This is one of those books that I'm not going to finish. And I'm one of those compulsive 'gotta finish it' kind of people that usually waste too much...moreThis is one of those books that I'm not going to finish. And I'm one of those compulsive 'gotta finish it' kind of people that usually waste too much time on books I'm giving the benefit of the doubt, hoping to find at least a little bit of value in. But this book... I could, but I won't. I'm just going to save myself the trouble and the time. And I'm Able to do that because from what I've read I already know that I highly disagree with the premise of this book and the ground perspective of the author.
Here's why: I'm a spiritual kind of girl. I believe in universal laws, like the law of attraction and karma and stuff. I believe humans have an ego that is fear based and that is often at odds with our souls agenda and wisdom. The ego thrives on fear, competition, separation, division and conflict. The soul operates from a state of unity and oneness and peace and wisdom and love and kindness. The grace of the spiritual can be fierce and difficult and challenging but it is kind and it always promotes growth. This book is ego driven. Dr. Phil talks about how the world is a competition and how to learn to manipulate other peoples and your own experience to get somewhere and to do whatever it takes: whatever works. He talks about a game of winners and losers, and if you're not the winner, that means you're the loser. That is the egos game. That is the game lots of people play, in which everybody loses (not ultimately, because even when we lose, we win. Ultimately we can only win, because we can't escape what we are, as souls, as beings of light. But humanity can lose. Earth can lose. If we keep relating from an egoic state of mind.) I'm not interested in playing the ego game and therefore I am not interested in reading any more of this book. I'm not here to play the ego game: I know already it doesn't work. I'm on a completely different path. McGraw and I simply disagree on the basic premise and purpose of life.
The potentially dangerous and confusing thing is that McGraw takes concepts or rules that holds some truth and are close to the spiritual laws and twists them around to fit the ego game and the egos purpose. So some of the strategies he sets forth can actually bring about an effect. The danger (in my eyes) is if it leads to more ego driven behavior, if it serves the purpose of division, if it is misused. That is always a risk since egos are clever and it takes anything that serves it's purpose in upholding a state of separation and uses it to that end.
For example, it's true that you can learn how other people work and then manipulate them to your own benefit. You can also use your mask, how you present yourself and what you do, to manipulate or deceive others. Of course your behavior and attitude has an effect. You can play the wolf game, be nice and sincere until your target is close enough and then wolf them down, eat them, destroy them, come out the 'winner'. BUT... Is that really how you want to be and act? Is that really how you want to treat other people? Do you really want to play this game, this way? Or do you want to use your knowledge, power and skills to heal, yourself and others? To take note of how others behavior affects you, more than how you affect them, so you can hold onto your peace, not so you can manipulate their behavior? I know how I want to live, I know these basic spiritual laws, and I also know how to use them for peace for healing, not for destruction and selfishness.
So be careful you are not mislead down a path that leads you where you don't want to go. Because some of what McGraw says might resonate with your intuition of what's true, and you might start following blindly. We all must use our own judgement and intuition to discern the truth, and here it was just clear to me that this guy really operates from ego, and his goals go completely counter to mine, so whatever he says that could or is on some level true is used for an aim that is at odds with mine. Actually, counter to mine.
As an example, McGraw states this at one point: don't believe me- see and decide for yourself. This is sort of a 'rule' in spirituality: everybody is their own judge and needs to discover for themselves. You can have help and guides, but be careful not to get a guide that is caught by their ego and that takes the stand of an authority, taking away your power. Your power is yours. You find out what's true. Anyhow McGraw says this, but what he does is a completely different thing. He claims authority, he claims his strategies are the solution to aaaaall of your problems, if you just read this book and do as he says you'll be in the clear. He wants you to live his truth - not your own. And the real catch is, that if you find out at the end you disagree, then you're still wrong. Then it's because you haven't learned or you're stuck in your old ways. Manipulation? Oh yes. McGraw even admits to this, and then goes on to say that now that he has admitted it, it's not really manipulation. Thanks for the honesty, but i'd say it's still manipulation nonetheless. It's just a matter of whether he's successful or not. I didn't buy it. And it's okay if McGraw thinks I'm an idiot. I'd rather be an idiot than live his ways, his strategies. Another point where I severely disagreed with McGraw is when he's listing all that is wrong with the world, including the teenage murder rate (4000 a year ), but in the end of the paragraph he claims that the saddest statistic of them all is... That 45% of youth has experimented with alcohol, 25% with drugs. SO.. McGraw thinks alcohol and drug experimenting is worse than murder?! Really?? It is more disturbing to you that teenagers try out alcohol or drugs than that they kill each other?! Just another example that we have very different values.
Anyhow, I suggest you go read some Eckhart Tolle, Neale Donald Walsch, Adyashanti or one of the many others who actually let you find your own truth.(less)
This book bored me so much. If it wasn't my finish complex I probably would have finished. But I was holding out hope things would change, speed up, t...moreThis book bored me so much. If it wasn't my finish complex I probably would have finished. But I was holding out hope things would change, speed up, that ann brashares would surprise me or just come up with one of those nice scenes she is so good at. Unfortunately they were a no show in this one. She wrote one of my favourite, had-to-own, books, 'my name is memory', and I can't really wrap my head around that she also wrote this boring, uninteresting, book. There was so much talk, so much description and not enough scenes and interaction. The plot followed the typicical script of a secret that didn't have to be a secret turning into a misunderstanding that became a wedge between two people. The way either of these people acted seemed unnatural and just plain dumb. Why so much beating around the bush, why not just confront the issues? I would never have the patience for that, I'm a face it kind of girl, and even if these two people weren't, they just still didn't make sense. It seemed their characters were more fitted for the plot than the plot happening naturally because of their personalities. What was probably meant as suspense was just boring. Just get on with it, just talk about it, just DO something for christs sake! ALL the characters were flat and stereotyped and unnatural, and I really didn't care for either of them. I couldn't even feel the tragedy because it didn't seen to happen to real people but to made up people. So yeah, no thank you.(less)
A thrilling read. I was encaptured in the crime and the mystery and the excitement of the now and the future and the time travel. Lots at stake. Mindf...moreA thrilling read. I was encaptured in the crime and the mystery and the excitement of the now and the future and the time travel. Lots at stake. Mindf*cking.
The love story actually took a backseat to that, even if they were cute... (less)
I love Adyashanti. His teachings, his persona, his words, his voice, his presence, his caring and loving nature, his peace, his humor, his downtoearth...moreI love Adyashanti. His teachings, his persona, his words, his voice, his presence, his caring and loving nature, his peace, his humor, his downtoearth-ness, his smile, his grace. He may not always be all of this, but that is how I know him. From the YouTube videos and the satsang I was lucky enough to attend, here, in Copenhagen where I live. This was my first book with Adya. And I've got to admit: I prefer him live. Or as close to it. I missed his voice, his laugh, and the way he speaks his words that goes right to the core of me and that I carry with me, as reminders. Much of what was said in this book I've already discovered for myself, so I didn't have many revelations. The brick wall image stuck with me. But there are some of the YouTube videos and the satsang that has had more piercing impact on me. Nevertheless, Adya is a teacher whose words and wisdom and presence reach me, deeply and profoundly, just by being close to them, I'm reminded of all this, that lies in me, in the universe. And that makes me better able embrace Life and What is. And that is a gift for which I'm grateful.(less)
This book didn't do much for me until the last pages. That's probably my fault (if there is any fault or a blame at all). It just didn't penetrate me...moreThis book didn't do much for me until the last pages. That's probably my fault (if there is any fault or a blame at all). It just didn't penetrate me at all. The words were mostly just words and I couldn't get at and experience whatever Krishnarmurti was talking about. And wasn't even sure I agreed.with or liked him all that much. Most of it seemed like stuff id already heard and in ways that I could better connect with. It didn't ignite my curiosity to dig deep into and meditate over the questions or words spoken. And it bothered me how Krishnarmurti kept demanding 'listen, listen, listen, not just to my words, investigate' me being all like, 'mister I'll damn right decide for myself when and how and to whom I'll listen. Just do your thing and let me do mine.' So Krishnarmurti talked and talked for pages on and on about this or that and I was supposed to listen but didn't really care. And then towards the end where it was broken up into shorter paragraphs, sometimes just a few lines, words began to sink in and ring true and I could connect with them. I don't know (hahaha. You'll get it if you've read it) why this was so. It was just different. I think I prefer Krishnarmurti in quotes and short, piercing lines, instead of the long monologues.(less)
Didn't find anything new in this book or anything old that was put in a different light. No lost teachings of Jesus that I could find or that was clea...moreDidn't find anything new in this book or anything old that was put in a different light. No lost teachings of Jesus that I could find or that was clearly stated. It seemed more like Prophets speaking and teaching, not Jesus' voice. Not that they necessarily differ too much. I believe in the Christmind that we can develop and gain acces to, and I too believe that Jesus has been misunderstood and things have been omitted or changed, and that he probably believed in and taught about reincarnation and karma and a whole lot of other things that we'll probably never know, but that each of us will have to decide for ourselves. The problem with this book is that in my opinion it pretends to be something it's not. It pretends to uncover a large chunk of the mystery around Jesus and it didn't. Not to me anyhow. I agreed with Prophet on several issues (but not all), but to me it was just the basics, so a bit redundant. I didn't come away from it with new ideas or new way of putting old ideas or more reflected or in touch with my truth. Maybe it's because I'm not a Bible fanatic and I've long ago come to the conclusion that it's a book written by humans for humans and that it is not the only Source to knowledge of God. And of course it can be read and interpreted different ways; even to support reincarnation and karma. And I think that just like with everything else we cannot trust anything just by the authority it claims to have - we have to constantly ask and feel within ourselves, wether it holds truth for us. Not as a whole, but in the parts. What do you believe? This statement; what does it mean to you? Is that what you think? How you'd explain it? The answers lie within ourselves, often prodded and hinted at from external sources (that we attract it that is put in our path), and whatever truth is holds depends on how much and what we are ready to see.
And I guess I've just already seen this; God is a loving God; we are Beings of power that are responsible for what we manifest; the karma law works for all and to balance things out and ensure our growth and learning; Jesus' words and teachings aren't defined by scholars and enclosed in the Bible - Jesus speaks. Still. To anyone who will listen. Which is why I find it pointless to put so much value on the specific words in the Bible, as Prophet also does. Reinterpreting and rehashing them. Yes there is so much MORE, not just to be understood by this one source, but to find, to hear, to learn - by other sources too! Don't stare blindly at the Bible, it doesn't hold the keys, it is not THE door, just open your mind and heart to Love, to God, to yourself. And you will find your answers. And they will come through many doors and many voices. Listen. Feel. Know.