A great book for toddlers (or really anybody) who needs to figure out what to do when they're overwhelmed by frustration and anger. As my child approa...moreA great book for toddlers (or really anybody) who needs to figure out what to do when they're overwhelmed by frustration and anger. As my child approaches age two, tantrums are a part of our daily life, but Verdick calmly and simply explains several different ways for young children to express their feelings in less destructive ways, including the ever popular, "use your words". The back pages slso lay out ways patrons can encourage their toddler to express their feelings in a calmer manner.(less)
Hands down the BEST book to read your child who's biting. Most board books about biting simply tell the child not to do which in many cases (including...moreHands down the BEST book to read your child who's biting. Most board books about biting simply tell the child not to do which in many cases (including my son's) just makes the child angry and more defiant.
Instead, in addition to making it clear that biting hurts and you shouldn't do it, Verdick tells toddlers about all the other wonderful things their teeth do and gives them ideas of better things to do than biting people, such as asking for a hug from a grown up, telling the person you're mad (if anger is driving the biting), biting a toy, and asking for something cold to eat or drink (if teething is the main factor). There's also a page at the end laying all of this out for parents.
When my daycare provider told me my son was biting children repeatedly, I kind of freaked out, this book not only gave my toddler strategies to calm down, but gave me some too.(less)
I'm so frustrated because I've heard some of the general parenting principles taught here before and agreed with them, but Rosemond spends so much tim...moreI'm so frustrated because I've heard some of the general parenting principles taught here before and agreed with them, but Rosemond spends so much time spewing hate toward those who disagree with him and packaging his advice in an overly simplistic misogynistic package that I just can't pick through it to find the good stuff (and there really is some). Instead, I'm going in search of Christian parenting books that aren't so full of self-righteous hatred and bitterness.(less)
Researchers in language development present the findings on language development from womb to 3 years to a general audience. There's so much informati...moreResearchers in language development present the findings on language development from womb to 3 years to a general audience. There's so much information presented here and yet it's never dry or boring.
I picked this up because I wanted some ideas of what I could be doing with my toddler to encourage him to talk more (he clearly understands a ton more than the handful of words he'll actually say when he feels like it), but I kept reading it because I was fascinated to learn all the different skills babies acquire long before they're even ready to talk that make that achievement possible.
Golinkoff and Hirsch-Pasek break down the research at all stages of development (prenatal-3 months, 4-8 months, 9-12 months, 12-18 months, 2 chapters on 18-24 months, and 24-36 months) during the first 3 years to discuss what skills babies generally learn this period, what parents can do to encourage this development, a few fun experiments where parents can try to demonstrate these skills, and what might cause concern at this point (and just as importantly, what isn't a problem).
For the most part this is a pretty reassuring book, stressing that even before babies start talking, they're still busy learning a surprising number of skills required to make the leap to verbalizing, as well as stressing the fact that there's a wide range of ages where children learn to talk and most of the reasons children are speech delayed aren't even significant by the time they start school. As for my uninterested in speaking toddler, the book reassured me that as long as he's interested in communicating in other ways and speaks some, there's no need for concern until age 2.
As an English major in college and now a librarian, I'm definitely a fan of written and spoken language and was eager to learn about all the building blocks that go into using a spoken language to communicate. While this is written more for parents, there's enough concentration on the general building blocks of language (comparisons are made to babies learning other languages, including sign language, throughout the book) that any language enthusiast would find something to care about here.(less)
I was surprised how much I liked this book. On the one hand it seems like Occam's Razor (Keep It Simple Stupid) would be sufficient to describe minima...moreI was surprised how much I liked this book. On the one hand it seems like Occam's Razor (Keep It Simple Stupid) would be sufficient to describe minimalist parenting, making a whole book superfluous. But I really enjoyed it, even if it was mostly to confirm my suspicions that I wasn't depriving my child by not over-scheduling his life. Really the best part is that they stress throughout the book to take the time to reflect on your life and what parenting style works for you. Even if a lot of their specific examples have no application to my life, I appreciated that they stressed that what minimalist parenting looks like in one family will be very different from what it looks like in another family.(less)
I've been a fan of Honest Toddler's web presence for a long time, but as my baby turned into a toddler over the last few months, there was never a bet...moreI've been a fan of Honest Toddler's web presence for a long time, but as my baby turned into a toddler over the last few months, there was never a better time to read this book. Through HT, Laditan really channels that unapologetically self-centered toddler voice, with a sense of humor that really helped this mother of a young toddler cope as her sweet baby turned into a moody demanding toddler. Don't get me wrong, I love mg toddler. The new skills he's learning and the ways we're now able to interact are great, but growing up is hard to do, and sometimes you just need to find a way to laugh about it all, and HT offers that in spades.(less)
This guide typifies my feelings on most pregnancy/baby guides: too much "Do this" "Don't you dare do that" and not enough discussion of why or admitta...moreThis guide typifies my feelings on most pregnancy/baby guides: too much "Do this" "Don't you dare do that" and not enough discussion of why or admittance that there are a lot of "right" ways to do this parenting thing. On the whole her advice is good, but too many times I found myself rolling my eyes at some of her guidelines. In one she says you should introduce your kids to eating out from infancy so they'll quickly learn how to behave and then on the next page she says you shouldn't take your kids out to eat until they're three because they're just too hard to control before then. I think the real challenge in writing these guides is limiting the casual assertions you make that are fine when you're talking to your friends, but are far from universal and sound silly when you're talking to wider audience and putting them in writing.
I picked this up because I've been obsessing about all things related to starting solid food and I figure while I'm at it, I might as well see if there's any other big things for older babies I'm forgetting. Unfortunately so much of the baby advice industry is focused on each expert giving you their hard and fast rules that totally contradict another expert's hard and fast rules, so you just end up doing what your gut told you in the first place, and feeling like an idiot for thinking you needed to see what the experts said in the first place.
One thing that might appeal to others about this book, though, is that it's a guide for before your child arrives to three years, unlike a lot of books that stop after the first year. She really does cover a wide range of topics, so there should be something on just about anything that comes up during your child's first few years. Just realize this, like any parenting guide, is not the end-all be-all and so feel free to use your own best judgment.(less)