Succinct and entertaining book. Squarely aimed at the average dude to give clear and direct advice.
Starts at the beginning - Understanding and DatingSuccinct and entertaining book. Squarely aimed at the average dude to give clear and direct advice.
Starts at the beginning - Understanding and Dating, moves to the middle - Romancing and Sex, and finishes at the end - Living With and Loving For A Lifetime. The checklist at the end of each chapter is an invaluable quick review.
This is one of the rare books I've purchased and I plan to frequently review.
While this book is full of New Age-y bullshit ("Bras have auras", "items in plastic can't breath and will be miserable"), there was enough there thatWhile this book is full of New Age-y bullshit ("Bras have auras", "items in plastic can't breath and will be miserable"), there was enough there that I kept reading. I was really torn though.
On the one hand, this book, in a way, rejects consumerism. It floats the idea that we should place some value on all this stuff. That quality matters over quantity, that we should actually put some thought into whether this stuff is achieving what we want, and that we should maybe enjoy what we have.
On the other hand, holy shit, this book takes consumerism to a place of worship. That, literally, stuff should bring us joy. No - family, friends, and a life well-lived bring joy. This is just stuff. Thinking that how you store your toilet paper is important is fucking nuts.
Read as a simple book on some organizing ideas around the house, it's fine. Thinking that you need to obsess over minutiae and that stuff will bring you joy? That's just pathetic and sad. ...more
I nearly quit on the grandiose beginnings of this book ("you have to promise not to use what I'll teach you for evil" and the usual subtext of books lI nearly quit on the grandiose beginnings of this book ("you have to promise not to use what I'll teach you for evil" and the usual subtext of books like this "I'm going to make you rich" are a bit more over than others).
Some of the talk at the beginning of the book about giant sales letters seemed a bit dated, but I realized that the current fad of 3-part videos are really just giant sales letters in a different form.
If you scrub those parts away, I found this to be a pretty solid reference book that I could probably use on my shelf. Having a little trouble writing a headline? Go to the headline chapter which is full of good examples and ideas to get you past a block. Getting ready to run a Facebook ad? Go through the checkpoints on what to do with a PPC ad to make sure you're not missing anything. ...more
I had a bit of trouble keeping straight the various factions in the book. Just remembering the differences of Shia and Sunni is difficult for some reaI had a bit of trouble keeping straight the various factions in the book. Just remembering the differences of Shia and Sunni is difficult for some reason - keeping straight three different Shia houses even more so, keeping straight all their leaders and their fathers - especially when they are all referred to as Sayyid - even more so. I think this is my failing more than the book's and it's slightly embarrassing for me - it's akin to saying all Asians look alike.
Or maybe that's the lesson of the book? It's friggin' complicated. The religious history is complicated, the factions make it even more so. Throw in a culture that is - I don't want to say under-educated - but has limited access to information (there's no mention of media in the book - newspapers, radio, tv, internet), makes it that much harder to know what is going on. Lastly, add in the secrecy/conspiracy/betrayal aspects of Saddam coupled with the factions plotting and moving against each other -- you've got a world where no one is going to know truth from fiction, up from down.
Or maybe I've made another semi-embarassing, semi-racist statement. The USA doesn't necessarily have those issues and yet we have a large percentage of the population that believes in total fallacies as well. Is Uncle's secret in the book any more shocking than our Speaker of the House being a serial child molester paying hush money to his victims?
Hmm, I'm liking this book more as I write this.
The ending of the book felt a little awkward. (Minor spoiler ahead) Saddam explaining that all of their problems are due to his regime conditioning the people for secrecy and betrayal seems a bit too pat. That remembering that their Arab, Iraq, and Islamic heritage in common far outweighs what pits them against each other, that if they could just remember the better angels of their nature, then things would be all right. Given the complexity of the first 90% of the book, a simple final 10% feels like a mismatch.
Or maybe I've embarrassed myself again but don't realize it this time.
The book was feeling pretty wallow-ish, then I got to this in chapter 8: "When I was a student I took a paper on Tragedy as part of my English degree.The book was feeling pretty wallow-ish, then I got to this in chapter 8: "When I was a student I took a paper on Tragedy as part of my English degree. This was not without irony, for I was comprehensively tragic."
This is starting to feel like an angst-ridden teen book with a hawk substituting for the goth clothing. I'm out. ...more