This is the smartest book about psychotherapeutic relationships and what can so easily go wrong when 2 human beings are working together. Sue Elkind p...moreThis is the smartest book about psychotherapeutic relationships and what can so easily go wrong when 2 human beings are working together. Sue Elkind provides a unique perspective, and writes with genuine warmth, humility, and intelligence about therapeutic dyads. She gives examples about what in patients’ and therapists’ backgrounds can, despite their best intentions, lead to wounding and impasses in the relationship. She writes of those pairings that are mismatches and those which can be worked through. She reveals honestly her own experiences as a patient and as a psychotherapist. A very helpful book for both therapists and students, and patients who are engaged (or will be participating in) psychoanalytic, psychodynamic, relational psychotherapy work. I’m really surprised that this book is not more widely read; I recommend it to people all the time.
It's been years since I've read Frieda Fromm-Reichmann's books and papers, but this is one of two books that I still own. Her outlook on psychiatric i...moreIt's been years since I've read Frieda Fromm-Reichmann's books and papers, but this is one of two books that I still own. Her outlook on psychiatric illnesses might be somewhat dated, but her humanity, intelligence and common sense come through. Above all, she is a compassionate voice. And that never goes out of style.
She is the therapist of the girl in the fictionalized biographical novel I Never Promised You a Rose Garden by Hannah Green/Joanne Greenberg. Loved her in that book then went on to read her real writings. (less)
I read this book immediately when it was published in hardcover. And it was so special because many of the experiences and feelings written here reson...moreI read this book immediately when it was published in hardcover. And it was so special because many of the experiences and feelings written here resonated so strongly with me, and sometimes I was hearing them for the first time from someone other than myself, even though I’d had a friend and some acquaintances who’d experienced loss of a mother during childhood or adolescence. (Led me to join a motherless daughters support group, and some members of our group continued meeting on our own for years, which was a good experience.) This was the first book I read that really addressed the ramifications of losing a mother at a young age by someone who had the experience. It made me feel less alone, and it was an interesting read as well.(less)
Laurel Mellin is brilliant about people and about developmental psychology. She’s a R.D. who did her initial research at U.C.S.F.
Here, she describes...moreLaurel Mellin is brilliant about people and about developmental psychology. She’s a R.D. who did her initial research at U.C.S.F.
Here, she describes perfectly and with perspicacity, what happens when people don’t get/learn what they need (nurturing and limits skills) during early childhood, how that can lead to various problem behaviors (from overeating, overspending, overworking, not being able to say no, etc. etc. – just about under- or over- anything), and how adults, through tremendous hard work and practice, can learn & incorporate these skills for themselves.
Very hopeful about how even if we didn't get the parenting we needed when younger, it’s possible to parent ourselves.
Also, extremely helpful for would be parents, giving them information about how they need to behave to raise children who naturally develop nurturing and limits skills.
Despite what this might sound like, this theory and program are not at all “New Age” and, refreshingly, it’s not a 12 step program, but a unique technique.(less)
This book is an excellent adjunct to a book such as Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn or another general mindfulness book. While it stands on...moreThis book is an excellent adjunct to a book such as Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn or another general mindfulness book. While it stands on its own, both a general mindfulness book and, most importantly, a class or a therapy, is, in my opinion, the best combination of tools needed to deal with any type of mindless eating or other mindless behavior. There was nothing new for me in this book, as I expected, but unlike what I anticipated, I really enjoyed reading it, and feel that it’s a terrific book; it surpassed my expectations about its content. It’s a great little book designed to specifically help the reader work on any disordered eating and to learn to eat mindfully; I think it’s one of the best two I’ve ever read. While the concepts presented here are very clear and simple, implementing the suggestions is far from easy. But, in my opinion, the mindfulness techniques/skills presented here are the best way to develop a healthy eating pattern. This book could be useful to anyone who has disordered eating or problematic body image issues, from the very mild to the very severe. It’s a superb book, especially for those who’ve already had some experience with meditation and other aspects of mindful living, but I’d recommend it even as a mindfulness introduction if mindless eating is the prominent problem for them.(less)