Note to self: There should always be an Elizabeth Elliot's book on my nightstand. Her words are always timely and encouraging. I am so grateful for he...moreNote to self: There should always be an Elizabeth Elliot's book on my nightstand. Her words are always timely and encouraging. I am so grateful for her writings.
Chapters 4-7 might be my favorite ones. In those she writes about the blessing of getting old. Chapters 12 and 16 are also important; both deal with the -not easy- topic of judging others.
Some of my favorite quotes:
"A true faith must rest solidly on his character and his Word, not on our particular conception of what he ought to do."
"I prayed about several things for which I could not give thanks. But I gave thanks in the middle of each prayers because I was still sure that underneath are the everlasting arms."
"Prayer is the first thing -asking God to do what I can't do. The second thing is get busy and do what I can do."
"'Judge not that ye be not judged' has come to mean that if you never call anything sin, nobody can ever call you a sinner."
"I believe there are indeed some simple ones [answers], but they are not easy."
"Nearly always it is possible for most of us, with effort and planning and the will to do his will, to set aside time for God alone."
"Your present discontent is a mercy, affording opportunities to repent."
"We must quit bending the Word to suit our situation. It is we who must be bent to that Word, our necks that must bow under the yoke."
"Love is no pleasing sentiment but a fiery law; thou shalt love."
So much wisdom to glean from this book. I would urge all young women to read this little book, a book which serves as an antidote against the falsehoo...moreSo much wisdom to glean from this book. I would urge all young women to read this little book, a book which serves as an antidote against the falsehood of egalitarianism that is creeping in the church. Elliot is a clear example of how strong women can stand firm against this "serious distortion of truth."
A few of my favorite quotes:
"The life of faith is lived one day at a time, and it has to be lived -not always looked forward to as though the "real" living were around the next corner. It is for today for which we are responsible. God still owns tomorrow." (p.31)
"We accept and thank God for what is given, not allowing the not-given to spoil it." (p.33)
"A messy life speaks of a messy -an incoherent- faith." (p34)
"A disordered life speaks loudly of disorder in the soul." (p.37)
"Evasion of responsibility is the mark of immaturity." (p.45)
"All our problems are theological ones." (p.61)
"When you make a choice, you accept the limitations of that choice. To accept limitation requires maturity... saying Yes to happiness often means saying No to yourself." (p.63)
"To acknowledge your gratitude to Him is also to acknowledge your dependence on Him, to acknowledge above all the authority of Christ. That is a good place to begin a marriage." (p.67)
"Some women fondly imagine a new beginning of liberty, but it is in reality a new bondage, more bitter than anything they seek to be liberated from." (p.83)
"I want to know not "people" but men and women. I am interested in men as men, in women as women, and when you marry you marry a man because he is a man, and being a man, he becomes your husband. This is the glory of marriage -two separate and distinct kinds of beings are unified." (p.84)
"Marriage is a choice of one above all others. Each partner promises to forsake all others, and the Bible says that a man will leave his father and mother and "cleave" to his wife. Any choice we ever make in life instantly limits us. To choose to take this man as your husband is to choose not to take every other man on earth." (p.87)
"So marriage is a vocation. You are called to it. Accept marriage, then, as a God-given task. Throw yourself into it with joy. Do it heartily, with faith, prayer, and thanksgiving." (p.106)
Talking about household authority she says, "I had to remember that lines had been drawn -not by my husband, but by God. I was the one originally created to help, not an antagonist." (p.123)
"No woman who has not learned to master herself can be trusted to submit willingly to her husband." (p.143)
"[T]he roles were not assigned on the basis of capability. They were determined at the beginning of Creation to be a man's role and a woman's role and again, we are not free to experiment, tamper with, or exchange them." (p.144)
"No man has sufficient strength in himself properly to be the head of his wife. No woman can rightly submit to his headship. It takes grace, and grace is a gift, but we are to use the means of grace. self-discipline helps, Prayer helps. Christ, who is the Head of all of us, stands ready to help any man or woman who asks Him." (p.144)
"It is a misguided kind of super-spirituality that attempts to erase all distinctions between Christians. It is a form of escapism, an evasion of responsibility, and a serious distortion of truth." (p.155)
"The Cross must enter into marriage. "Who loveth suffereth too." (p.170)
"The one thing that discontented people cannot do is give thanks, and therefore they cannot have the...moreA favorite book on marriage.
Some favorite quotes:
"The one thing that discontented people cannot do is give thanks, and therefore they cannot have the wisdom that contentment brings."
"From a thankful heart, all things may be received, including the great gifts of discipline and standards (1Tim 4:4-5). But without gratitude pervading everything, strict views on marriage will simply create an earthly hell for yourself and others."
"A godly marriage occurs when a man and a woman both die to themselves, and are raised to the life that seeks the best interest of the other in all things. This is the only kind of godly marriage there is. And when we give all away in this manner, we discover that we receive all."
Reading this book is like looking at a perfect painting of the Christian family in a beautiful museum. Miller (1880's) describes in detail how does th...moreReading this book is like looking at a perfect painting of the Christian family in a beautiful museum. Miller (1880's) describes in detail how does the Christian family should live and it really makes you want to live like that.
However, as you look closer into "the painting," you find that Miller did not address the most important thing that makes living this kind of life possible: The Gospel. There is no mention of sin and redemption, so if this is the only book one reads on how to live a godly life in the family there is going to be lots of frustration.
I would first recommend reading the series on the family that Douglas Wilson and Nancy Wilson have written. They are my favorite books on the matter.
"Yes, it is difficult to love your spouse. But if you truly want to love God, look right now at the ring on your left hand, commit yourself to exploring anew what that ring represents, and love passionately, crazily, enduringly the fleshy person who put it there. It just may be one of the most spiritual things you can do." (less)
This a good short book (less than 100 pages) and it grew out of two addresses that Joel R. Beeke gave in a family conference.
The book is divided in t...moreThis a good short book (less than 100 pages) and it grew out of two addresses that Joel R. Beeke gave in a family conference.
The book is divided in two parts, the first one deals with friendship in marriage and the second with sex. The first part was my favorite because very few times I have read in a book of marriage about the importance of cultivating a true friendship through life between husband and wife. The second half was also very good but, on my opinion, too superficial.
I enjoyed this book as much as I enjoy a good date with my husband to our favorite coffee shop. It is always refreshing to read about marriage, you always find a place here or there in your marriage that needs special care.
Aaron Armstrong has written a more complete review of this book here:
Excellent book. I would really like to encourage my female friends to read it. This book is not only about "how to be a father," it goes deeper, it de...moreExcellent book. I would really like to encourage my female friends to read it. This book is not only about "how to be a father," it goes deeper, it deals with many important topics that are threating the Christian biblical family such as egalitarianism and feminism.
Clearly stated biblical principles on courtship. Pastor Wilson does not give a set of rules or a "paint-by-number" scheme, which is something I apprec...moreClearly stated biblical principles on courtship. Pastor Wilson does not give a set of rules or a "paint-by-number" scheme, which is something I appreciated very much because clearly, every case is different.