Maybe back in the 1990's this sort of memoir was revolutionary and spoke to the hearts of many young womeThis book seems as outdated as that picture.
Maybe back in the 1990's this sort of memoir was revolutionary and spoke to the hearts of many young women, but I was sort of sick of clichés and weirdly cringed at imagining Wurtzel calling her “Mommy” in a sad baby voice asking her to confirm her vulnerability. Actually, that was amplified in the Epilogue when she felt the need to tell people that she’s been on Prozac since its approval from the FDA and has been on a cocktail of other drugs, as if that means something to someone else who’s also on it.
I do want to say, I think depression is very real, and everyone has a right to their feelings even if it seems absurd or illogical. The human mind is as complex and looming as the universe and there’s much to learn and explore, hopefully in a resulting relief for those who suffer daily and silently. ...more
Having read Caroline Knapp’s other works I know I like her style of writing and the stories that she shares. However, when it came to this particular Having read Caroline Knapp’s other works I know I like her style of writing and the stories that she shares. However, when it came to this particular material I was concerned that I would not be able to relate or be engaged. Sure, I’ve had my fair share of drunken nights, blacked out even, but a love affair? Not really. My vices tend to come in less obviously insidious looking forms, still a vice no less. I also come from the school of thought that alcoholism has a lot to do with genetics, upbringing, then just love of drink and a feeling.
Having said that, I was engaged and I sadly could relate. Knapp seems to have this ability to turn a topic that seems to affect people on the fringes and turn it into a battle for one’s own fight for their own special brand of love; happiness; self- awareness; trust in oneself; confidence; peace. At times completely heartbreaking, with crossed fingers hoping for the best always, and even in the end Knapp may not have won over all the answers but that’s truth and that’s life. ...more
As mentioned before this is my second go at this book. The first time I picked it up I was in a kind of peculiar relationship with food and3.5 stars.
As mentioned before this is my second go at this book. The first time I picked it up I was in a kind of peculiar relationship with food and my body, and what I was really seeking at that time, shamefully so, was a "how-to". How to conquer hunger. I felt very greedy most of the time, and what I was desperately lacking and deeply needed was willpower. Willpower against everything, starting with food - then obviously on to shopping; sex; relationships; vices legal and not so, desires that always seemed so just naturally innate, and fully capable of taking control. So when this book seemed to give more of a social/political/cultural perspectives on the "why" and not "how to" I simply thought I've no need for it and put it down.
The second time I read it, and read it very quickly this time, I found it more absorbing. Again, hard to get into at first and I found some chapters lagging, but overall it was a good read. Well thought out, well written, honest, and interesting. I don't agree with all of her theories and ideas, but it certainly brought some insights that may have never came to me otherwise. However, what I do appreciate now and most of all is the way Knapp looked at "appetites" in the broader sense. Obsessions with food and weight are never solely about being fat, desire and control runs much deeper. And anyone who've felt an unmet need that seems insatiable knows that it can become very scary and the false cure of ironclad control. I appreciated, that someone could tell me the same, obviously with better words.
FYI. I know, not attending to basic needs is not willpower. I know what the problems here are. Willpower, sure a small part, but the drive is the real beast. ...more