Never have I felt compelled to write a review for a book before this one. Moran is a witty storyteller. I absolutely loved her intelligent sense of h Never have I felt compelled to write a review for a book before this one. Moran is a witty storyteller. I absolutely loved her intelligent sense of humor.I laughed out loud in many parts of the book and still laugh every time I re read these parts,including her wedding and her brush with fashion.I was in awe reading the chapter she was talking about giving birth to her first born, cringing at the very well written details and on my toes the whole chapter.I have the book on Audible too and She was the narrator and I absolutely loved her performance.And this is why I think this is brilliant as a memoir.
Her opinions regarding feminism though, not so much. She sounds like she thinks she is so damn sure of her opinions, she has this over-confident juvenile absolutely annoying quality. when in fact I found most of her opinions not deeply rooted or backed up by any real thought and consideration to the other point of view.
Let's start with this quote though. "For through out the history you read stories of women who- against all the odds- got becoming a woman right ,but ended up being compromised, unhappy, hobbled or ruined because all around them, society was all wrong. Show a girl a pioneering hero- Sylvia Plath, Dorothy Parker, Frida Kahlo, Cleopatra ,Joan of Arc- and you also, more often than not, show a girl a woman who was eventually crushed. Your hard won triumphs could be wholly negated if you're living in a climate where your victories are seen as threatening, incorrect, distasteful or most crucially for a teenage girl, simply uncool. Few girls would choose to be right.Right, right down in their clever brilliant bones but lonely. " I think it is one of the most brilliant things about feminism i had read. I was literally slow clapping when i was reading it and it has been the reason,besides her witty writing and the fact that I actually paid for the book , that I continued reading.
But then she moved on to very strongly stating some statements that go strongly against what she claims to stand up for, for example, the statement she made that a woman using her sexuality in the work place by flirting with her superiors to get ahead in the job, what the hell was that? Did she really compare "the guys" playing golf with their bosses to women flirting?! And how is that not sexist in every way, shape or form?
Her statements about hijab and strong disliking of it, I have no problem with that, A lot of people oppose it. but her reasons for opposing it are, to any one who have done the littlest bit of research into the matter, are pretty futile. Women who wear the hijab do not wear it to obey a "man". their God is not a "man". They are not doing it to "protect" themselves from men. They are doing it to reclaim their bodies. They are doing it to reclaim and own their sexuality and to be modest, equal and intellectual. something that goes against her "flirting to advance in the work place" way of thinking.
There is also her description of "Burlesque" to be so different from strip clubs that I completely disagree with and I honestly think is elitist.
and For someone who is supposedly standing for reclaiming women's bodies and reinforcing positive body image, her very harsh criticism of Victoria Beckham's toes was a little purpose defeating. don't you think? Same goes for her very strong opinions on pubes. Whole cultures and FYI religious practices worldwide recommend both men and women, shave their pubes! How she goes on and on about it being a form of patriarchal tyranny to me sounded very narrow minded and oblivious to the world outside a white westerner's prospective, something a self-proclaimed feminist should try to work on.
And oh my god. Lady GaGa! seriously? I have nothing against lady GaGa, she is a good artist and she might be a feminist herself. but to say that she is in any way a "Feminist symbol" is one big stretch! the whole chapter Moran fawns over lady GaGa, however irrational it sounded like a teenage girl meeting her favorite pop star,is fine by me. but trying to claim any rationality to the claims that lady GaGa should be symbol of feminism with reasons like when she dresses provocatively, it is for different reasons "she is here to disturb, not to seduce" ( I am paraphrasing) is absolutely absurd.
All in All, i think the labeling of the book shouldn't be feminist. it should be a memoir by someone who offers her opinions occasionally about feminism. but to label it as a feminist book with all these confused ideas about feminism is very deficient....more
There was no literary enjoyment in the sense of eloquent words and sentences but as always, i enjoyed being introduced into someone else's world, goinThere was no literary enjoyment in the sense of eloquent words and sentences but as always, i enjoyed being introduced into someone else's world, going through their lives with them and knowing their thoughts so intimately. Rice did that very sincerely. A lot of times i felt there was repition but it was soon disregared by the life lessons i learnt from this family....more