The way I feel about this book is kind of how I feel about The Biggest Loser in general - a bit contrived and cheesy, but with some truly inspirationa...moreThe way I feel about this book is kind of how I feel about The Biggest Loser in general - a bit contrived and cheesy, but with some truly inspirational truths woven throughout.
This wasn't the best-written book I've ever read, and plenty of cheesiness, but there were some parts that really resonated with me. I loved the focus that the author had on how she had to realize she was truly worthy in God's eyes and recognize her own worth before she could get healthy and lose weight.
"Acceptance, abundance, and joy - knowing who you are in God's eyes, living out the fullness of your relationship with him and enjoying the journey every step of the way. To me, these things add up to a life lived from that coveted place called peace. I'm grateful to say that after hundreds of prayers, a year of tears, and buckets of sweat, it's the place I call home these days."
"It's not easy to dig deep for motivation to stay healthy and capable and strong. But I do it anyway. I do it because I would rather suffer the pain of progress than the pain of being fat. I would rather celebrate the joy of well-made choices than the joy a cupcake can bring. I would rather leave a challenging legacy of healthfulness to my family and friends than a cheap one marked only by fun."
"I had to learn the hard way that you can lose all the weight you want, but unless you simultaneously lose the psychological assumption that you are inferior to other people, your weight will probably come back because you failed to address the deeper issue that's lurking in your soul."
"I remember that I am still a work in progress - physically, mentally and spiritually - and that God promises new mercies for every day. I remember that although I am not perfect, I was created in the image of God and that he clearly makes no mistakes.
You and I are worth the good decisions. We are worth all the abundance we can bear."(less)
This book was just "eh" for me. I like the concept of shame resilience and cultivating vulnerability as a way to live a more joyful and open life, but...moreThis book was just "eh" for me. I like the concept of shame resilience and cultivating vulnerability as a way to live a more joyful and open life, but Brown's writing left a lot to be desired. She seems to be an intelligent woman who has done some great research, but the book was clunky, SO repetitive, and seemed almost condescendingly dumbed down. We aren't first graders, we don't need the same thought repeated almost verbatim three times within a chapter. That said, her subject is interesting and I'm curious about her TED talk which I've heard good things about. Maybe she's a better orator than she is an author.
Some quotes I liked:
I want our home to be a place where we can e our bravest selves and our most fearful selves. Where we practice difficult conversations and share our shaming moments from school and work. We simply can't learn to be more vulnerable and courageous on our own. Sometimes our first and greatest dare is asking for support.
In order to deal with shame, some of us move away by withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets. Some of us move toward by seeking to appease and please. And some of us move against by trying to gain power over others, by being aggressive, and by using shame to fight shame (like sending really mean emails).
The three moves that are an effective path to shame resilience:
1. Practice courage and reach out! Yes, I want to hide, but the way to fight shame and to honor who we are is by sharing our experience with someone who has earned the right to hear it -- someone who loves us, not despite our vulnerabilities, but because of them.
2. Talk to myself the way I would talk to someone I really love and whom I'm trying to comfort in the midst of a meltdown: you're okay. You're human- we all make mistakes. I've got your back. Normally during a shame attack we talk to ourselves in ways we would NEVER talk to people we love and respect.
3. Own the story! Don't bury it and let it fester or define me. I often say this aloud: "If you own this story you get to write the ending." When we bury the story we forever stay the subject of the story. If we own the story we get to narrate the ending. As Carl Jung said, "I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become."(less)