I'm definitely between three and four stars on this one. For a book that has mostly the Bible as it's definitive source for relationships, Morgan actuI'm definitely between three and four stars on this one. For a book that has mostly the Bible as it's definitive source for relationships, Morgan actually brings in many since-proven conflict resolution strategies and psychological principles into the book. While I definitely do not agree with the idea of wifely submission that is promoted (and promoted not very explicitly either), I felt that Morgan was really calling for women to be more self-confident, embrace their sexuality, and to promote loving relationships within the family. I have no problem with Christian, stay at home moms deciding to get a bit more adventurous!
Other areas of contention with the book was the portion on children and homosexuality being caused by the mother, this has been proven to be untrue but at the time it was a huge concern that mothers were the source for male children's homosexual behavior. I found it pretty interesting that she could talk about the dangers of this and then on the next page start to proclaim how all children should be accepted as they are so that they do not run away from home or turn to sex or drugs. I got the sense that she did not think this applied to homosexual children and that there was no paradox inherent in that. I actually laughed a bit at that. Also, the whole "spare the rod, spoil the child" rhetoric has also been proven to be harmful to children's attachment to parents, but that wasn't known at the time.
Other portions of the book definitely highlighted the concept of non-violent communication (using I statements, not you statements, etc.). In this way, I think Morgan was ahead of the times in the way she approached communicating honest feelings in a non-violent manner.
Overall, there are a few golden ideas in this book if you can get over some of the gag-factor of some of the chapters. I read this book as it is cited in a lot of anti-feminist literature and I have to say that I didn't find what was so contentious about it. Yes, Morgan believes that stay-at-home parenting is best, but intensive parenting and having a constant attachment with a parent are proven to be good for children. Yes, Morgan centers her life around making her husband happy so he can go to work and earn money, but that's the life she has chosen. Yes, she says dress up in costumes and have a lot of sex, but really what's so bad about that? Yes, Morgan believes in God and is raising her children to have a life-view centered on faith, but a lot of people also do this. This doesn't make her anti-feminist. These were her choices in the type of relationship dynamic that she chose and she improved her life and made herself and her family happier. There's nothing inherently wrong in that. ...more