I'm really sorry I have to rate and shelf this book as I do, and I will review it as gently as I can, while still maintaning honesty.
My main problem w...moreI'm really sorry I have to rate and shelf this book as I do, and I will review it as gently as I can, while still maintaning honesty.
My main problem with this book was the writing. It is one of the things that means the most to me, whenever I open a book, no matter the content. It is the primary factor in wether I connect with a book or not. And so please don't be stirred away from this book, just because it didn't speak to me. Because it might speak to you.
Depression is a horrible, consuming darkness that can eat away at people's souls, and drive them to, or over, the edge of suicide, to stop the pain that is torturing them from the inside or to unburden loved ones- an action driven by utter hopelessness. Unfortunately this book didn't manage to convey the pain I am sure Mona must have been feeling. It just didnt translate to paper, at least not for me. Mona's intention, of wanting to share her story, to reach out to others is noble enough, but reading this book it feels more like a defense of a mental state that Mona hasn't gotten to the bottom of herself, yet. And therefore it has little to offer the reader besides what one can look up in any description of depression; a list of symptoms instead of a transformative, deeply personal story that can provide hope and a deeper insight. It seems like Depression is cast as the Big Bad who just randomly chooses its victims, and im missing a deeper reflection of what it wants with Mona, and how it is related to Mona's history and her personality and view on herself and life. How it is tied to her values and her deepest fears. There is a whole lot telling going on, and very little to none 'showing'. This book could have used some scenery descriptions, dialogues between Mona and her theralist for example, metaphors and images, all to get the reader closer to a feeling, a seeing, a sensation of being there, with Mona, on her journey. Unfortunately we don't get that. We get an 'on the surface' telling of what Mona has been through, which might work for some people, but just doesn't work for me.
I wish all the best for Mona and her family, and I am happy that she made it through her depression. May the light be with her, always, to shine in dark moments.
I had to stop reading this, or I was afraid the eyes were going to roll right out of my head.
And even if I didnt finish this book, it was irredeemable...moreI had to stop reading this, or I was afraid the eyes were going to roll right out of my head.
And even if I didnt finish this book, it was irredeemable anyway.
The writing, the storytelling and the character portrayls were all so terribly done. Like oh-my-god-I-can't-believe-you-are-actually-writing-this kind of bad.
But either my standard is much higher (too high perhaps?)than everybody elses or i'm just one of the few people who care about those type of things, like ummm writing for example?! and who even has a standard. Because *sigh* would you look at those ratings? Average of 4.19, with over 12.000 ratings, more than 80% giving it 4 or 5 stars?! Really?! That is so undeserved and misleading if you ask me.
Yeah, I'm not a fan of this. I expect more, much more.(less)
Read the free chapters in an e-book, and so have not read the entire book (which is why I didnt rate it). Based on what I've read so far, it would pr...more Read the free chapters in an e-book, and so have not read the entire book (which is why I didnt rate it). Based on what I've read so far, it would probably be a 3 or a 4 star.
When you live with a preescholer you know that the parents are just as much (if not more!) in need of disciplining, as the kids.
I found several useful pointers and inspirering techniques in this book, and I agree with most of what I read and found the structure of the books into different 'issues', and the gradual texhniques and what not to do sections to each helpful and very reader-friendly. There were a few things that I didn't agree with or wouldnt want to practice, but this book works well as a 'pick-and-choose' to to fit whatever works for you, where you dont have to adopt everything, but it offers you are range of alternative ways of handling unwanted behaviour.
I am definately curious to get my hands on the full book and read the rest. (less)
In general I guess I have a problem with things, people, views, methods that are either too extremist or too generalizing, or both.
I'm not really a bi...moreIn general I guess I have a problem with things, people, views, methods that are either too extremist or too generalizing, or both.
I'm not really a big fan of The Right Way (for one as for all), and anyone who claims to have found it and who starts lecturing other people on it and how they've come to master it to perfection, I tend to regard with a bit of incredulity.
So as much as I agree with dear Alfie that children should always know they are loved, and that it is important to treat children with respect, to try to understand where they are coming from, that we, as parents need to reflect on what we are doing and why and how we can do it better, I just don't believe that rewards, limits or praise is always a bad thing, or that behaviorism got everything wrong (but neither did they get everything right), and that by setting boundaries or using exterior motivation techniques children will automatically end up question wether they are loved or not and with serious self esteem issues. That's a little too simplistic, limited, deterministic and reductionistic scope.
Parenting is not a clear cut way or choice of one style or the other, one of them being good and one being bad, of categorizing parents as either 'conditional'(=bad) or 'unconditional' (=good). I think parents will at some points be practicing one form, at other times the other, and that many many more factors play into how children turn out, that just this one way of categorizing parenting techniques. Parenting and childrearing is a messy business, and parents and children change and vary and different things have different effects on different people. No matter how much research Alfie cited, research itself is a flawed business that can be easily manipulated (just by selectation) and not a reflection of Truth. Just as much research exist to prove a point for behavioristic methods as for Alfies more romantic approaches. Both can be used and misused, and neither approach does well on its own.
So where Alfie is setting it up as a competition, that can only have one winner, I disagree with the whole Either/ Or stance. I would have liked to see more of a bridging and a reflecting aim than the campaigning and oversimplifying categorizing that was going on here.(less)
I'll openly admit that i loved the premise of this book. I'm not one one of the people who hate love triangles, on the crontrary, I love them. Can't g...moreI'll openly admit that i loved the premise of this book. I'm not one one of the people who hate love triangles, on the crontrary, I love them. Can't get enough. Throw a rockstar hottie in e mix, and you have me intrigued! But this book was just such a let down. Because it had potential as a story, to sweep me off my feet, but then the execution part just didn't go over well.
And thats why I had to quit this. There was just too many pages to get through, and out of the several pages I did read, none of them were any good.
The writing, or the storytelling, was a huge issue for me. For starters theres just too much description, too much being inside Kieras head, looking at the world through Kieras eyes, overwhelming us with details and gushing over Kellan every freakin' time she sees him, and how his face looks at that moment, usually being honest and absorbed in Kiera whenever she's around. For no reason at all the rockstar godlike heartthrob just falls head over heels in love with Kiera. Yeah, okay, sure, whatever. Another thing about the writing is the way the characters are formed. They are overly stereotyped and cliched and there's no real dynamic to them, nothing that makes me want to go on a 530+ pages journey with them, to see where they might end up. These are not people that I care to be in company with, that interests me, or that I somehow think I can learn from. They're props in a story about a love triangle.
So in the end, the premise and the story's potential just didn't weigh up for (what i consider) the bad storytelling and writing. A shame, really, if you ask me. (less)
I only read the amazon sample of this, but that was enough to show me that this book is not for me. Writing is terrible and so far the story way too p...moreI only read the amazon sample of this, but that was enough to show me that this book is not for me. Writing is terrible and so far the story way too predictable and all the charaters are caricatures: freaky outcast with 'mysterious' powers ( why dont i care?), new extremely hot guy shows interest in freak girl, popular cheerleader girls dont like freak girl, and yadda yadda yadda and on it goes. Actually i am glad the sample wasnt longer: because whatever is to come storywise it doesnt make up for the bad writing and, frankly, i just dont care.... (less)
I must admit, I haven't actually 'read' this book, since I couldnt get past the first couple of pages. So i quit, which is something I rarely ever do....moreI must admit, I haven't actually 'read' this book, since I couldnt get past the first couple of pages. So i quit, which is something I rarely ever do. But by then I was already put off by the whole thing, the language, the story, and found that the chance that this book would grow on me was slim. I might have been wrong, and I might get back to reading it one day, probably not though.(less)