peter Pan and Tiger Lily could never end up together? Peter was needy. Not only was he desperate of approval, he needed constant reassurances and support. Wendy Darling could give him all of these, as it was in her culture to know who is the man of the house and obey him in mind and in spirit.
Conversely, Tiger Lily was independent and had a character of steel. Her wall of self-defense was built so high and her sense of self-preservation so strong that she could not and would not bear to let herself rely on another being as her source of happiness, what more someone who was as fickle-minded and unreliable as Peter, and whom could and would withdraw this source at a change of mood. It was Tiger Lily's strong sense of self-identity and her refusal to conform to Peter's ideals of his perfect lady that destroyed their relationship. Between choosing herself and Peter, she would always choose herself over Peter. To be in a relationship without herself in it was an inconceivable idea to Tiger Lily. It was never about Peter choosing Wendy over Tiger Lily, but rather Tiger Lily choosing herself over Peter.
If it was one thing that I wished could have been better, it was the character development and background story for Pine Sap. I wanted to read more of the interactions he had with Tiger Lily.
Okay, I must admit that I've never read the original Peter Pan by J.M. Barrie. I know, I know - A heinous crime, isn't it, not to have read one of the most beloved classic tales of all time. (My childhood was really all Enid Blyton ans Roald Dahl.) Well, after reading Tiger Lily, I've made up my mind to read the original Peter Pan.
Lastly, before you read Tiger Lily, throw away all your preconceptions about the original Peter Pan story from Disney films or books, and let yourself be immersed in the magic of Anderson's writing. It's time for Tiger Lily, the girl with the crow-feather headband, a character which has been often overlooked to take center-stage at long last.
The lesson of the story? Never give up being yourself for any man. Because one day, you'll inevitably tire of a relationship that has no trace of your true self in it. And also, we should learn to love what's good for us.
“Sometimes I can't see myself when I'm with you. I can only just see you.” ― Jodi Lynn Anderson, Tiger Lily
“I'm not myself," she offered, guiltily. She softened around Tik Tok, and when she did she was, for those rare moments, girlish.
He smiled. "You can never say that. You're just a piece of yourself right now that you don't like.” ― Jodi Lynn Anderson, Tiger Lily
“Tiger Lily, did you know I always thought you were braver than me? Did you ever guess that that was why I was so afraid? It wasn't that I only loved some of you. But I wondered if you could ever love more than some of me." ― Jodi Lynn Anderson, Tiger Lily
Thank God this is over. Dry, cold, dreary - Words that perfectly describe the Scotland weather as well as the plot. If it weren't for the elegant writThank God this is over. Dry, cold, dreary - Words that perfectly describe the Scotland weather as well as the plot. If it weren't for the elegant writing and the excellent, detailed research, I would have given this a one-star rating. Definitely NOT going to re-read this. EVER....more
**spoiler alert** Ah, Roald Dahl and his dark humour. Reading this as an adult, I definitely enjoyed the whimsical and entertaining story line. Howeve**spoiler alert** Ah, Roald Dahl and his dark humour. Reading this as an adult, I definitely enjoyed the whimsical and entertaining story line. However, I doubt that it is a suitable read for children. I mean, what sort of moral message is sent out? That it's okay to take revenge on your tiresome grandma by swapping her medicine with lethal ones? That it's okay for your father to not save Grandma from the roof just because she isn't his mother but his mother-in-law? That it's okay for your father to encourage Grandma to take a medicine which would kill her?
I could appreciate Dahl's dark humour as an adult, but I'm not entirely sure that the ending wouldn't upset some sensitive or empathetic child. ...more
This is not a book that immediately held my interest. Initially, I was immensely annoyed by the too-long-sentences that made me wantWhy We Broke Up?
This is not a book that immediately held my interest. Initially, I was immensely annoyed by the too-long-sentences that made me want to yell, "WHY DON'T YOU USE THE FULL-STOP ALREADY!!!' at the top of my lungs. Because, when sentences are that long without full-stops and you keep using the word 'and' which gives the impression that you are getting incoherent as your train of thoughts are spilled across the pages without considering that readers will eventually lose interest in what you've got to say and what you're actually saying and it's getting really hard to concentrate when I am just skimming the rest of your sentence in hope to finally meet the MASSIVELY OVERDUE full-stop so that my head can rest a little and take a breath before continue reading your subsequent long-winded narration but you just won't let me take a breather and you just go on and on and on and the long sentences gave me quite a headache, so yeah.
However, this book crept upon me slowly, drawing my reluctant interest, building to a climax which pulls ALL of my heartstrings, and collecting my grief for the heartbreak-to-come and then BOOM! Just like that, my overflowing sadness . It succeeded in changing my initial negative opinion of it, 180 degrees.
Let's start with Min Green. When I first read the book, I felt that I was in her head too much. I hated her ramblings. I hated that I didn't know all the old films that she mentioned (or are the films just made-up?). I hated her Arty, hated her Different. I thought her to be pretentious. But then, I realised that aren't all of us full with precocious affectations at that age, so eager to be a grown-up? Didn't we extracted personalities from our teen idols, experimented with some little quirks to establish our individuality? To tell the world that we are DIFFERENT from the ordinary? And then eventually, didn't some of those affectations we experimented with manifested themselves into our personalities, becoming an integral part of us that made us unique to some degree? That is Min Green.
I know Al. I have an Al in my life. Or, I should say that it's not so long ago that I had an Al in my life. (Reminder to self: Had. Had. Had. As in, PAST TENSE.) He, like Al, either kept silent or said I-have- no-opinion although he clearly had an opinion, just for the sake of appeasing me when he knew that our opinions were at extreme odds. Al is Min's constant - Her rock, her shoulder to cry on, her support system. He might not have liked al the things she did, but he was willing to compromise. That is Al. (Though, from my experience, there's no such thing as a guy best friend. You can never go back to that easy friendship you had after either one of you confesses that you have more than platonic feelings for the other person. There will be expectations, followed by disappointment and then resentment.)
Ed Slaterton. Damn you, Ed Slaterton. Damn all the Ed Slatertons in the world who broke our fragile little hearts for the very first time. They say they like DIFFERENT. They say they like INTERESTING. But at some point, DIFFERENT all looked the SAME to them when the sparkle of NEW fades off. In the end, they went back to familiar ground, because it's so much easier.
To be honest, I don't think Ed would have finished reading Min's letter of Why We Broke Up addressed to him. Ed is just not the kind of guy who would bother to dissect the anatomy of their love. For Min, maybe writing this break-up letter would prove to be therapeutic...
Why I can relate to Min Green? Both of us had loved an illusion, a man who is nothing but the perfect figments of our imagination. We so badly wanted him to fit into our lives like a missing piece of a jigsaw puzzle, that we lose sight of reality.
One last thing to take note. From other reviews, I see that the physical book is not only a large and heavy volume, but also expensive. I think an ebook edition would suffice, because the hard cover copy is kind of overrated (in my personal opinion).
My favourite lines from the book:
“Either you have the feeling or you don't. Hawk Davies”
“Ed, it was everything, those nights on the phone, everything we said until late became later and then later and very late and finally to go to bed with my ear warm and worn and red from holding the phone close close close so as not to miss a word of what it was, because who cared how tired I was in the humdrum slave drive of our days without each other. I’d ruin any day, all my days, for those long nights with you, and I did. But that’s why right there it was doomed. We couldn’t only have the magic nights buzzing through the wires. We had to have the days, too, the bright impatient days spoiling everything with their unavoidable schedules, their mandatory times that don’t overlap, their loyal friends who don’t get along, the unforgiven travesties torn from the wall no matter what promises are uttered past midnight, and that's why we broke up.”...more
Before I Fall managed to surpass my expectations. I thought I would have a hard time reading a story told from the point of view of a typical Mean GirBefore I Fall managed to surpass my expectations. I thought I would have a hard time reading a story told from the point of view of a typical Mean Girl (e.g. Oh, my life is just soooo difficult. Do you have any idea how pressured I feel to look pretty all the time??), much less sympathize her. Surprisingly, the narration was not the least precocious or annoying. Lauren Oliver's piercing insight into the whole popularity business and infliction of emotional abuse was pretty spot-on.
This story tells about the road to redemption. Sam had to relive the last day of her life seven times. As each 'last day' passes, she eventually realized the precise impact of her wrongdoings - How every mean word she ever uttered and every mean act she ever did affected the people around her. How even being indifferent or ignorant to mean deeds being done to others is a wrongdoing itself.
I admit that it was initially difficult for me to identify with a character that I would have despised in real life. Correction: I did despised in real life. However, Lauren Oliver succeeded in injecting the right amount of meanness and conscience into Sam's character, making her a despicable bully yet a believable victim of peer pressure at the same time.
I guess the main reason this book got to me was because I wasn't on the laughing/ winning side - I was at the receiving end of it. I mean, I had my fair share of emotional abuse back then - How the mean popular girl turned the whole class against me out of pure malice just because she could. How my classmates meticulously avoided any sort of association with me as if unpopularity is a contagious disease that all of them were susceptible to if they so much as lend me a pen. What mean people don't realize is that kindness can go a long way. This book demonstrates the feasibility of the butterfly effect - A kind word can make a person's day; A mean deed can be the last straw that sends a person over the edge. Words are not a physical substance or object. Words are vehicles that carry our feelings and emotions, working together with our tone inflections and body languages to transmit our thoughts to others. Words can be razor blades that cut you where you'll hurt the most.
In conclusion, I think this book was never about how people thought of you after you're dead. Neither was it about how Sam redeemed herself in the eyes of her family, friends and victims by changing the way she acted when reliving the last day of her life. It was from beginning to the very end, about how Sam redeemed herself in her own eyes. It was about how she could finally die in peace, knowing that at last she could respect and like herself as a decent human being.
This is a must-read for every teenager. It will enlighten a lot of bully victims about the mindset of those who bully - Beneath all that meanness, lies a pile of insecurities that tells them they are only one false step away from being the same as their victims. For those who bully, this book serves as a warning - How you would feel about yourself at the moment you die, and whether or not you want to die remembering yourself as a bully. ...more