I read this book a long time ago, when i was in my teens, so i dont remember it clearly, but it made an impression that lasted. This book is mind expaI read this book a long time ago, when i was in my teens, so i dont remember it clearly, but it made an impression that lasted. This book is mind expanding, but it puts philosophy in a frame and with a referencepoint, with little breaks where 'Sophies world' cuts in, to let you digest it all. I'll highly recommend it, if you like philosophying about life......more
A very good insight into family therapy from a narrative systemic perspective.
It gives you casestories with written transcripts of the interaction andA very good insight into family therapy from a narrative systemic perspective.
It gives you casestories with written transcripts of the interaction and Minuchins observations and reasoning for w´hat he does a long the way and how he interprets the whole thing, which I found very useful and interesting. And you get to see up close how he frames his questions and moves forward in the whole process.
I liked that he even included a case that was an example that he felt he wasn't proud of, and he should have acted differently, to show the readers how easily it is to go wrong, and how you in hindsight get another perspective of your own errors.
definately a good read if you are interested in or curious about therapy and narrative/systemic practise. ...more
She has a gift with painting pictures with words, feelings and people leaping of the pages, so raw and real you can aNicole Krauss writes beautifully.
She has a gift with painting pictures with words, feelings and people leaping of the pages, so raw and real you can almost touch them, and if you are not careful, they will cut you. Deeply. Really, with this book, “I don’t know what to say about it, except that it moved me in a way one hopes to be moved each time he begins a book.” And yet…. (view spoiler)[ if/when you’ve read the book, you’ll get what I did there. He. He….he. (hide spoiler)] I will try to say a few things more, with the help of some little excerpts from the book. This book is about ordinary people.
“Take for example the man walking down the street. You wouldn’t notice him necessarily, he’s not the sort of man one notices; everything about his clothes and demeanor ask not to be picked out from a crowd. Ordinarily – he would tell you this himself- he would be overlooked.”
And how, when you just look beyond the surface of apparent ordinariness, there’s a person that’s anything but ordinary, with feelings, and dreams, and thoughts, and regrets, and defeat, and joys, and suffering, and acceptance – a whole history that plays into their present and the choices they make, and the future that springs from those choices, and the people that they share their life with, both in their inner and outer world. Nicole Krauss gives the reader a glimpse into the world, that consist both the idiosyncracities, that makes every person’s life and personality different, but also the themes that lies behind them and that bind us all together - utter humanness, exposed.
“I try to make a point of being seen. Sometimes when I'm out, I'll buy a juice even when I'm not thirsty. If the store is crowded I'll even go so far as dropping change all over the floor, nickels and dimes skidding in every direction. All I want is not to die on a day I went unseen.”
Meet Leo Gursky, a man that the world doesn’t notice much, but who doesn’t want to be forgotten. “I knew that the way others had lost a leg or an arm, I’d lost whatever the thing is that makes people indelible.” A man, who has lived in solitude for much of his life, “Grammar of my life; as a rule of thumb, wherever there appears a plural, correct for singular.” , that thinks more than he talks, and who carries a history of love- loss- and regret, like most people. “The moment had passed, the door between the lives we could have led and the lives we led had shut in our faces.” , and who is now just waiting to die, to be gone in body, as he seems to have been gone in person, for much of his life. “Sometimes I forget that the world is not on the same schedule as I. That everything is not dying, or that if it is dying it will return to life, what with a little encouragement. “ What Nicole Krauss does in terms of bringing these existences to life and showing us the inner workings of a human life and mind is absolutely stunning. “It’s possible I cried. What’s the difference.” As far as looking behind the exterior and into the deep workings of a troubled soul, young or old, , she does an outstanding job, and if this is a gift she also has with real people, she could probably make an excellent psychologist. But. (view spoiler)[ I did it again. Hehehehe (hide spoiler)] As a writer you also have to be careful how you piece together the puzzle of your story, and that in the end the readers sees the grand picture, without any pieces missing. At least not any important pieces, that could damage the whole picture. And here I feel like Nicole Krauss failed a little bit, at least me, and why I had to knock off a star. Sometimes it was hard to keep track of the story, the changing perspectives or the point as to why she was showing us this or that, and unfortunately the ending left me unfulfilled. I’m okay with open endings, as long as I feel like it’s right for the people in the story and me as a reader to part (however little I might want to), and that we’ve travelled together on an important journey, that has now come to a natural end. But in this case I found the leaving was too abrupt, too many questions unanswered and without a proper goodbye or any real closure.
Nicole Krauss is a magnificent writer (as in writing). When it comes to storytelling, I think there’s room to grow. If a good book to you is one that is beautifully written, and looks into human existence, and you can live with a slow-moving, and not all that well-rounded up, plot, then I imagine you’ll like this book.
I was thrilled to be allowed to take a peak behind the curtain and fascinated by the personal stories as well as the glimpses of the eternWhat a ride!
I was thrilled to be allowed to take a peak behind the curtain and fascinated by the personal stories as well as the glimpses of the eternal. I can't help wonder though to what extent the 'filter' meaning the subject and the hypnotherapists interpretations plays a role? I know there are similar descriptions amongst them, but reading the dialogues I also get a sense of several (possible) misunderstandings/interpretations where it wasn't clear to me at least, what the subject was really saying and wether they had been understood by the hypnotherapist. Still, there was much, much interesting stuff going on and this material and this approach isn't something I've come across before. Did it answer all my questions about the life in between lives? No. Most definitely not. And, much as I enjoyed this book it has left me a little frustrated with all my unanswered questions about my own life, my own journey, most of all by the preparation phase. What exactly did go down, planning this life? Am I on course or did I get lost along the way? The only solution I can think of right now is to go find a hypnotherapist of my own that takes people to the lives between lives, if I want my questions answered this way. Maybe I will. One day. ...more
This was a great read. Here's a classic I actually enjoyed and found to deserve it's title as a classic.
This book was published over a century ago,This was a great read. Here's a classic I actually enjoyed and found to deserve it's title as a classic.
This book was published over a century ago, and yet, it is more relevant than ever. In nowadays society where beauty, youth and fame seems to go hand in hand with succes, and where people are often measured, appraised or critisiced for their outer self, more than the inner one, the tale of Dorian Gray, a handsome young man facing the fact that he will one day age, and lose all that his beauty seems to bring him, seems more relevant than ever. To Dorian, losing his youth and beauty seems like the end of the world, one he cannot bear to face. That leads him to make a wish with dire consequences. Enter magical realism. A genre I feel rather ambivalent about, because I find doesnt always work. If there is too much magic and it becomes an 'anything goes' kind of thing, it can ruin an otherwise great story for me, leaving me out of touch with the story. But then at other times it works so beautifully wonderfully well, that it takes a story to a completely different level, by using magic to twist reality, and amping, enhancing and showcasing certain points ending up making them so much more real. The latter was the case, with The Picture of Dorian Gray.
Besides the theme of the book being relevant, the plot being well pulled off, I also think Oscar Wilde did a great job, building up his characters and the way they interacted with each other. I found myself hooked from beginning to end, even when the plot wasn't really going forward, but I as a reader, was giving just as satisfying scenes, conversations or thought processes into the characters lives.
Oscar Wilde didnt become famous for nothing. He has a deep, psychological insight and a philosophical look at life, that questions our reality, our values and our ideals and he manages to write about them in a well-written, understandable, interesting manner, that leaves the reader a little changed, a little more in touch with themselves, a little more of an agent in life than merely a spectator.
What an intense, well-written roller coaster ride through Anais' mind, her passionate emotions and inner turmoil! So intenseHoly moly what a mindfuck!
What an intense, well-written roller coaster ride through Anais' mind, her passionate emotions and inner turmoil! So intense I had to put the book down, get away from all her thoughts and feelings for a bit, in spite of being in love with the book. But to be so deep inside someone's head is just exhausting. I can barely stand to be that deeply immersed in my own insides for very long. Because when you start probing and questioning and wondering about everything, then before long it all starts to spin, it opens up new layers, new dimensions hidden from view. Nothing and everything makes sense. The ground you were standing on - shaking. Exciting and scary at the same time. To keep digging, with the risk of falling in and being consumed by darkness, to keep looking and risk being blinded. But if you risk it - you might win the world.
It is said this book is about a sexual awakening. Youcan say that, sure, but it is also about so much more. It is about love in all shapes and forms. The forbidden one, the safe one. Desire, passion, fear, jealousy, love triangles (or squares or five, sixth or seventh-angles - I've lost count), security, friendship, homosexuality, incestuous (between cousins) are all elements that factor in and play a part. But it is also about self-discovery. Disclosure. Lies. Games. Power. Insecurity and confidence. About writing. About art. About psychoanalysis. For a psychologist like myself, that in itself is of immense interest.
Anais bares herself in her journals. Or at least you think she does. She writes so well about human emotions, the bad the good,the highs the low, the ugly and the beautiful, that you cannot but believe that she must know all of it. That here you are being given the key to her soul. That surely we are glimpsing into her true Being. But the thing you must ask yourself is wether such a thing exists? A true being. A truth. Objectives. Or if we make ourselves and each other up as we go along? Explain ourselves away, give the world meaning, analyses things until they make sense? Do we not always look at things from a certain perspective, with a certain intention, a history? And as time moves us, or other people look at that same thing, it changes, we change, people,mour feelings, explanations and stories change? That, I think it is wise to remember (if you believe it is so, of course), reading this book. You are glimpsing. You are making it up, forming a story from the pieces you are giving, just as much as Anais is, as the psychoanalysist is. You are not given all the pieces to the puzzle, because they have not all been defined yet. And that's what makes this all e more fascinating. We are reading a journal, how much more personal than that can you get? But if you have ever kept a journal (and i have) you also know, how you cannot write everything down, and that in writing them down you are trying to make sense of something, you are the seemstress, who weaves fabric together, who creates a coherent piece from scraps. And you would also know how looking back, reading what you wrote years later, you cannot always recognize what you wrote. You no longer see the picture that same way. Wouldn't tell the story the same way. You have changed, and so has the story. You might have captured a moment, as it looked from a certain vantage point, but can you claim to have captured Truth? Are your feelings at this point not just as true? And can you live with the contradiction of several Truths?
Whats more is, we are also reading the journal of a writer. And a very talented one at that, if you ask me. Someone who crafts with words, someone who knows how to bring stories to life, someone who gladly shows her diaries to friends and lovers, who seems to like (and expect?) an audience. So. Does that make it more or less true, then? That is, perhaps, the question.
"But what a superb game the three of us are playing. Who is the demon? Who is the liar? Who the human being? Who the cleverest? Who the strongest? Who loves the most? Are we three immense egos fighting for domination or for love, or are these things mixed?"...more
There's something very liberating and courageous about someone who is not afraid to admit their shortcomings, their fears, their resentments towards oThere's something very liberating and courageous about someone who is not afraid to admit their shortcomings, their fears, their resentments towards others and themselves - exposing the dark side of themselves to the light for all the world to see. And in admitting and owning up to their vulnerable, pitiful Self, there is healing. On part of both the speaker and the listener.
By telling our stories of how we hurt, love, grow, falter, rejoice, break down, mess up, clean up, own up, blame, judge, learns, forgives and is forgiven, helps and is helped, fumbles through darkness, reaches moments of peace, we piece ourselves and each other together little by little. We get a little closer to understanding ourselves and each other a d how to survive and thrive in the midst of the flutter and fluctuation called Life: back and forth, up and down, darkness and light.
I have the deepest respect for Anne Lamott, as an imperfect perfect human being and as a writer. Anne Lamotts storytelling is one of humor and of personal revelation, and as such it is an interesting journey to embark on. ...more
What I liked: -The overall storyline. -a glimpse into the lifestyle, the thought processes, the habits, the rituals, the cirumcstI'll make this short.
What I liked: -The overall storyline. -a glimpse into the lifestyle, the thought processes, the habits, the rituals, the cirumcstances of this time and these people.
What I didn't like: -The tedious, long, drawn out, recurrent, overly descriptive sections of food gathering, landscapes, tool making, cooking, medicine and so on. In my opinion the length, recurrence and amount of details were unnecessary for the look into this time and could have been left out, or placed elsewhere. In the back of the book, like a wikepedia-thingy or in a companion book, where you could look all of these things up in detail, if you were interested . -Broud. (Enough said) -the ending. I had a hard time accepting what and how it happened and that not more of a fight was put up form either Ayla or her people. I'm hoping that somewhere along this series there will be some sort of closure to this.
Have you ever read a book that you find so great and fascinating and important that you want to buy a massive amount of copies and give them to your lHave you ever read a book that you find so great and fascinating and important that you want to buy a massive amount of copies and give them to your loved ones and pretty much every single person you meet?
It’s not that what it said was new to me, it was the way it said it. Simply, yet so beautifully.
The messages of this books are like a gem, wrapped up in this wonderful story about a boy and his adventures and discoveries along the way, that makes this book one I (maybe naively) think everyone can enjoy and take from what they want and need.
And if people don’t enjoy this book, it is properly because they are in a place, where they haven’t discovered for themselves the messages of this book to be true. And so it isn’t, for them. (Yet).
But it was indeed true for me. I found the book both enjoyable as a story, important in it’s messages, well-written with the power of this simple language reflecting the simple, yet sometimes hard to grasp truths in life, and filled with layers and metaphors that make me see these truths from many angles and many layers, that makes this book the gift that keeps giving.
I definitely recommend everyone giving ‘the alchemist’ a read. It’s rather short, so if you don’t find in it something of immense value as I did, then no harm done.
And if you do, it just might give you something invaluable as it did me. A treasure and a means of penetration to the Sould of the World.
I found myself having to stop several times and just really think about what was being said and how thatThis book really got me meditating about life.
I found myself having to stop several times and just really think about what was being said and how that was reflected in or meaningful in relation to my life.
I was moved by this book and felt it was a window that opened my eyes to existence.
And so the book actually lived up to the rather promising title. Not all, but some dimensions of my life was revealed to me, through my own inspection, a curiosity nourished by this book and the questions and perspectives it took on life, that brought me one step closer to some of my own.
It was a short,easy read, with many little suggestions as to how to get started and just try practising mindI liked this book - I just didn't love it.
It was a short,easy read, with many little suggestions as to how to get started and just try practising mindfullness and meditation, as well as several good passages and points on how to be more present and aware in life, though many of them were already rather familiar to me, and, I must admit, expressed better elsewhere, if we do have to compare.
There were a few times, where I felt meditation/mindfulness got a little too promoted as the ultimate 'fix it' to anything and everything, and as much as I agree that we could probably all be more mindful and benefit from meditation, I just don't believe it is the one and only thing that can help us grow and learn. But those passages, (or moments if you will), were few and might just be the result of staying close to the topic. I am sure it was not the intention to promote and/or preach.
A good book for anyone who likes to or wants to meditate and try to live more in the Here and Now.
This book was EVERYTHING and more. It has left my brain stunned at it's utter genious, which is why this review probably wont be very coOH. MY. GOD.
This book was EVERYTHING and more. It has left my brain stunned at it's utter genious, which is why this review probably wont be very coherent, but who am I kidding? there is no way I could caption this brilliance that is this book anyway.
So I wont say much I will just say this:
From the very first pages I was encaptured by this book - loving the writing, and intrigued by the story. And as the story moved along, spinning pieces together, I just fell in love with it. Madly. Deeply.
THE CHARACTERS Felt real to me. They werent flawless, they made mistakes, had regrets, and they grew . I could very much relate to them, and both Lucy and Daniel had my respect and support. I felt I was loving, learning and agonising right along side with them.
THE ROMANCE Well-built, realistic and not overly romantised. Lucy and Daniel hasnt met or hooked up in every life, and there are a lot of conflicted feelings involved. But it still swept me off my feet.
THE PLOT/STORY Very well-crafted. I found Daniels perceptions about reincarnation, life and death very inspirering and resonant, and again the whole world and the people in it - BEN!! :) Joaquim :( - just all rang true for me, reeling me in. On this note I'll just mention the ending which has been a frustration to many. This book has a very open ending, leaving you thinking there will/should be a sequel. And I think that's how Ann Brashares originally planned it. Whether it is going to happen, still seems to be up in the air, from what I can gather from google. Something about approval from the publishers play into it, it seems. So it's not a lack of will. As much as I wish there was a guarantee of a sequel, the open ending, didnt ruin the experience for me. Couldn't. It was too good. I wouldnt have missed out on this book for the world. And I dont think any of you guys should let it discourage you either. Just know that all strings wont be ties up in the end, and you will be left begging for more, and that if we are lucky, our wish might be granted! I sure hope so, 'cause I am addicted, to this story, these characters and this world Ann Brashares has build. GIMME MORE!
THE WRITING Wonderful. Made me feel, see and hear everything that was going on inside and outside the characters and this world and made it all very relatable. I kept hearing Adele's 'Dont you remember' http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkM6Uq... over and over in my head while reading this, the lyrics are like scarily on point, and it's such an emotional song, that just really embodies how I imagine Daniel is feeling. I dont think I'll ever be able to listen to that song without thinking of this book. Which I dont mind, at all :)