Bruce Feiler comes up with strategies for having a happy family; most of ideas make sense and you may have heard some of this advice already. He illustBruce Feiler comes up with strategies for having a happy family; most of ideas make sense and you may have heard some of this advice already. He illustrates his points plenty of stories. Interesting.
“Your father’s the glitter but I’m the glue.” Kelly Corrigan writes about some important times in her life to shed light on motherhood.
After college,“Your father’s the glitter but I’m the glue.” Kelly Corrigan writes about some important times in her life to shed light on motherhood.
After college, Corrigan and a girl friend take off for an adventure in Australia, where they each take jobs to earn much needed money to continue their trip. Many of the stories are sweet and funny, but I would recommend not listening with your kids because Corrigan occasionally drops some words you don't want to hear from your kids!
Corrigan's writing style is like a delicious snack that goes down easy, enticing you to take another bite.
Jim Gaffigan is a stand up comedian that has been labeled "family friendly" because he doesn't curse. That in itself is refreshing because when I seeJim Gaffigan is a stand up comedian that has been labeled "family friendly" because he doesn't curse. That in itself is refreshing because when I see "comedians/comedy shows" I know that is code for you will be cursed out/grossed out if you watch this. Jim's comedy revolves around raising his 5 kids with his wife while living in a 2 bedroom apartment in NYC. He is a funny guy mainly because he says what he thinks, unlike most of us who are trying to sound like good responsible parents. It was fun to listen to this audio book, but it did make me think of Joel, stay at home Dad to 4 kids that are 6 and under! I'm sure when they come for a visit, I will have some flashbacks.
Chinese American Tiger Mom Amy Chua and husband Jed Rubenfeld team up to explore why some cultural groups achieve greater than average success in someChinese American Tiger Mom Amy Chua and husband Jed Rubenfeld team up to explore why some cultural groups achieve greater than average success in some easy to measure areas than other groups do. They believe that these groups have 3 factors in common: A) a sense of superiority B) and at the same time a sense of insecurity (socially?), and C) impulse control/self discipline.
So if you ingrain in your children, "You can do it; I know you can! But don't brag and think you are actually better than other people!" Send that message and impart a work ethic and willingness to delay gratification, and your children will naturally come closer to reaching their potential, especially if you hold them responsible for their actions.
Can you believe that is controversial? It is if you say that while examining cultural groups according to many of the Good Reads reviewers. Many of these reviewers wrote their reviews before the book was on shelves, or if they waited until the book came out, they did not read the entire book. I know that because many reviewers complained about such factors as "some groups faced discrimination, what about that?" The authors did recognize that and many other of the complaints.
While I do not agree with all of the authors conclusions, I think this book is worth reading and examining. I am in one of the groups that is recognized for success, but I think there are other factors to consider, especially the role of the father.
My group has a low divorce rate and the children are more likely to be raised in a two parent home. Many people discount a father's influence, but I believe that having a father or strong male influence is critical to children. Leaders at the highest level of my group have encouraged fathers to sit down individually with each child at regular intervals and counsel with them. The same leaders have told fathers to treat the mothers of their children with love and respect. This is not enough to produce CEO's, but most of us would feel successful if we can take care of our families, teach our children values, and help others around us.
The authors stated that belonging to any group will not assure success or failure. I think they were trying to show certain factors are more likely to breed success, but you don't have to be a member of a different group to build on those factors. Foster characteristics in yourself and in your family members that will be helpful. ...more
2.5 Robison writes about what it is like for 2 people with Asperger's to raise a son with Asperger's. The first half of the book includes a lot of ramb2.5 Robison writes about what it is like for 2 people with Asperger's to raise a son with Asperger's. The first half of the book includes a lot of rambling; although you will probably learn a few things about Asperger's.
I thought Robison's other book, Look Me in the Eye; written about what it was like to grow up with Aperger's was better and more exciting.
If you are interested in what influences the behavior of children, you may find this book very interesting.
This is another book that referenced the stIf you are interested in what influences the behavior of children, you may find this book very interesting.
This is another book that referenced the study by Dr. Carol Dweck that praised one group of children for being smart and another for their effort. Those praised for their effort were willing to take a risk and rose to meet challenges.
Praise must be specific and sincere. Students who are not doing well are often praised, but this praise must be directed on what they are doing right. Criticism can be beneficial if given in a kind and loving way--lift the bar higher.
All around the world children are not getting enough sleep and it does effect their ability to learn, their sense of well being, and the obesity rate. Parent up and make your kid go to bed early on school nights!
Working parents won't like this, but high schools should start later than elementary and middle schools. Teenagers' biological clock keeps them up later at night and in need of sleep later in the morning.
I found the chapter on honesty fascinating. Most parents I know put a high value on honesty, but the author shows it doesn't take much temptation to break the will of young children. Also most strategies to promote truthfulness encourages kids to be better liars. Read the sad statistics in this book.
One study did find a successful strategy for encouraging truthfulness. One group of children heard the story of the boy who cried wolf (increased lying) and the other about George Washington chopping down the cherry tree and owning up to it. After George told the truth, his father praised him and this had a positive effect on that group.
If you are proud of your child because she/he is popular, you might need to know that mean kids are the ones that are popular and well-liked. Also there is a correlation between popularity and alcohol use.
Find out why your teenagers argue with you--and that it may not be such a bad thing after all.
Learn why you may not want your children watching those family shows that teach good family values.
Learn about language development in babies/toddlers and what parent behaviors increase that development.
Some take aways from this book:
Parents who are the most consistent in enforcing rules are also are the most warm and have more conversations with their children.
Instead of pestering your children with general messages like, "Don't drink or do drugs," teach them how to have good clean fun in their free time. Teach them how to entertain themselves.
Also, if you are going to start an argument with your spouse in front of your children, you better let them see the resolution.
Halfway through and really enjoying this because I know I did not push my son too hard--I'm definitely no where near as bad as the author! Colbert inteHalfway through and really enjoying this because I know I did not push my son too hard--I'm definitely no where near as bad as the author! Colbert interviews the author: http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colb...
First generation Chinese American, Amy Chua writes about raising her daughters the Chinese way. The Chinese way translates to plenty of hard work, violin/piano practice, more hard work, and no fun because the time has all been spent working. Chua is very successful herself, teaching at Duke and Yale, and this is her third book. Her rules of parenting are very strict and she isn't afraid to verbally abuse her children to get them to work even harder. The first 80% of this book is funny and easy to read. As her conflict with her younger daughter ramps up, I could feel the tension in her home. I couldn't put the book down, but I read with a bad feeling.
As I read, I constantly compared my parenting style to Chua's and what she calls the Western style of parenting (that is the feel good, let the child decide style). Battle Hymn is definitely not a "How To" book, but it does allow you to examine how a Tiger Mom style can be beneficial or how it can destroy family relationships.
The book also made me remember back when my son was in middle school and I dropped him off for a birthday party and everyone there was Asian...except Ryan. As that trend has continued, I finally asked him about his friends yesterday. He told me his friends are the ones that get math (he said this with feeling, not that they just get the right answers, they get math on a deep level that I never will)--and get the top grades. And they get Java and other problem solving. Then he switched the subject to what he was working on with the piano and how that is the only instrument worth playing, unless...maybe...a stringed instrument...like the violin. We talked a long time, maybe 2 hours--it was great, but I will spare you the details. Maybe the part of me that is a Tiger Mother produced an Asian boy on the inside. ...more
Child psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry wrote this book as a series of case histories with some overlap between cases. The cases and their treatments are wrChild psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry wrote this book as a series of case histories with some overlap between cases. The cases and their treatments are written in a very easy to understand way. In almost every case, the kids are damaged by their parents or caregivers. While all of the cases are different in major ways, in several of the cases the children are neglected from birth with little or no physical contact or nurturing. Some of the children are abused in various ways; all of the children are impacted critically, but Perry is able to help most to recover to some extent. Perry shows how family, caregivers, and others can help in the recovery.
The last chapter discusses the transition of society that has set the scene for the neglect of so many children. As I was reading the case studies, I did wonder how so many parents were so ignorant of simple parenting behaviors. How do people know how to take care of the very crucial stage of babies and toddlers?
Most couples today have a couple of carefree years without children, then have 2 or 3 in a matter of 7 years. Those children grow up and by the time they hit their teen years, are not exposed to being responsible for babies/toddlers. I did babysit a lot for the neighbors and learned from those experiences, but I really learned how to care for a baby when my Mom had my surprise brother a couple of months before I graduated from high school. It was a great experience for me, my Mom, and my infant brother--and for my Dad and 2 teenage brothers. My Mom modeled the behavior for lovingly caring for an infant and observed that I was able to follow her example.
Although I left for college a few months after the birth of my baby brother, I came home for breaks and continued to learn about raising a child--and I had fun doing it! Most families are too small to allow for much experience with very young siblings. The author makes some suggestions, but it seems impossible to reorder society. The last chapter will give you much to think about.