It started off so well, so refreshing, and ending blargh. I only wanted to experience the world through the girl's eyes, like how it starts, rather thIt started off so well, so refreshing, and ending blargh. I only wanted to experience the world through the girl's eyes, like how it starts, rather than having side characters POVs 'take over'....more
I thought this book was going to be a collection of scientific case studies. Instead, it was a memoir with Craigslist interviews thrown into the mix. Coming from a science background, I felt myself cringing at HOW subjective this was. When I finished the book, it took me a while to process what I read and what I gained from it. Even though it was very subjective, I feel like it was still a decent read. But I was disappointed at the lack of objectivity.
I think the strongest aspect of the book were the interviews she did. We met many interesting, confronting, and good-natured people. I feel like there were two main ‘kinks’ that she explored through the people who messaged her. Swingers and BDSM-ers. I found it interesting to learn more about these worlds and how they exist (in the context of America). I liked how some of the characters in the book received quite a lot of attention, showing how complex each and everyone of us is. Society often likes to shun ‘sex deviants’ and make them out to be one-dimensional, to define them by their kink, but I liked that this book showed them as normal people with normal lives. Although, in saying that, I disliked how often Suzy referred to her interviewees as ‘sex freaks’. I think she used it endearingly at times but… it’s still not cool. (Continue reading at Ermilia blog)...more
This is one of those strange books that really touched me but I can’t give it more than 3.5 stars. I have struggled with the rating for quite some timThis is one of those strange books that really touched me but I can’t give it more than 3.5 stars. I have struggled with the rating for quite some time. It made me think, made me ponder, it gave me a book hangover for a little while. It’s a story of love, life, and regret. It makes you think about your choices, the people you have touched with your life and those that have touched yours.
I feel like that the authenticity of the storytelling and character emotions allowed it to carry that meaningful weight. Along with that, I really appreciated the writing technique which first drew me in. A story where we glimpse at their lives only one day year after year? How cool! I remember seeing the movie advertised and I was intrigued. Turned off by the romantic edge, I dismissed it. As I saw this book at a book sale for only a few dollars, I picked it up. I’m glad I did. It was a great distraction the weeks before my thesis.
Rain of Terror is a good book but a slow read. I prefer more fast-paced thrillers. I also didn't like when the perspective briefly changed to adjacentRain of Terror is a good book but a slow read. I prefer more fast-paced thrillers. I also didn't like when the perspective briefly changed to adjacent characters within the same scene. The characters were likeable and the story was interesting. In fact, I think the story's strongest point was its plot. I found the backstories and 'what-has-happened-here-in-this-town' stories more interesting than hearing about the main characters lives. 3 out of 5 stars....more
I've been looking to read some great sexuality books and I found this book somewhere along my search. The main thing that tipped me over the edge to buy it was that it was a graphic novel; an educational graphic novel book that role-played sessions between couples and therapists. Their Goodreads description is 'This graphic novel, with extra therapist’s notes, allows you to sit in as three fictional couples enter the counselling room.' And it's exactly that.
There are three scenarios that the book goes through: a new couple who are expecting a baby and the father is struggling with the idea of parenting, a couple who are struggling with their son and anniversary death reaction, and a couple who are about to get married but the woman suspects the man of having an affair while also dealing with a dominant mother who intrudes on their relationship. I liked the variety of scenarios but I would have liked more. I finished the book in an hour or so, and even though it has plenty of re-read value, I was kind of sad about how short it was. But then again, I also know how much effort and time also goes into making graphic novels and often they are finished faster than a heavy text book. I don't regret the buy though, it was definitely worth it.couples-therapy-dramas-of-love-and-sex-5
As you can see, you read the scene like a comic and then down below are the therapists inner thoughts as the scene plays out. Having this kind of perspective is fantastic as someone who studies psychology and is toying with the idea of becoming a clinical psychologist/counsellor. The extra insight provided by the therapist below the scenes are fantastic. It made me aware of what was happening in the scene and how the therapist was sculpting the session.
Even though this was still a book, I felt like it has been the most effective way of teaching these type of counselling skills through written word alone. I felt like I was watching people role-play and I was learning from the scene. There were some fantastic strategies, phrases, and questions that the counsellor used which I will make note of in case I do pursue that career path.
At the end of the three scenarios, the therapist Barbara discusses the session with her colleague Chris. They talk about the couple's dynamic, the individuals, things she did well, things that he may have done if it was him, alternative options, and even explored some of the therapist's insecurities. They were critical without being harsh. It doesn't read like they are trying to falsely paint Barbara in the best light either, they are both constructively critical about how the session could have been improved or tweaked by the therapist. This type of after-discussion was great as a student wishing to learn more about counselling. A fantastic extra that I really appreciated.
couples-therapy-dramas-of-love-and-sex-4Even though I think it had some great moments for teaching couple therapy, I was hoping that there would be a greater emphasis on sex therapy since 'sex' was in the title. Sex is covered but not deeply. Unfortunately, there is little on sex. Most of the sessions focus on getting the couple to communicate to each other and to find common ground. Naturally, this is very important to the work of sex therapy, so I didn't mind nor regret purchasing the book, but I would've liked a scenario where the root of the relationship's problem was in fact in sex. Not something else. But after all, even though sex is in the title, it is called 'Couple Therapy'.
I think that there were moments where the scenes could have been fuller. There are one or two moments where the therapist reflects with a sentence that goes, "In real life I would be using more reflecitng back, paraphrasing and circular questioning to emphasise with the extreme stress they must be feeling." While it's nice to hear what she would do, I'd much prefer you show it to me. You've made this book, you've made this scene, you're role-playing it through the book, why not just show us what you'd do in "real life". Students and readers want you to get as in depth as possible (after all, for students, this is meant to help prepare us to face the real thing).
All in all, I would've liked the book to be longer (because I enjoyed it so much), to have more scenarios (to teach me even more about common couples and different presenting problems), to go even more in depth, and have more emphasis on sex therapy (this might have been covered if there were more couple scenarios). I would have also liked to have had different therapists in different scenarios so we could get a feeling for how different therapists use different theories etc. The book mainly focused on systemic therapy. As a psychology student, I would have been interested to see a psychologist tackle a couple's problem as well, to see if there are differences in the therapies used.
My favourite scenario out of the three was the first. It was in-depth, authentic, and had lot's of interesting dynamics (multi-cultural couple, avoidant attacher, baby on the way, new couple in the honey moon phase). The third scenario felt the least... real. It was still informative and there were great moments, but the 'star struck celebrity' stuff felt a bit much. I did appreciate the addition of an external, authoritative figure trying to intrude on the couple's therapy though. I imagine that does happen.
It would be really cool to see this book become a sort of series where they explore more scenarios and target groups and have different therapists. I found it very useful and an enjoyable, easy read. Which is impressive since most educational books are as dry as toast. It was such a fun way to learn! I think this will be a book I will come back to time after time just to read up on some of the key points made.
I'm also the first person to review this book on Goodreads and Amazon. So that's cool!
Have you read an educational graphic novel? What do you think of using different mediums of teaching? Have you read a good book on couple/sex therapy?
I grabbed this book hesitantly. As someone who wants to learn a lot about sexology in a scientific and critical way, I was worried that this book would have too much pop-science. It was surprisingly enjoyable and I learned quite a bit.
The good: I really enjoyed the sexology history. There was a lot of content dedicated to sex researchers (like Kinsey and Masters) and their contributions to sexology and science. Even though I knew of the famous ones like Kinsey, I was happy to learn the details of their careers and achievements. I love reading research that is serious about sex. There is so much we have yet to learn because of how sex often makes people feel uncomfortable. And I’m grateful I learned more about these great researchers. I also liked how the author talked about the difficulties and barriers these researchers ran into as they tried to conduct their work.
The book also had a strong focus on sexual physiology research. Most of it is on sexual response. Even though there was quite a lot I knew, there was a lot I didn’t. I was fascinated by the chapter that discussed surgery options for men with premature ejaculation. I thought viagra or therapy were the only options ever explored!
I enjoyed her writing style for the most part. I liked how she took the reader from place to place and interview to interview. There were many interesting characters (researchers and surgeons). She could have just summarised her encounters but she made an effort to make it immersive which often scientific content can lack.