FINALLY, a book that tackles the obsession with positivity in our country! While I think it's important to have a mix of emotional reactions to thingsFINALLY, a book that tackles the obsession with positivity in our country! While I think it's important to have a mix of emotional reactions to things, I've always detested the overemphasis on positive thought, particularly in the corporate world. It's so pervasive that I had an EMDR therapist bring up, with no irony, the book The Secret while I was seeing her for help overcoming my sexual abuse trauma as if simply putting out what I wanted to the universe could somehow resolve that. It's extremely disheartening to me that positivity has become such a cult in America that you either accept all its doctrine to get ahead or guarantee that you will always be missing out on various opportunities if you are judged lacking.
What really frustrates me is all the pseudoscience that has cropped up around positive psychology and how this is used to justify a plethora of things, from people dying of cancer (they weren't positive enough to beat it!) to Hurricane Katrina.
This is NOT okay and the fact that this rampant kind of victim-blaming happens as a result of our disturbing preoccupation with positive thinking should be alarming to everyone. ...more
There are many things I like about this book so it's hard to pin down what exactly makes it great. I love Gay's assertion that's it better to "be a baThere are many things I like about this book so it's hard to pin down what exactly makes it great. I love Gay's assertion that's it better to "be a bad feminist than be no feminist at all" and how critically she examines the intersectionality of race, class, and gender. With shrewd observation and nods to pop culture, Gay manages to make her book a fast, engaging read and challenge us to question all our preconceived notions of how our culture deals with POC in the media and life in general. Would highly recommend to anyone!...more