There were a lot of problems with this book. It's so easy to sloppily romanticise depression and mental illness that writers probably don'tGoddammit.
There were a lot of problems with this book. It's so easy to sloppily romanticise depression and mental illness that writers probably don't even realise they're doing it. Readers don't notice. These books make some readers angry because they believe tragedy and trauma are being used as cheap plot devices but others find it relatable and it helps them cope.
This one has a lot of sicklit tropes. It's a tearjerker. I hate that Finch's depression and death was used as fodder for Violet's post-traumatic growth, even though seasoned readers could probably see the suicide coming from a mile away. (I was hoping against hope it wouldn't happen.) This book made me cry (I cried through the last 50 pages) because it made suicide look beautiful but it isn't, goddammit, so stop making me feel like it is. Stop doing this to me, writers. Now that the bubble's burst, I hate this book for emotionally manipulating me by making a character so relatable I was identifying myself and my loved ones in them. I feel sad because the writer meant well and wrote from personal experience and this book must have been her coping with her own grief and loss...
Chris Kraus is so infuriating! Although, is there anyone in her life who doesn't love her and hate her aThis was disturbing and heartbreaking to read.
Chris Kraus is so infuriating! Although, is there anyone in her life who doesn't love her and hate her at the same time? She's narcissistic/selfish and self-victimizing but she's too brainy and honest and I can't help but forgive her even though this is so stalkerish I want to hug Dick and apologise to him on her behalf.
Chris wondered why 'female lived experience' has been read only as ‘feminist’ in her book and I don't want to do that. This isn't just a wonderful book because it talks revealingly about female sexuality and creativity and the creativity bias against women. It is wonderful because I feel like no book can come closer to capturing how being in love really feels, which is ironic, because this is the opposite of a love story.
Chris opens herself up and show us how being in love has truly been for her - how those butterflies in stomach were more nausea than exhilaration, how unhealthy obsession has been love's split identity for her (like every relationship's a disorder), how it's always been one-sided - which is brave.
This isn't the book you're imagining it is and you might be disappointed. This is bitter, has an unreliable narrator and can read like one long rant; but C. S. Lewis once wrote "We do not write to be understood. We write in order to understand." and I think that's so true for Chris Kraus. Remember that when you read this. This is fascinating because it is showing you the bare bones of writing. ...more
THIS GUY DOESN'T LIKE FISH. FISH! HOW CAN HE CALL HIMSELF AN "EATIE"?!
I really wanted to like this. It's FUNNY and it's about FOOD. What could go wroTHIS GUY DOESN'T LIKE FISH. FISH! HOW CAN HE CALL HIMSELF AN "EATIE"?!
I really wanted to like this. It's FUNNY and it's about FOOD. What could go wrong?
Turns out Jim Gaffigan and I do NOT have the same taste in food. There's an invisible Fast before Food in his book's name. We do not even look at food the same way. He says he tolerates sushi. I am sorry, Jim... but as a fellow eatie, I find that unacceptable.