I liked this book and I pulled a few good ideas from it. I borrowed it from the library but I may even get my own copy. There are a lot of referencesI liked this book and I pulled a few good ideas from it. I borrowed it from the library but I may even get my own copy. There are a lot of references to CEOs and the business world, which isn't where I'm coming from, but I felt he gave enough other types of examples that I was able to see how the ideas could apply to me. 3.5 stars rounded up to 4. ...more
I pulled a few new ideas from this book, but not as many as I would've hoped. For someone who always flies by the seat of their pants and never makesI pulled a few new ideas from this book, but not as many as I would've hoped. For someone who always flies by the seat of their pants and never makes lists, this might be earth-shattering, but since I already use lists quite a bit in my life, it was a lot of repeat information. I think the most helpful section for me was the suggested apps to help you stay organized and for that it was worth reading. ...more
I definitely pulled some good ideas from this book. It provides some good food for thought on scheduling your day/week, prioritizing the demands on yoI definitely pulled some good ideas from this book. It provides some good food for thought on scheduling your day/week, prioritizing the demands on your time and fitting in time for pursuits that make you happy and fulfilled. It's broken into sections written by different "creatives" and I'm giving it 4 stars because some gave concrete ideas while others only said it would be good to be more focused, etc. but didn't really share anything practical about how they do that in their own lives. Overall, a quick read that I think gave me some good ideas that I will try to apply to my own routines....more
A solid three stars for this book that I was hoping to love more than I did. There were some absolutely beautifully written moments that I found myselA solid three stars for this book that I was hoping to love more than I did. There were some absolutely beautifully written moments that I found myself reading 2-3 times, but other parts were quite depressing and not at all inspiring to the writer in me. This should've been a quick read at only 111 pages and yet I would set it aside for days at a time before reading a bit more. This is definitely the author's particular experience with writing and not necessarily a guide or inspiration for others who write or aspire to do so. I will probably write down a few of my favorite parts that truly moved me before taking this one back to the library, but it's not one I would want to own and go back to repeatedly....more
I have a passion for volunteering and helping others and this book just further fueled that passion. It gave me ideas for more ways, both big and smalI have a passion for volunteering and helping others and this book just further fueled that passion. It gave me ideas for more ways, both big and small, that my family and I can make a difference. A couple years ago, my birthday request was that we do a day of random acts of kindness. It's still one of my favorite days we ever spent together as a family and I think my husband and kids would say the same. There are so many ways you can turn someone's day around and maybe even make a big impact on their life. This book has many of those ideas and will inspire the reader to think of their own as well. "Contribution" is one of my focus words for this year and some of the ideas I read here will be a part of that. If you're looking for more ways to give back, to find a purpose beyond your own small world, to show your children the value of a life that is about more than just their own wants and desires, I definitely recommend this book. ...more
I was drawn to this book after a particular day where I was aching to talk to my parents. I lost my mom 9 years ago after a lengthy struggle with diabI was drawn to this book after a particular day where I was aching to talk to my parents. I lost my mom 9 years ago after a lengthy struggle with diabetes and my dad 20 months ago after a heart attack with no warning. I knew it was normal to still be missing my parents, of course, but the level at which I still miss them and the fact that I often find solace in books (a trait I inherited from my mom), made me wonder if there were any books out there for adults about losing your parents. I discovered this one and I did find it helpful. The author validated a lot of what I've felt over the years, that losing your parents can feel like a very lonely situation, and he explained why. Adults who haven't lost their parents can live in a world where there is still someone who will likely pass away before they do, another generation between them and death. When you lose both of your parents, your own mortality hits very close to home. You reach another level of adulthood, one where YOU are now the oldest generation in your family. You start to gauge your life by the age your parents were when they died. Will I make it past that age? You experience major life changes -- new responsibilities, new choices. Do you try to maintain family traditions or create new ones? You discover the areas of your life (for example, holiday traditions) that your parents were still holding together like glue, even though you were an adult. As the author says, "It is a very unique kind of loss. A subtle shift occurs in a person's identity, whether they know it or not. As long as their parents are alive, they're someone's child. And after their parents are gone, they aren't, and that's a pretty profound change in how you see yourself and how you understand the world to be."
Friends who haven't lost a parent are often wonderfully supportive in the early days or weeks after you lose a parent, but society as a whole tends to send the message that this is "the natural order of things" and that you should accept it as a part of life and move on fairly quickly. And if you haven't experienced it yet, you just don't know how much it rocks you to your core when you experience this loss. After all, our parents have been in our lives since day one. Even if you aren't close to your parents, a huge part of your identity is tied to them. And if you are close, that's even more likely to be the case. But yet, there is an awkwardness that comes with talking about it with those who haven't been there. As the author says, "Adult children feel they must keep their feelings to themselves and mourn in secret." He also talks about the shared comfort you experience when you discover someone else has lost one or both parents. I've definitely experienced that. When I find out someone else has been in my shoes, there's a feeling of "You get me" and a feeling that you aren't completely alone. I could very quickly rattle off the names of my friends who have lost one or both parents because the moment I discover that, it's filed in my brain as someone who can relate to where I am in my life. I am so very happy for my friends who still have both parents and my heart aches a little for them when I think that they still have to go through this experience someday. And I truly appreciate those who have been there and know what I'm feeling. It's human nature to want to feel like you "fit in", like you're not the outsider, and I think we all instinctively are drawn to sharing with those who have similar experiences.
Another comfort I took from the book was the author's insistence that the "conventional stages of grief" are really NOT typically experienced in any particular order or specific timeline and when people think they should be experiencing their grief in a certain way, it leads to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. I loved this quote: "Pretending that grief -- which really is a fundamental and primitive experience -- takes place in our minds or that it can be conceptually organized and 'understood' is to risk misrepresenting grief's chaotic power and to risk missing grief's point altogether."
I know I will always grieve for my parents. This book helped me realize that the fact I still grieve for them, and the ways and timelines in which I do that, are perfectly normal. And that even though our parents should technically go before us in the "natural order of things", it is still a profound loss that shakes up your world and your identity.
I recommend this book for anyone who has experienced parental loss. I think it would be really ideal for people to read shortly after losing a parent as perhaps it would assure them that there is no one "right way" to grieve and that all kinds of life changes are normal after the loss of your parents before they spend a long time pushing the grief away or thinking they aren't handling it the "right way". ...more