Although I'm pretty well-versed in the history of obstetric care in the US, this pamphlet gave somewhat of a broader societal context and analysis ofAlthough I'm pretty well-versed in the history of obstetric care in the US, this pamphlet gave somewhat of a broader societal context and analysis of how this came to be. It's amazing to see how far women have come in society since this text was written, but at the same time, how much work still needs to be done, and what valuable knowledge was lost to us due to the oppression and suppression of women as healers in times past.
There was a blatant "feminist theorizing" flavor to the book. As a feminist, I somewhat relate, but am also wary to a degree, as at times the authors take an overly dramatic approach.
"...[the feminist movement]...did not challenge nursing as an oppressive female role. In fact, feminists of the late 19th century were themselves beginning to celebrate the nurse/mother image of femininity. The American women's movement had given up the struggle for full sexual equality to focus exclusively on the vote, and to get it, they were ready to adopt the most sexist tenets of Victorian ideology: Women need the vote...because they are mothers..."Women is the mother of the race," gushed Boston feminist Julia Ward Howe, "...Woman is also the homemaker, upon her devolve the details which bless and beautify family life." And so on in paeans too painful to quote." (p.38.)
I suppose if I felt that women were still engaged in a major day to day life struggle for equality, I might consider such statements painful, but the authors' statements are, for me, difficult to relate to....more
I want to say that I wish I'd read this book back when I was single, except that I *DID* read it then. It is essentially an updated, more concise, sliI want to say that I wish I'd read this book back when I was single, except that I *DID* read it then. It is essentially an updated, more concise, slightly more lenient version of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right. But I read both at the time, reading this one first, so it seemed The Rules was merely elaborating on this little book.
In any case, the contents of this book were a hard pill to swallow. I certainly didn't succeed in following all of the book's advice, though there were things I was able to incorporate into my dating life SLIGHTLY, and they seemed to work. The thing is, I didn't quite believe in these books at the time. Now, with hindsight, (always 20/20, right?) I see how true they are.
Fine, not all women are so shallow (ahem...cosmetically inclined. Have I mentioned that I'm a little judgmental?) as to be excited by a manicure, makeover and massage. Not all women enjoy, or have the stamina, to make plans and GO OUT every day of every weekend. Some women are cool and fabulous and perfectly happy, or even happier, to remain at home and have some serious down-time. And that impedes the implementation of these rules/guidelines/whatever.
I totally recommend this book to anyone in "the scene" who's finding herself with limited options (or no options) and especially to my mother, who trained me think that asking guys out was a good idea. But not everyone is going to be able to hear it....more
Although this book was filled with stereotyped characters, the author's use of language and the (slightly predictable) but incredibly campy path thoseAlthough this book was filled with stereotyped characters, the author's use of language and the (slightly predictable) but incredibly campy path those characters take, as well as the underlying messages of acceptance make this a delightful and enjoyable read....more
This book, if you can even call it that, was a load of politically driven gay-propaganda drivel. i am all for the message of "know who you are, be youThis book, if you can even call it that, was a load of politically driven gay-propaganda drivel. i am all for the message of "know who you are, be yourself and love yourself at all costs" but the blurbs and pictures that belong more in a magazine than a book proclaim (falsely) that homosexuality is always inborn, never a choice (there are plenty of gay people who say the opposite) and that paints a partial picture that leaves readers with the wrong impression.
The content was cute, but suffered from a schizophrenic "be yourself and you will likely get bullied/beaten/be completely fine" message.
I was hoping for a book that contained mini-memoirs, and what I got was a booklet with a political agenda.
I hope the author was born with that little intellectual honesty so I don't have to hold him culpable for the partial (and therefore misleading) truth he's presenting.
The book earned it's second star through it's cute pictures and the few charming stories it contained....more
I was familiar with the halachot(Jewish laws) in general, so this just kind of provided a summary of the details. Because of my prior knowledge, the sI was familiar with the halachot(Jewish laws) in general, so this just kind of provided a summary of the details. Because of my prior knowledge, the stories didn't really speak to me at all. I personally felt that they were unnecessary in my case. But the halacha was certainly presented in a pretty clear and concise manner.
I'm looking forward to the artscroll book on the same topic. For long term reference, it seems to be a better choice. For initial study, though, this one is probably much better....more
I found this book to be a semi-interesting quick read. While many of the examples of poor behavior between spouses were really appalling, it was obvioI found this book to be a semi-interesting quick read. While many of the examples of poor behavior between spouses were really appalling, it was obvious that this goes on more often than it should. (As an unmarried person, while I may be shocked, I don't really get to have an opinion. I'm not in married shoes so can't judge anyone. But the behavior seems really shocking.)
Because of all the poor behavior examples, after a few chapters I was starting to not just get the point, but feel like these examples were both repetitive and beneath me. But towards the last third of the book I started to reframe some of my life's relationships with men (especially my relationship with my father) and see how the book can awaken a level of appreciation that would't have been in the forefront of my mind otherwise. And for that alone, the book was useful. Beyond this, it did have some clever (and new-to-me) ideas and words of advice.
It was a quick read and I would certainly recommend it. Little time and effort investment for decent output....more
This anthology was primarily limited to writings by people practicing (or rejecting...or something in between) various forms of Christianity, and JudaThis anthology was primarily limited to writings by people practicing (or rejecting...or something in between) various forms of Christianity, and Judaism...with a smattering of people dappling in Buddhism. Where is the Islam? The Wicca? The religious experience of gay people is certainly broader than this. I doubt there are no gay Hindus. That's my primary criticism here.
In large part pretentious navel-gazing, but also in part personal experience/anecdote/memoir, the stories were more pleasing than the theoretics and hoop jumping. Each author deserves his essay to be judged on its own, in it's own merit, and not lumped together for some mass review, and yet, my reading/internet access schedule didn't allow me this luxury. The sum ratings of the individual essays certainly rated higher than 2 stars, but as a compendium, it was missing essential elements.
The truest lines came from Gabriel Lampert's essay, "Bamidbar," although he also spewed some nonsense.
"I, for one, don't think that there is such a thing as a Judeo-Christian tradition. The two religions are so different that one might equally well talk about a Judeo-Islamic or Christo-Islamic tradition." (p. 186) and "Asking a Jew to participate in Christmas is like asking a Native American to march in the Columbus Day parade." (p. 192.)