Thanks to this book, I now have a million more books to read! Life is too short for all the good books out there. Full review here: http://www.sunlitpThanks to this book, I now have a million more books to read! Life is too short for all the good books out there. Full review here: http://www.sunlitpages.com/2015/11/ho......more
I liked it, but I didn't love it the way everyone else seems to. For one, it didn't seem all that revolutionary to me. And for another, there were somI liked it, but I didn't love it the way everyone else seems to. For one, it didn't seem all that revolutionary to me. And for another, there were some suggestions that bordered on the ridiculous. But I did agree with the idea that you should only keep things that bring you joy. Full review here: http://sunlitpages.blogspot.com/2015/......more
Just as good as The Happiness Project. I'm pretty sure I would have given this one five stars if I'd read it first. See my complete review here: http:Just as good as The Happiness Project. I'm pretty sure I would have given this one five stars if I'd read it first. See my complete review here: http://sunlitpages.blogspot.com/2013/......more
I definitely felt like I was cramming while reading this book. I've taken the class twice, so I thought I could just read through this as a refresher,I definitely felt like I was cramming while reading this book. I've taken the class twice, so I thought I could just read through this as a refresher, but I didn't start reading it until two weeks before my due date, so I felt guilty when I read things like, "You should start practicing this every day at least three months before your due date." Ooops. Time just got away from me this pregnancy.
Anyway...I really believe in the HypnoBirthing concept, but I do think it takes a lot of really dedicated and focused practice...which I have not done. However, although my labors have been far from pain free, I know I've still benefited from the more physical techniques.
I will say that one thing that really bugs me about this book is that she is so insistent that you not listen to any negative birth stories and you try to keep a very positive mindset, but then she says things like this: "Fetology experts are now saying that the disorientation that a baby experiences when his mother has accepted drugs [pitocin, epidural, etc.] can result in disconnection between mother and baby and cause a long-term feeling of abandonment on the part of the baby." I just have to wonder...is this supposed to help me not worry about labor? She seems a little hypocritical when it comes to positive thinking.
However, if you want to try natural labor, this is a great reference....more
Leave it to me to think I need to read a book about introducing solids to my THIRD child. It's not like I haven't done this before. But with my firstLeave it to me to think I need to read a book about introducing solids to my THIRD child. It's not like I haven't done this before. But with my first two, it was frustrating, stressful, and many times not fun. I'm hoping to change all of that this go-around.
While I liked the subject and totally agree with the premise, the execution was highly repetitive (how many times can you say "trust your baby and let him eat as his own pace"?)and aggravatingly simplistic (do you really think I need you to tell me that if I want to cut down on the mess, a bib is quite useful?). My very favorite want-to-poke-my-eyes-out-because-I-can't-believe-you're-telling-me-this sentence was about introducing drinks: "As long as you aren't using something that could break if she bit it (such as a wineglass), or drinking something unsuitable (such as alcohol), just let her try." Thank you SO MUCH for the clarifications.
Also, in some ways this book stressed me out less (because I think introducing food, as well as mealtimes, will be so much easier), but in other ways it stressed me out more (because so much of the book focused on nutritious food and watching the salt and sugar content in what we normally think of as "healthy" foods).
So the long and short of it is this gets four stars for the subject, but said subject could have been contained in its entirety in a pamphlet instead of 226 pages....more
This was just the kind of toilet training book I was hoping for. The whole "training-in-a-day" methods were completely stressing me out. I think I'm jThis was just the kind of toilet training book I was hoping for. The whole "training-in-a-day" methods were completely stressing me out. I think I'm just not that committed yet.
Anyway, this book actually has you analyze your child's personality (goal-directed, sensory-oriented, internalizer, impulsive, or strong-willed). Then it talks about common strengths/pitfalls for each personality type. I actually made some discoveries about my son (who knew he was impulsive?!), and I'm feeling more confident in tackling this daunting task! I also just feel more oriented in potty language (that sounds horrible!) and ideas.
There is quite a bit of repetition throughout the book. Most of the time I wasn't bugged by it, but there was one phrase that drove me crazy: "Please remember: no one can force a child to eat, sleep, or use the toilet." All right! I remember!
Anyway, I definitely recommend this to any moms who, like me, are not very excited about ditching the diapers....more
It's with books like this one that I want to say, Don't look at my rating. Read my review instead! It's just so hard to balance positive and negativeIt's with books like this one that I want to say, Don't look at my rating. Read my review instead! It's just so hard to balance positive and negative and come up with a rating that reflects overall impression.
As a general note, I found the writing to be a bit cheesy. I don't love reading "I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!" and "I know just how you feel, and if you follow my plan you can be as happy as I am now." Even if it was written with the purest and sincerest of intentions, it felt over-the-top and fake, and I wished it wasn't there. If my rating only indicated the quality of the writing, it would be lower than four stars.
But now that that's out of the way, on to the things I loved about this book:
Ten days ago I decided to start putting into practice the things that I was reading, so I wrote up morning, mid-day, and evening routines, put them in page protectors and clipped them to my fridge. And amazingly, my house has stayed looking better for longer than it ever has before (since children, that is). Even the weekend, try hard as it did, couldn't tumble the living room and kitchen back into shambles. Just that one success made this book a worthwhile read. And if the routines last longer than 10 days, if they last years, then I should have given this book five stars.
I love her approach of baby steps. I'm starting to add in the weekly hour-long cleaning and the zones, but I have to keep reminding myself that I want the routines to feel completely effortless first because even if the zones never become a habit, just having the routines has changed the look and feel of our house. I loved her reminder that housework done imperfectly still blesses my family.
I didn't find the organization chapters (paper clutter, menu planning, etc.) especially helpful, but that's okay. I can read another book for that. The cleaning chapters made up for them.
Even my kids have been helping. I took her suggestion and let the boys clean the kitchen floor. They had so much fun, and, perhaps surprisingly, it really did get clean!
One of the things the FlyLady pushes the most is to wear shoes...all the time. I can't do it. I like not wearing shoes when I'm in the house. I agree that getting dressed right away in the morning helps me get going, so that's part of my routine, but shoes are not. I love self-help books because I only take from them those things that actually help me. If I tried to implement every single thing, I would be not only overwhelmed but irritated. Not everything that is best for her will be best for me and vice versa. So, yes to the routines, but no to the shoes. :-)...more
9/10 I feel like such a nerd for loving this book. Really, should something like diseases and vaccine ingredients and statistics be so interesting? But9/10 I feel like such a nerd for loving this book. Really, should something like diseases and vaccine ingredients and statistics be so interesting? But it was. The vaccine debate fascinates me, but this is the first thing I've read that I felt truly represented an unbiased view on the subject. In fact, it was so unbiased that I really had a hard time figuring out Dr. Sears' personal view. That was very liberating for me...like I could take the information and create my own ideas and opinions and make my own choices from them.
The book itself is chock-full of good information, well-documented, with plenty of reputable research. The book is well-organized. It gives each disease/vaccine an entire chapter where he talks about the disease itself (symptoms, transmission, treatments, risks, etc.) and then the vaccine (ingredients, side effects, etc.). After he gets through all the recommended vaccines, he has several chapters devoted to vaccine safety research, vaccine ingredients, etc.
The only frustrations I had with the book were with things he had no control over: research that has not been done, things we don't know, things we can't prove, and so on. For example, he would say things like, "Even though this chemical is toxic, it is probably harmless in such a small amount." Probably? You mean we don't know?! I do find it very curious that vaccines have to go through such limited testing when compared with the extensive and years of testing that medications usually have to go through. I found the information about aluminum particularly fascinating.
Anyway, I would recommend this book to all parents. It is not extreme. It is merely informative. And I think information is power. How many parents do you know who have no idea what six shots their six-month-olds are getting? While I think it's important to trust your pediatrician, it's also important to be informed....more
I have mixed feelings about this book. It definitely did not turn me into a John Rosemond advocate, and out of all the parenting books I've read, it wI have mixed feelings about this book. It definitely did not turn me into a John Rosemond advocate, and out of all the parenting books I've read, it wouldn't be the first one I'd recommend. Still, I did agree with him on some points.
For example, he recommends a no-nonsense, consistent approach when disciplining children, and I like that. One of the things he says often throughout the book is, "Make them an offer they can't refuse," which basically means you don't bribe children with offers of candy or ice cream, but instead, you take away privileges...those things that they're already enjoying on a daily basis. I'm already implementing his tips on how to get your child to eat what is being served for dinner because that was one of the areas where his advice really resonated with me and made sense.
As far as advice I didn't like...I'm sure it would vary from parent to parent...but I really didn't agree with his take on allowances versus chore money. He says that children should not be paid for chores because you shouldn't get paid for doing your part to help the family. He says children will come to expect payment for any job they do. While I can see his point, I then cannot understand why he advocates an allowance, and a hefty one at that. Isn't an allowance teaching a child that parents will give him money just for being alive? At least with the chore money, they're actually doing some work to earn it. (Although, I totally agree that there should be at least some jobs that children do just because they are part of the family, without any sort of payment involved.) Also, Rosemond really makes the push for children to have very few toys (we're talking like three), so I have to wonder, what does he even expect children to be doing with all that money their parents are lavishing upon them?
Also, I was just really bugged by Rosemond's attitude that the way he was raised was best. The undertone of the book was, "I had a hard childhood. My parents were divorced. I only had three toys. I never got to play sports. Therefore, your children should also have a rotten childhood because I turned out okay (just a little cynical), and they will, too." Of course, he didn't actually say this, but for all his sense of humor, he did seem just a titch bitter.
All in all, I liked the book, but then, I kind of think I'm a parenting book junkie, so I just enjoy different points of view, and I like finding things to disagree about. :-)...more
Whereas I loved everything about "The Happiest BABY on the Block," I wasn't sold on this one.
The section I found most helpful was about the differentWhereas I loved everything about "The Happiest BABY on the Block," I wasn't sold on this one.
The section I found most helpful was about the different stages of toddlerhood. I enjoyed his analogy of toddlers to cave people (even though I DON'T believe in evolution like Dr. Karp does). The analogy itself made a lot of sense to me, and helped me better understand the stage my own toddler is in right now (chimp child).
As far as his actual parenting techniques, I'm still undecided. Some things I will probably use, but overall I found the techniques in Love and Logic Magic (by Jim Fay) much more helpful and in line with what I want to do as a parent.
I read the whole book, but I think it might be more helpful (and fast) to just read the sections that seem applicable to you....more
I highly recommend this book for ALL couples...whether you've been married for one hour or 75 years.
I especially enjoyed her discussion on the threeI highly recommend this book for ALL couples...whether you've been married for one hour or 75 years.
I especially enjoyed her discussion on the three aspects of marriage that are needed to become one: spiritual intimacy, emotional intimacy, and physical intimacy. Also, she has a very interesting section about our society's current trend toward lack of touch, which is a basic human need. And because teenagers aren't getting the touch they need (from parents, siblings, friends, teachers, etc), they're seeking it in pre-marital sex. Sad.
Last, I would recommend listening to this book. I'll be honest, if I hadn't listened to it, there's NO WAY I would have made it through the whole thing because, let's be honest, it's not exactly the most gripping topic....more
I agreed with most of the ideas in this book, and I'm excited because I can already begin using some of the techniques with Aaron. The book is easy toI agreed with most of the ideas in this book, and I'm excited because I can already begin using some of the techniques with Aaron. The book is easy to read and full of easy-to-implement strategies.
I really liked their ideas on setting limits. I know this is crucial to raising obedient kids, but I know it's going to be really hard. However, in the book, the authors discuss the importance of thinking up possible scenarios ahead of time so you can be ready and not give consequences you can't, or don't intend, to keep. Also, they talk about delaying the consequence if necessary so you can think fairly and rationally. And they talk about having a generic consequence that you can use every time if need be. I don't want to be a nagging mother who reminds her kids 50 times to do one thing. Instead, I want to be firm and set the limits, and the consequences, once.
I also like the idea of giving your children choices so they can have some control over their lives and learn to make good decisions.
One of the things I did not agree with was their idea of encouraging a tantrum or other bad behavior in order to discourage it. I just don't know how I feel about the whole reverse psychology thing, even if it does work.
Anyway, I would recommend this book to all parents. It has some great ideas in it....more
This is a wonderful reference if you're thinking about giving piano lessons. It is organized and thorough. I haven't read every single chapter yet, buThis is a wonderful reference if you're thinking about giving piano lessons. It is organized and thorough. I haven't read every single chapter yet, but it's a book that I'm frequently referring to as I encounter new problems and look for new ideas....more