"Say what you will about casual sex and the substance and quality of that experience, but the more casual encounters I had in my own periods of single"Say what you will about casual sex and the substance and quality of that experience, but the more casual encounters I had in my own periods of singledom helped me grow as a person and brought me to a place to be ready to have a serious relationship. It also make me realize the true value of that sort of connections and better understand the advantages and disadvantages of a serious relationship. Dating has its downsides, but it can be a lot of fun. Even when it isn't, when you're meeting other people there are always experiences that you remember and learn from."
"One expat from the United States, a twenty-seven-year-old named Ajay, compared the dating scene in Buenos Aires to an asado - a barbecue. "You get all these different cuts of meat cooking at once," he said. "You've got your sausage, which cooks fast. You've got your big steak, which is your best cut, which takes some time, right? You got to talk to all these girls at once just like you take care of all the meat at once."
After he made this analogy, I presented Ajay with a trophy that said, "Most Sexist Food Analogy of All Time: Meat and BBQ Division".
"At a certain point the cost of the work needed to maintain a fun single lifestyle outweighs the benefits. The nights when you have amazing casual sex star getting outweighed by the times you wander home along wasted and wake up hungover with a half-eaten burrito sitting on your chest."
"Your most casual encounter could lead to something bigger, so treat those interactions with that level of respect. Even if it doesn't blossom, treating the messages with that level of respect will surely make the person on the other end more receptive as well. There is no downside to it. And if you really want to go nuts, maybe a thoughtful phone conversation wouldn't be the worst thing in the world?"
"In a sense we are all like a Flo Rida song: The more time you spend with us, the more you see how special we are. Social scientists refer to this as the Flo Rida Theory of Acquired Likability Through Repetition."...more
"One of the uncomfortable facts of excavating this past is the strange effect that it had on my inner timeline. It's as if all of that experience--for"One of the uncomfortable facts of excavating this past is the strange effect that it had on my inner timeline. It's as if all of that experience--for that year unlike no other--has become compressed, distorted. Trying accurately to pinpoint one thing and its temporal relationship to another is hard. This fracture-world of memories is the legacy of what happened to me. The way you can see a flood's devastation of a landscape long after the waters have receded."
"Sometimes luck and genetics prevail over love and comfort. Not everyone is destined to fit into the successful model valued by our society. Sometimes atypical personalities are revered, like Steve Jobs."
"What does it mean to recover from a mental illness? Should I attempt to reach my full potential despite my illness--living like everyone else, shunning this disease that always will be in me? Or should I reach my full potential side by side with my illness--allowing it to propel me into a life I never would have expected? I don't want to recover, I want to grow, evolve, and transform through the traumatic experiences brought about by my illness. It's not recovery I am aiming for; it's surviving, then prevailing, and sometimes triumphing."
"You don't need to have lived my life to empathize with me; you just need to realize that I too am a human being and not my illness. I am not something to be feared, to be pitied or coddled. I'm you; we're the same."
"The first goal, when people are drowning, is to get them afloat. Reaching shore comes later."
"Over the years, I have tried more ways to escape this misery than one hopes for in a lifetime--from Western remedies to Eastern medicine to ideas that neither hemisphere is willing to claim. But nothing has ever shifted the sense I have that I am not suppose to be alive. And when existing feels this foreign and hopeless--like getting off a plan in Nairobi to realize you have forgotten to pack your legs--dying does not seem like the bad idea that most people think it is."...more