Hmmmmm...Where do I start with reviewing this piece of fiction? It is not bad, but it is not good either...it moves extremely slow, especially in theHmmmmm...Where do I start with reviewing this piece of fiction? It is not bad, but it is not good either...it moves extremely slow, especially in the beginning. Followed by even slower plots and situations. I get what the author is hoping to accomplish here, but it did not work for me...Just like Michelle, I am a single, African-American, female around the same age; trying to attract the exact same things, however, things don't move this slow in the dating scene. In fact, I am surprised this book never included some of the rules one has to know in order to play the "dating" game....Also, there never really was a "list" in this book...just mention of creating one. I'ont know...(lol @ my ghetto short-hand)...I didn't hate this book, but I didn't fall in love with it, and it took me quite a while to finish (typically an indicator of if I am vibing with a book). The longer it takes me to read, means I am not having a good time! lol
Oh yeah! I don't want to forget to mention that there were good conversations held in the book. Godly conversations that are always great to read, especially when you are going through a similiar situation. IT IS worth reading for the spiritual tid bits, but bare in mind, this book moves SUPAH SLOW!...more
Basically, if your grandmother ever decided to write a relationship book, this would be it!
To be honest, this is a really good and quick read! I wasBasically, if your grandmother ever decided to write a relationship book, this would be it!
To be honest, this is a really good and quick read! I was totally excited about winning this particular book as a giveaway! I started reading 'How to Recognize a Good Man' the same day I received it, and would have finished it within the same day, but I started doing other things. I wanted to make sure I took my time and absorbed all of her principles. Each chapter is filled with great knowledge and wisdom, which aids in supporting some of my original ideas. I would definitely recommend this read to an inexperienced young female who has just started her dating adventures. But for us veteran daters, we already know how the wolves howl and how the bears growl, so most of the material just served as an afterthought...
The 1st Chapter begins with tips on how to find a man, and the last chapter ends with how to treat a ‘good’ man. Great set up and writing by Ms. Carol Grier. I would recommend this book as great summer reading to be discussed amongst friends. This will be a great way to laugh at common mistakes and challenges. Something to keep in mind, this book is written from a 'mature' interpretation of the dating scene and some of the advice may be a little skewed. ...more
Hmmmm...I have a neutral opinion of this read...to be honest, it was just okay. I have never read or experienced Mary B. Morrison prior to reading thiHmmmm...I have a neutral opinion of this read...to be honest, it was just okay. I have never read or experienced Mary B. Morrison prior to reading this particular book, and to be honest, I am a little disappointed. This is book is pure drama and fantasy...I guess??!? The main characters seem to get themselves in a pickle of a situation which results in craziness and drama! Nothing less and nothing more...I would recommend this book for lazy, beach days...anything else and you are asking for too much! I think this story would make a good television movie or B-List, straight to DVD movie......more
Sometimes, I am reminded of my own unawareness. Guess what? I am not the only person in the world...no literally; sometimes I have to be reminded abouSometimes, I am reminded of my own unawareness. Guess what? I am not the only person in the world...no literally; sometimes I have to be reminded about the world not revolving around me. Did you know that other people actually live here, with me? Breathing the same air. Making the same assumptions. Living the same life. On Earth. With me. And they have an opinion about the horrid events that take place, and sometimes...on rare occasions...their opinions may or may not influence my empathy levels...and this guy...Lewis something or another, does a great job of letting me - if only for a moment, experience a very Black event through the eyes of a Caucasian community. Realizing that, poverty doesn't fall too far from the tree.
Just for a second, a brief second of forever's time, I am able to understand how things on the surface often get dirty and need to be polished down...real good...the kind of polishing only Big Momma can manage, and just when you think the polishing is as good as it can get, and Madea has started sweating through her head scarf, you find a scuff mark...the size of a tip of an ink pen, and in this dusty, dirty, vague scuff mark you might find a small speck of insanity. And that insanity, for some, bares a resemblance of a forgotten historical story. Story? or reality? Iown know. But...
For Emmitt Till to still remain so forgotten and under exploited baffles me, but my perplexion just like my complexion should not matter...his death impacted America, regardless of race, gender or humanity...this man...No, this child...NO! This martyr. Mattered. And, this writer showcased the revolution, from the other side. ...more
Standing right here in my B-Girl stance, got my hands on my hips like I don’t care! Who's bad? What a collection of throwbacks, memories and tales simStanding right here in my B-Girl stance, got my hands on my hips like I don’t care! Who's bad? What a collection of throwbacks, memories and tales similar our everyday lives - the life we have allowed to become a surrounding surface of familiarity. When first introduced to before you suffocate your own fool self I was less than impressed, however I picked up this collection and eventually found myself intrigued. Honest Review: Some of the stories are great! While others left me underwhelmed. Virgins seems to be everyone’s favorite, and I think it’s because of the reflective imagery. We know good and well we have placed our “fast” selves in a situation involving poor decision making and jacked up friends. It was great remembering the times I just could not wait to act grown! When I found the consequences severe enough to bargain to God for rescue in exchange for never placing myself in another bad situation. This was a good book of stories. I really enjoyed the read. ...more
I am on the fence about literature developed for the sole purpose of acquiring monetary benefits. Now don’t get me wrong, I know this young lady wentI am on the fence about literature developed for the sole purpose of acquiring monetary benefits. Now don’t get me wrong, I know this young lady went through a whole lot (her son took ill, her husband passed away, and she needed money ASAP) however I’m not necessarily captivated by this tale. I have my reasons:
1. Great Imagery: The author gave a great account of a household full of abuse and sadness, as do most books capturing slavery…however, there is just one tiny problem…THIS IS NOT A BOOK ABOUT SLAVERY!!!! The “authoress” was never a SLAVE! At most, we can title her an orphan, but a slave or indentured servant would be incorrect titling.
2. Coo Coo For Coco Puffs: There were no indicated reasons for Mrs. Bellmont to walk around the house like a tyrant, and everyone just let her act like a crazed animal! There is much to be said about someone who inflicts abuse just because today is Tuesday. For her to be described as a person whom only dished out physical wounds towards “one” particular person does not make sense to me at all…I think someone got a little bit pen happy, and went in with their pen (smile). If someone is abusive it tends to arise in other areas of the person’s life…this is my two cents and I’m gonna spend them wisely (yep, another smile)…
3. WHY ALL THE GLOOM?: The book starts off on a somber note, “Lonely Mag Smith! See her as she walks with downcast eyes and heavy heart.” When I read those first two lines I was like awww hell! Here we go!!! I knew this was going to be a jacked up tale of mistreatment. Then I started thinking and before long…I was discussing the situation with myself…here is a snippet of the conversation: First Self: Why is this book so gloomy? Second Self: Because she wants to sell books. First Self: Why would sad books sell more? Second Self: Because jacked up circumstances moves units; refer to Uncle Tom’s Cabin. First Self: OH! (insert another smile) CONCLUSION: Folks were buying books about how bad slaves were treated, thus this tale could have been a bit embellished to sale more copies. Or not even written by Harriet at all, but submitted by her for authenticity purposes.
4. COME ON MOMMA: Frado’s mother castrates herself from society and lives a life of solitude until the day her rescuer comes along and offers his hand in marriage, how romantic. She marries an African American and bares two children. Quick thought, while in the care of her biological parents, Frado would have had to witness true love and remember what it was like to be loved by her biological dad. Thus, upon the very first physical blow issued from Mrs. Bellmont, I would like to think that Frado would have been looking for an oust…somewhere to go…a.k.a. the black side of town. You telling me there were no blacks in the whole state of New Hampshire? Come on now…And here comes another thought, the mother is persuaded to just give her children away…are you kidding me!!!! Who is worst? Mag Smith or Mrs. Bellmont? At least Mrs. Bellmont gave pour Frado something to eat, but dang, her mom just dropped her off at some strangers home, and they ended up being (in my opinion) mentally ill. I’m totally done…
This is a quick read. You will probably finish it in one day. I found myself a little skeptical…too much bad for someone who was not a slave! I didn’t get it…I have read books where mother’s killed their children to keep them from being a slave and here we have a free girl taking every blow handed…Yes, I am perplexed. ...more
Such an intense read! Found myself thumbing through this book and finding many secrets that I could relate to. This is a book worth wondering throughSuch an intense read! Found myself thumbing through this book and finding many secrets that I could relate to. This is a book worth wondering through and finding some rememdies for yourself. ...more
Educational read! Grasping the minds of 15-30 senior high schoolers probably was a chore for my English Lit. teacher, however, I managed to maintain mEducational read! Grasping the minds of 15-30 senior high schoolers probably was a chore for my English Lit. teacher, however, I managed to maintain my "good student" title by participating in discussions concerning Wabash (can't believe I actually read this book). Wabash is a story that chronicles a midwestern, industrial city, in which I reside. Good read...great storyline... ...more
Great read! I am never disappointed by Ms. J. California Cooper. I always seem to enjoy her books and short stories. I would have given this book 5 stGreat read! I am never disappointed by Ms. J. California Cooper. I always seem to enjoy her books and short stories. I would have given this book 5 stars if it were not for a reoccurring theme that didn't sit right with me. In almost every story, there seems to be some form of abuse or domestic violence against women. In “$100 or Nothing,” Charles was off the chain!…he emotionally beat his woman down into the ground (literally). Although she was able to pull a couple of fast ones over on him, I was still so very sadden by the conditions in which Mary left this earth. In all honesty, she went down into the dirt with her heart hurting.
In “Who Are the Fools?” Once again, Mr. Rembo was off the meter!!!! He seemed to mistreat everybody! So it was with avail that he beat up on his wife. “Loved to Death” kinda echoed the same story line as the stories before and after. A misguided woman in search of self through men, sin and gin, but never to find exactly what she set out to discover. “Say What You Willowmay,” was clever, because I enjoyed watching him come back to a love he once felt was blemished. Good stuff.
“He was a Man! (but he did himself wrong),” was super dope! Here we have the same frame with a slightly different picture. We start off with the description of a big ‘ole gal and her itty bitty husband, who of course…physically and emotionally abuses her. However, when he decides to leave her…she becomes self-reliant and decides to embrace her independence. In the midst of her husband leaving, she lost weight (through stress) and began working. Thus, she catches the eye of many men’s (I love the phrase men’s, it tickles me). As a result she becomes aware of what is right and wrong for her, but as soon as she realizes who she is and what she has become…here comes itty bitty mean ‘ol husband. I will let you read the book for the rest of the story line.
Then enters, "Color Me Real." What an interesting tell of race and love. Here we are introduced to biracial Era who is really in search of identity and self. Unfortunately, Era did not find love with either one of her husbands (both of whom were of different nationalities), and upon discovering Era's race, they both physically abuse her. She eventually finds love...which was well overdue. Last but not least, I want to discuss , "The Free and the Caged." Vilma is tired of the same 'ol life, and decides to hit the road. She comes across a stranger who falls in love with her. Upon her wanting to leave this man and continue her travels, he beats her up out of "love." He really wanted her to stay with him and all of his loneliness. But guess what? Vilma leaves him, but comes back because...she loves him...ummm...I don't know about this "fairytale." I get it, but I don't...
The point I'm trying to make is…I love this writer, but is domestic violence necessary for every tale?…maybe so…I dunno…just an observation. ...more
This is the first book I’ve attempted to read in one sitting! Whoa! Asha Bandele is definitely a poet first, and a writer second! She takes us deep inThis is the first book I’ve attempted to read in one sitting! Whoa! Asha Bandele is definitely a poet first, and a writer second! She takes us deep inside the bowels of a love story...the place we fear to bring up in daily conversations, but yet know exist. The unions we gossip about, as we attempt to be supportive to our friends. The incredible journeys that every woman is curious of taking, but finds it extremely difficult to let go and let love. The place in which we can experience a piece of heaven while going through hell. A place only made for the strong!
I enjoyed the overall story told, however there were times when the storyline seemed a bit scattered. There were also points that were not clearly defined or pieces seemed to be missing, thus the reason for four stars.
When younger, our momma's read us stories that came equipped with princesses and love, but this is not the tale of Princess Diana or Princess Kate. This is a "real" love story...filled with tears, crime and forgiveness. I found myself caught up in Rashid’s patience and Asha’s emotions! The realness and stillness of each character was incredible, and shows readers how "everything that glitters ain't gold," but sometimes we need to admire the "shiny stuff." This is a great read and I recommend this book to every person who believes in the audacity to love. ...more
Very great read! It was a nice follow up to "Waiting to Exhale." As a reader, I enjoyed where the author took me. It seems like I am at the age whereVery great read! It was a nice follow up to "Waiting to Exhale." As a reader, I enjoyed where the author took me. It seems like I am at the age where frustration has began to creep in regarding the dating scene. I am truly waiting to exhale! However, once we exhale, McMillian let's us know that everything that glitters ain't gold. Just because we wish for a fairytale wedding, doesn't mean we will live happily ever after. Which brings up a great point, when and how do we "get to happy?" ...more