I was totally mesmerized by the first third of this memoir, especially the parts about her 70s childhood and adolescence in southern California and abI was totally mesmerized by the first third of this memoir, especially the parts about her 70s childhood and adolescence in southern California and abroad and her relationship with her brother who was later diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. My interest waned as the memoir progressed into more recent history with Sonic Youth and the dissolution of her marriage. I wondered if the distance/ passage of time helped make the writing in the first third that much graceful because she's had time to process those memories.
To those criticisms that Kim Gordon isn't pro-woman or feminist because she is at times critical of other women, namely Courtney Love and her former husband's current lover--to that I say, nonsense and balderdash! Being a feminist does not mean that you coo over every woman simply because they are also women. Part of being feminist means that you don't have to please everyone and can comfortably make other people feel uncomfortable because you have principles and boundaries. ...more
I'm having a hard time give this book a rating. Many times as I was reading, I loved it, laughed out loud or read aloud some fascinating Nordic tidbitI'm having a hard time give this book a rating. Many times as I was reading, I loved it, laughed out loud or read aloud some fascinating Nordic tidbit to whoever would listen. Five stars!!! And then there were other times when I wanted to get into a heated, throw down argument with the author and took issue with his cavalier claims. Then it dropped down to a two. (For example, his take on immigration & gender equality in Sweden made my blood boil. He sounded like a Thatcherite neo-con in those chapters.) The author is provocative, to say the very least. On the whole, I really enjoyed this book, and have hundreds of new factoids about the Nordic countries that I will surely share with any fellow Scandophiles. (I just made that word up.) ...more
I enjoyed this book and found it a helpful antidote to the hyper-devotional, i.e. helicopter parenting, that seems to be in vogue these days. I apprecI enjoyed this book and found it a helpful antidote to the hyper-devotional, i.e. helicopter parenting, that seems to be in vogue these days. I appreciated the common sense argument that children whose parents preserve their interests and take time for themselves generally have greater autonomy and a better sense of self. I like the idea of Le Pause and letting children get immersed in playing by themselves without interruption. For sure, Druckerman is writing about raising children within a monoculture, or at least, much more of a monoculture than we experience in the US. We certainly would cut out some of the anxiety about child-rearing in the US if we had more shared norms or a 'cadre'--but I kinda like the cacophony of clashing styles and all the conversation that ensues. I did get irritated at times at how hetero-normative Druckerman's writing is and I also found it weird that she referred to feminism as if it were some charming but outdated fad. And all the stuff about losing weight to please Le Monsieur? No thanks. However, on the whole, the good definitely outweighed the bad, and Druckerman has a good sense of humor and can laugh at herself, so an extra star for that.