Overall this is a good book. For myself, I feel I have a decent understand on the subject, and I was keenly interested in what Sister Dew would share.Overall this is a good book. For myself, I feel I have a decent understand on the subject, and I was keenly interested in what Sister Dew would share. I really loved a few things. I disagreed with some. That's okay. I really respect Sister Dew. I also think this is a tough topic to tackle, because it is something that truly can only be understood as we seek answers from God and listen for our own revelation.
My favorite quote from the whole book was from Elder Bruce R. McConkie: "This doctrine of the priesthood—unknown in the world and but little known even in the Church—cannot be learned out of the scriptures alone. It is not set forth in the sermons and teachings of the prophets and Apostles, except in small measure. "The doctrine of the priesthood is known only by personal revelation. It comes, line upon line and precept upon precept, by the power of the Holy Ghost to those who love and serve God with all their heart, might, mind, and strength."
I hope that those who read this book start with the introduction. I honestly think she is trying to be fair and just share her own understanding. She states in the intro that she is hesitant to even publish this book for a handful of understandable reasons. She says she is still learning, she doesn't understand everything, that it's an emotionally charged subject, etc. Everyone reading any information about any misunderstood topic should put themselves in that mind set; I'm still learning. I don't know everything. More revelation may come. I may look back in the future and realize I was wrong at times. Questions are good, but seek God's guidance as you learn. I am a huge believer in being taught by the spirit.
I loved that she brought up the fact that women write her letters concerning her appearance after she speaks, "Everytime I have spoken in general Church meetings ... I have received letters commenting on everything from my clothes to the speed at which I spoke....But I can't help but wonder if men receive the same comments about the color of their ties or their haircuts. This is a huge issue all its own. We need to stop looking at one another as objects.
There were a few issues I didn't completely agree with her or where I didn't like the way she broached a subject, but overall I am glad I read the book. The first 2 chapters were great. Some parts felt like they were directly related to the book. I am always longing for more about Heavenly Mother. Only one page...too bad. But, I have my own revelation concerning her and I too have "a quiet peace about the matter" and I truly believe that there will be more revealed in the future.
I liked her chapter on Motherhood.
Thank you, Sister Dew. I hope that others will read your book with an open heart.
(Some background on me. I am mostly a feminist. I, for one, do not think women need to be ordained, but that is because I have my own understandings and personal revelation on the matter. I like that Dew said, "I am not a feminist. But I am pro-progression, meaning that I am in favor of opportunities and experiences that allow for the personal development and growth of men and women alike-." I completely agree with pro-progression. Some things in the mormon culture are so ingrained into us that we see them as doctrine. So changes would be good and I love the "modern Mormon feminist" movements for the dialogue that they start. I am all for getting people to think and change their thought processes, and that doesn't mean they will change their mind about certain things, it will just help them understand those around them and have more charity. I don't agree with an us vs them. My feminism is equality for men and women and sometimes I dislike using the term feminist because of its negative connotations. Learning and stretching ourselves is good. Questions are great, but beware of where you seek for answers. God may be slow to teach us, but when we are earnest, humble, and patient the revelation will come.) ...more
Fun read. I think those who would like this book already have a gaggle of children. The whole book it just a silly look at Gaffigan's parenting lessonFun read. I think those who would like this book already have a gaggle of children. The whole book it just a silly look at Gaffigan's parenting lessons learned or not learned. ...more
Incredible. Inspires me to be better. I love how this book shows a family coming together. The support and love her family provided was beautiful to rIncredible. Inspires me to be better. I love how this book shows a family coming together. The support and love her family provided was beautiful to read. I had been following her on Instagram and read some of her blog. Seeing where she is now and then learning what she and her family had to go through was amazing.
I read part of this aloud to Dave while he was driving. Hard to read while you are crying. ...more
Find a Disney Princess item. Look at it. Note that the princesses are NOT interacting or looking AT one anotheThis book gave me a ton to think about.
Find a Disney Princess item. Look at it. Note that the princesses are NOT interacting or looking AT one another. Even when Princesses are together they are isolated. Anyway, just one of the many things from the book that stuck out to me. A lot to digest.
I loved many things about this book, but I did not agree with everything.
The best part is just thinking differently about things. Now I have a more mental-stimulating walk through the toy aisles in the store. The girl toys are more irritating than the boys, but maybe it is because of the whole "sexy" theme in so many toys. I question things more frequently.
I want my daughter (and my sons) to grow up understanding that many things in life are trying to influence them, but I don't want to raise kids afraid to just play or who are skeptics. I also don't want them feeling isolated because they are the only kid who doesn't play with or watch certain things. For me it comes down to talking with my kids more about why a movie was good. Talking to them about the character traits of the main roles in the movie. Helping them to think about the things they spend their time with. I have more conversations about dolls, movies, etc. with my daughter than I used to about why she likes the things she likes. Trying to help her find value in good, and to make sure there is something of value behind the pretty. Hoping to help her see the difference between a princess she loves just because she is pretty and a princess who is beautiful because she does good for others or something. I have even found myself asking other children (my sons, my kids' friends) about products they love and why they love them. Mostly just out of curiosity. No agenda on my part. I am just curious. Some of the things in the book I have never thought about before. Preparing our children to value looks over all else. Grooming kids for older products.
The book was worth the read for me because my own understandings changed, and that will help me to parent better. The knowledge about certain subjects will lead to valuable conversations.
Interesting book. The second half of the book didn't flow for me as much as the first. ...more
I felt many things while reading this book. I am not sure I will articulate it correctly, but here goes.
I felt familiarity, contentment, disagreementI felt many things while reading this book. I am not sure I will articulate it correctly, but here goes.
I felt familiarity, contentment, disagreement, compassion, and even a little uncomfortable at times. (I'll admit it.) Maybe I am more "unorthodox" than I realize, because I didn't find her views all that shocking. Or maybe they have become normalized in certain circles. I didn't love this book, but there were a few parts which I found fabulous. I gave it 3 stars because of how it made me feel and contemplate. I think a good read is one that stays with you for a few days... or weeks. I will explain more.
The beginning was kind of fun. She writes about her life and what it was like being Mormon. I was raised Mormon, and still am happily active in the church. I could relate to much, but sometimes I would read parts here and there and think, "that isn't true for me." It sounds like she had a good childhood. I think she spent too much time obsessing about Marie, but I guess we all had things we obsessed over as teens... even now we (the human race) obsess over all sorts of people and things.
Later, when things stopped sailing smoothly I felt bad for her, but I also felt like she was playing the persecution card. Maybe that sounds terrible, and I am a little younger than she, so I didn't go through the BYU feminist excommunications. She talks about being an enemy to the church. She talks about her mentors/teachers being excommunicated... which to be honest I knew nothing about. She says she stopped going to church, but she worded it in a way where she was pushed out. She rejected her BYU diploma. She is never clear on whether she had any formal "disciplinary action", but kept a file of documents "in case"... that part of a little confusing for me. I am sad for this episode in our history. I believe in equal rights. I am also grateful for this trial. I hate that people had to (and in some cases still have to) struggle with these issues. You can't completely write off feminism or equal rights if you value your right to vote, or use birth control, or own property, etc. Society has had many hiccups/total disasters and we have had many brave people who sacrificed for our well being, for a better future. I know that this part of the review could be terribly long if I try to explain more of my own understandings. I will say this- I think we each have our own journey, and that the pure love of Christ heals all.
She says, “I am not the same kind of Mormon girl I was when I was seven, eight, or eighteen years old. . . . I am an unorthodox Mormon woman with a fierce and hungry faith. ” Well, I am not the same girl I was as a child, teenager, or even 5 years ago. None of us are the person we expected to become. We have fallen, failed, returned, denied, overcome, been crushed, pushed forward, and gotten back up. We have had harder times than we could have imagined. I too have a fierce and hungry faith. I may not always be how I want to be. I make many mistakes. I do my best to understand those around me. I am evolving and learning and praying. I love the quote from Ghandi, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.”
My favorite part of the book was the chapter toward the end (maybe it was the 2nd to last... I can't remember and have already returned the book to the library). She speaks of hope for a better future. I loved the imagery of the table where all are welcome. How I wish we could all come to that understanding. We all carry a loneliness with us. Together and with the love of God we can overcome anything. We are all facing multiple hardships. We all want love and acceptance. I long for that future where we can love, help, and accept one another no matter what. We can love each other and disagree with one another. We can have different views and still feel connected with each other. You could hate this book, and I could kind of like it, and another could LOVE it and we can all still be friends! That was the beauty I loved in this book. That is why it got bumped up to 3 stars. God loves us all.
This memoir is not for everyone. Some will find it offensive, whether LDS (Mormon) or not. Some will wholeheartedly agree with everything on its pages. I, as usual, fall somewhere in between. I will take the good and beautiful things from its pages and use them to try to make my life more like that ideal that I hope for. And either way, I will still be your friend.
(Wow! That was longer than I meant it to be.) ...more
This book is definitely not for everyone. I like 30 Rock, but don't recommend it to everyone because it is a quirky show that has some "inappropriateThis book is definitely not for everyone. I like 30 Rock, but don't recommend it to everyone because it is a quirky show that has some "inappropriate things." That is how I felt about this book. There were some laugh out loud moments, there were moments of random sailor swearing, there were chapters that I wondered why she included them. Anyway, if you already like Tina Fey, can handle the cussing, and want to read some random moments from Tina's life then this is the book for you....more
I have used this book for all of my pregnancies. It has a good variety of questions that are answered, but often leaves me wanting more. I think thatI have used this book for all of my pregnancies. It has a good variety of questions that are answered, but often leaves me wanting more. I think that there are so many ways to find this information online that it kind of makes this book obsolete, but I still like it and it is a good reference book. ...more
Very informative. I can see why some people would want to buy a copy to have as a reference while preparing and for the birthing itself. There was a tVery informative. I can see why some people would want to buy a copy to have as a reference while preparing and for the birthing itself. There was a ton of information that was laid out in a clean format. Easy to understand language and quite a few illustrations/drawings. It covers so many areas and seems to have a variety of women that the book is written for. There were many ideas I took from this book that I hope to discuss with my husband, doctor, and whomever might be joining us on this little adventure. ...more
The first half of the book is filled with positive (and maybe a little weird) birth stories. It is good to read birth stories that aren't just about "The first half of the book is filled with positive (and maybe a little weird) birth stories. It is good to read birth stories that aren't just about "how terrible" it all is. I sort of got tired of reading the birth stories (some were a bit strange for me) and I skipped to the 2nd half. I have been reading a lot of "natural birth" books and info lately and this one was well put together. I especially like reading about the history of childbirth. So many things/ideas made sense to me. I liked that she didn't just expect the reader to choose Midwifery. A few of the other books I have read are written in language that acts like that author's way is the only and best way to do everything. Ina May definitely encourages you toward her way of doing things, but she also includes information and helpful things for those of us who are still using a doctor and delivering in a hospital. I just want to get the best approach to drug-free birth as I can and will be using a variety of methods to hopefully do so. Anyway, went back and read the rest of the birth stories after I finished the 2nd half of the book. I liked this book, but it definitely isn't for everyone. ...more
I really liked many of the ideas from this book. I did feel that it took a long time to "get to the point." Like the first half of the book is just trI really liked many of the ideas from this book. I did feel that it took a long time to "get to the point." Like the first half of the book is just trying to convince me that Hypnobirthing is the only way to go. I probably wanted them to cut to the chase (learning the actual techniques) sooner because I already knew that I wanted to work on some of the hypnobirthing and I didn't need to be "convinced."
While I love much from this book, I still stand by giving it only 3 to 3.5 stars. It won't be for everyone, but I sure hope that having a different mindset and being better prepared for what is to come will help me as I attempt the drug-free method of childbirth. I went into my first birth completely clueless. I wasn't scared. I wasn't opposed to drugs. I had epidurals with my first 2 children and had a rough labor with my 1st.... mainly because the cord was around his neck, and well, that is a different story. But I am not a failure for using drugs. It was all I knew, I had healthy babies and that is all that matters. But I do think that reading many books, asking all questions you can think of, and talking to other moms about what worked for them will help you to find your own "best birth experience."
I think that with many of the different birthing method books you need to read them with an open mind as to what is going to work best for you. So many books, documentaries, and teachers out there claim to have to one answer for everyone and that just doesn't ring true to me. For me it seems that the best answer lies within myself. You can find what will work best for you. I like to take ideas from many sources to find what will work best for me. Which fit my personality better? Why can't I mix and match bundle of tricks up my sleeve? Because that is what I will end up doing anyway.
I have friends and family who have had their babies with drugs, or had a C-section, or gone "natural"- I like to call it drug-free, because having a baby is natural and if you need something to help you relax or numb the pain then by all means get the drugs. You can't tell a c-section or epidural baby from a "natural" baby. I think this is one point that bothered in in the book. You can't look at a person and know how they were delivered. I do think that being aware, calm, and with less fear can bring a calmer child because the mother is calm. Babies react to their moms and dads and the emotions they are feeling, but having an epidural or c-section isn't going to ruin someone for life. That being said C-sections and inductions are totally overused in our society. People like the convenience of knowing when the baby will come. They get frustrated when their due date passes, when a due date is really a window of a few weeks. Anyway, I could go on and on and on about the things I am finding in my "research."
I am really interested to find out how my next labor and delivery go (only 8 weeks til baby is due) now that I have a different mindset and a greater understanding of what I want to have happen. I wish I would have done research and found out all my options with my first 2, but I just went into the hospital expecting the staff to get me through it. Here is hoping for my best experience yet. Wish me luck. ...more
Had some good information. I wish I would have read this before having my other children. I was quite ignorant going into childbirth. I plan on beingHad some good information. I wish I would have read this before having my other children. I was quite ignorant going into childbirth. I plan on being well informed and decided on a few things this time around. ...more
Great stories, but the dialog was a bit cheesy at times (which the author states she wrote accurately to their personality, situation and character...Great stories, but the dialog was a bit cheesy at times (which the author states she wrote accurately to their personality, situation and character... or something like that). Anyway, still a good read because I could read a story here and there when I had a few minutes. I always enjoy reading about brave/strong people from history. ...more
"Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants." Great book. This book makes so much sense. It is an easy and entertaining read. I am not a very healthy eater"Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants." Great book. This book makes so much sense. It is an easy and entertaining read. I am not a very healthy eater. I love junk/processed foods, but I have been taking baby steps toward a better diet. This book helped me confirm and be able to follow through with certain food guidelines, because I was able to understand and logically think about what I am putting into my body. It is hard for me to let go of certain processed foods, but I am gaining greater desire to eat better and healthier. One at a time I hope to replace all the food-like substances I eat with actual food. I enjoy Pollan's writing style.
I recommend this book to everyone. Also go watch some documentaries about the way we eat, how food is processed, etc. Food Inc and King Corn are two I really liked. ...more
I love learning the history of the scriptures, and then beginning to understand the people and their decisions. I loved learning about the strength ofI love learning the history of the scriptures, and then beginning to understand the people and their decisions. I loved learning about the strength of these women, many of them nameless, and the sacrifices and strength they had. It helps me be stronger in my own efforts. ...more