I threw out my back the day after reading an article by an economist that discussed the aspects of behavior economics that Marie Kondo got right. FindI threw out my back the day after reading an article by an economist that discussed the aspects of behavior economics that Marie Kondo got right. Finding myself stuck in bed for an undetermined amount of time (~1 day), I bought this for the Kindle and then read it in a little over two days.
I connected with this book in a much more significant way than I anticipated. I think what I appreciated most was that Kondo provides a framework for mindfulness about your life that actually works for me. Rather than encouraging you to think about what you can get rid of - she encourages you to think about what you want to keep, all based on the criteria of what "sparks joy". While her recommendations are intended to be applied to ::stuff::, I've found the mindset very useful in considering the non-stuff stuff I want to keep in my life.
There's a lot about this book that comes off as goofy, impractical, or ridiculous. It's also pretty easy to dismiss it by arguing that it's not possible to have exclusively things that bring you joy. But I've found it very useful, even though I'll never thank my wallet as I empty it out and put it away in its own special box at the end of the day. ...more
I really enjoyed this book, though I'm at a loss for anything particularly insightful to say. The highlight for me was probably reading about his visiI really enjoyed this book, though I'm at a loss for anything particularly insightful to say. The highlight for me was probably reading about his visit to Kink while friend who is also a Ronson fan was herself visiting Kink. My friend mentioned that it was a former armory. And then Ronson mentioned that it was a former armory!
Anyway, highly recommended if you're a Ronson fan, or if you enjoy seeing bad (or "bad") people getting their comeuppance, or if you feel even slightly perturbed by the mob mentality of the denizens of social media....more
I picked this up after hearing a laugh-out-loud excerpt on NPR and wasn't disappointed - but I also don't know that I'd recommend this book to anyoneI picked this up after hearing a laugh-out-loud excerpt on NPR and wasn't disappointed - but I also don't know that I'd recommend this book to anyone else. The funny parts probably wouldn't have been funny to me before I went through some of the circumstances the main character experiences. The same is true for the painful parts. Like her, I experienced an unexpected c-section and all of the physical and emotional aftermath, an alienation from myself and my pre-baby life in the first months of parenting, the sort of Stockholm Syndrome where your body and mind are worn down by sleepless nights and endless breastfeeding but you can't imagine doing it any other way. Her anger and hurt and restlessness and irony felt true.
But a lot of the rest of the book turned me off, particularly her relationship with her dead mother, her family, and Mina, as well as the visceral language used throughout.
I'm glad I read this when I did, at around 6 months postpartum, when my feelings about my child's birth and the first few months were less extreme. I don't think I'll read it again, however....more
When I was about 8.5 months pregnant, a colleague wandered into my office with a stack of books about sleep. He plopped them on my desk, saying that hWhen I was about 8.5 months pregnant, a colleague wandered into my office with a stack of books about sleep. He plopped them on my desk, saying that he hadn't read any of them - they bought a bunch of books when their sons were small, and read until they found something that worked, and then stopped. A warm endorsement!
It probably goes without saying that if you're reading a book about sleep, your kid is probably having trouble sleeping. It was helpful to be reminded of the wide range of "normal" sleep, and that our jobs as parents are to help him find his normal.
This book has a number of suggestions for gentle ways of supporting better sleep. They didn't work for us, but Louis has always been a light and reluctant sleeper, so ymmv....more
As with any "niche" aspect of parenting, people who practice BLW can get a little cultish. (As an example, I'm finding it hard to write this review wiAs with any "niche" aspect of parenting, people who practice BLW can get a little cultish. (As an example, I'm finding it hard to write this review without framing the helpful parts in judgmental terms! I'm not judging.)
One of the things we found interesting and helpful was the explanation of what happens mechanically for babies when they are spoon-fed vs feeding themselves. When allowed to feed themselves, babies learn (by gagging!) how far into their mouths to jab food and how much food they can put in their mouths at one time. They also have more autonomy in determining how quickly and how much they want to eat. (Sometimes this is annoying. Stop popping the cucumber in and out of your mouth and just eat it. But that's how they learn!)
Another thing we liked was the photos of babies eating, and the examples of shapes and formats of food that are good for babies at different stages of development. We obsessed over this when we were getting ready to start solids, and then more or less just followed his lead. Which is sort of the point of BLW!
I can't say that I read the book cover-to-cover, but I finished enough to consider this 'read', and would recommend it to other new parents!...more
I sincerely wish I'd read this book early on in my pregnancy as there are things I wouldn't done differently with more/better information about bedshaI sincerely wish I'd read this book early on in my pregnancy as there are things I wouldn't done differently with more/better information about bedsharing and sleep. Highly recommended....more
It's probably not fair to mark this as read as I had to return it partially finished, but I read enough of it to get a good feel for the content, andIt's probably not fair to mark this as read as I had to return it partially finished, but I read enough of it to get a good feel for the content, and will likely read it again if I'm ever pregnant again. Reading this dovetailed nicely with my skepticism/resentment of the state of contemporary maternal/prenatal healthcare. But I will say that I felt better about my (limited) options for breech delivery after reading the chapter about breech births - you'd think it'd be the other way around, given the shoddy studies cited against allowing women to try vaginal delivery of breech babies, but that's neither here nor there.
In short: if you're skeptical about mainstream medicine and want to get worked up into a righteous frenzy about how we treat pregnant women in the late 20th and early 21st century, this is the book for you....more
I'm pretty sure we were supposed to read this book throughout our 12 week Bradley Method class, but oops, we didn't. This book, like most books for/abI'm pretty sure we were supposed to read this book throughout our 12 week Bradley Method class, but oops, we didn't. This book, like most books for/about pregnancy, is heavy-handed in its message - and it its use of traditional gender roles and language. The Bradley content presented in our class was less pedantic and didactic and, well, out there. Skip this one - there are better Bradley books out there....more
Nicolas downloaded a whole bundle of parenting books for the Kindle, and I've been burning through one a week on the stationery bike at the gym. Not sNicolas downloaded a whole bundle of parenting books for the Kindle, and I've been burning through one a week on the stationery bike at the gym. Not sure why we have FOUR books that talk about France and French parenting - particularly as N has mentioned European skepticism of the US's fetish for the French (when we aren't actively hating on them) - but this is the first of that lot, and so far it isn't terrible.
After moving to her husband's native France with their two young children, the author finds herself in a battle of wills against the dominant food culture, one that values mindful and varied eating at designated meal times, bans snacking, and holds children to roughly the same rules for table manners and gracious eating as adults - whether that's trying everything on the plate, staying at the table until excused, or not making a giant mess while eating.
Honestly, I was surprised by how much I liked and agreed with the approach to eating and food 'rules' presented in this book. The French approach the introduction of food with the same persistence that American parents might approach learning to read - they keep trying until the child gets it, while also accepting that not everyone loves everything. They introduce new foods systematically, then build on the basic vocabulary with new preparations, textures, spices, etc. They also don't use food as either reward or punishment, thus mostly avoiding our culture of emotional eating - something I struggle with as an adult.
Ultimately, this book made me think a lot about my/our current eating habits, and about what we might need to change to establish healthy habits NOW, long before we have to think about introducing foods to Kleintje....more