We started going through this with Kate in 2014 when Kate was 3.5. We started with Sophie in 2017 before she turned 3.
Using this book, we taught Kids'We started going through this with Kate in 2014 when Kate was 3.5. We started with Sophie in 2017 before she turned 3.
Using this book, we taught Kids' Quest at our Presbyterian church from 2014–2018. Here's a related article on teaching theology to children. You can buy a copy here (Amazon is 10x as expensive)....more
About a year or so ago I first articulated to Kara something that I had thought for a while but had never put into words: Parents who discipline/trainAbout a year or so ago I first articulated to Kara something that I had thought for a while but had never put into words: Parents who discipline/train their children bless society, and parents who refuse to discipline/train their children curse society.
I disagreed strongly with nothing in this book, and I inherited these practices intuitively from my parents. I can see some people being disturbed by some of the recommendations: early age for corporal punishment (p. 28) and potty training (p. 86); discipline for intentional "accidents" (p. 87), prolonged thumb-sucking (p. 88), forgetfulness (p. 93), and dawdling (p. 93); assuming that only the father works outside the home (pp. 74, 101); etc. A few places seemed a little overly strict/formal, but nothing seemed unbiblical.
The harvest of peace and joy that comes from discipline could have been emphasized more—some chapters almost reach the level of shrillness at times (not that the content was incorrect). Dr. Spock is one of the bad guys (permissiveness, instant gratification).
Preface 9: presupposition that the Bible is authoritative 10: revival through homeschooling 11: harshness ≠ strictness
Introduction 14: low view of secular education/psychology
Ch. 1: The Biblical Basis of Discipline 18: biblical bassi for fatherly authority (Gen. 18:19; Ex. 20:12; Lev. 19:3, 32; Deut. 6:1–9; Deut. 32:46–47; Hebrews 12:5–9; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 3:4, 12 [and Ps. 78:5–8]); expect obedience 19: paideia; Webster's 1828 dictionary references numerous times throughout (mentions Eph. 6 in its definition of nurture
Ch. 2: Discipline: The Foundation for Godly Character headings: discipline, obedience, wisdom, devotion to God, knowledge of God, respect for authority 28: start discipline early (babies/toddlers) 29: volume ≠ tone; say "no" 30: flick hands 31: spanking—9-18 months 32: parents who refuse to discipline bring trouble on themselves and others 36–38: youth groups can be problematic (dividing age groups; desperate attempts to be relevant) 42: DeGraaf's 4-volume Promise and Deliverance 44–45: importance of catechizing and God's law 50: teach children to serve —> take care of parents when older
Ch. 3: The Rod of Discipline 56: real abuse is refusing to discipline; spank with thin stick on bare skin 59: "terrible twos" is not a phase that just disappears in time 60: diversion is merely avoiding dealing with the root problem (selfishness)
Ch. 4: Teaching Wise Conduct and Good Manners headings: piety or holy living, courtesy in speech, respect for life and property, eating habits and table manners, hygiene and cleanliness, self-restraint, quietness, industry, honesty 66: "A child who receives teaching about God for only a few minutes on Sunday, a grace at meal times, and some bedtime prayers thrown in at night is being reared in the pietist tradition" 67: Bible teaching and memorization 68: read/discuss/pray Proverbs (from age 5 up) 77: battles fought during mealtime can generate great rewards in the future 78: importance of mealtime: no TV, thankfulness, sharing, learning, laughing, storytelling 84: all of this behavioral stuff is an act of love for neighbors, self, and God 86: start potty training as early as 8 months! 87: discipline might be appropriate for some potty accidents 88: prolonged thumb-sucking (older than 3) needs to be addressed 89: church nurseries can be a crutch for kids who just don't know how to sit still 90: Susanna Wesley; dominion mandate (elsewhere in the book there are references to WSC 1, "think God's thoughts after Him," etc.) 92: chores at a very young age (2 and up) 93: forgetfulness can be cured; chore chart
Ch. 5: The Father's Duty to Establish Loving Discipline 99: no church leadership for fathers with uncontrolled children 101: assumption that the wife stays home 103: routine family worship; read lots! 105: invite guests for meals 106: another plug for homeschooling
Ch. 6: Susanna Wesley: The Legacy of a Virtuous Mother Not very informative.
Appendix A: Warning Signs Helpful section.
Appendix B: The Disciplined Child Descriptions from Proverbs (and elsewhere) of wise children.
Appendix C: The Undisciplined Child Descriptions from Proverbs (and elsewhere) of foolish children.
Endnotes 123–24: Chalcedon Report; Rushdoony; Moscow, ID 125: Freud ("animal-man driven by bodily functions and sexual energy") and Dewey ("permissiveness; learning by experience and feeling")
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