I'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simpI'm actually going to review this book as I read it. I actually find it very simplistic in dealing with relationships. Steve here deems men to be simple creatures who are all basically the same regardless of upbringing, culture or creed. He makes some really sweeping assumptions about both men and women. The fact that he assumes that all men are running some sort of game on us women tells me that he really does not have a broad view of people. To me the book sounds like the advice that a father gives to his girl child before he allows her to go on dates with guys, just to make sure that she is not duped into sleeping with them.
I must say the book is an extremely easy read as I was able to finish it within 24hours. But honestly towards the end I was really tired of the advice that Steve is dishing out. I’m honestly surprised that this book has made it to the best seller list and I guess it’s a testament as to how desperate we are as women to try and have successful relationships with these men. It is really sad to think that so many women are desperately seeking solutions in dealing with their relationships to no avail.
Now back to my review of the book, really the best thing about it is the fact that it is such an easy read and that you really don’t spend that much time getting through it. Which in itself is a blessing as honestly the advice does become a bit tedious towards the end. Really the whole book is a bit of a big joke and looking at it from that perspective makes reading it bearable.
Obviously not everything he says in the books is trash but in the same breath he really does not delve much deeper into the subject. The classic mistake he makes is in assuming that all men are the same and all women are looking for the same things in relationships. Mind you there is an audience for this book, narrow as it may be. But following everything he says in this book to the letter will really reduce your relationship to a game instead of something in which two grown intelligent people are building.
In terms of the advice it all sounds like the advice that a father will give to his daughter before she goes out on her first date. And this is evident when Steve retells the incident between his father in law and one his daughter's dates. It’s all the warning that a father will give his daughter to make sure that the men out there don't take advantage of her and use her for sex. Some of this advice might apply to a teenager getting to grips with the opposite sex. But once you reach a certain level of wisdom and maturing really the game playing is out of the question.
The fact that he assumes that as women we have no idea what some men are after really belittles our intelligence. Of course we know and sometimes it is exactly the same thing that we are after, sex. I just find the book a little condescending towards wise and experienced women because in all honesty if I have to run a game on you, in order to get you, then maybe we should not even be doing this thing. ...more
First the title of this book promises too much, it really does not deliver what it states. The use of the Disney theme ride and Sara, the guide, is coFirst the title of this book promises too much, it really does not deliver what it states. The use of the Disney theme ride and Sara, the guide, is completely unnecessary and really detracts from the ideas presented in the book. I was really annoyed by that and almost gave up on the book altogether.
The book though does have some redeeming qualities and some of the ideas presented by the author do make you think e.g. nature causes nurture, emotional signalling and loss of hair in females. In this book the author uses emotional signaling as the basis for the evolution of human intellect. I find it interesting that he attributes that the giving birth by females to young ones requiring love and attention as the driving force behind this evolution even leading to the loss of facial hair for females so as to foster a higher level of emotional signalling between mother and child. So I guess humanity can thank the women for being the key to human evolution.
He does not delve at all into the biology of evolution, he rather focus on the journey. The reasons he puts forward for the evolution of the human mind have also affected other mammals on earth but they have not evolved to our level. This is where for me he falls short because apes, gorillas and orangutans have the same ancestors as us. He fails to explain the split and why our brain has been able to evolve while theirs has not evolved as much as ours. Because they also have emotional signalling and other characteristics he attributes for our evolution yet they have fallen short.
He also fails in my opinion to explain the evolution of God from eye to eye (as he puts it) to heaven. But towards the end of the book I felt that he had his ideas together and they were clearer. I do agree with him saying that our intellect is evolving in leaps and bounds as opposed to the slow pace in the beginning. I honestly think that he does not need the use of the Disney ride to get his point across and its use makes me question his target audience for this book....more
This is one of those books that one goes through at a constant pace. The wealth of information and practical exercises make it an invaluable personalThis is one of those books that one goes through at a constant pace. The wealth of information and practical exercises make it an invaluable personal journey tool. I've made it a point to do each of the exercises in the book so as to discover what more I will learn about myself in general. I love the detail that she has put into the book without being too technical. The second chapter on the brain and brain mapping is necessary to give credibility to the claims she is making in the book at the same time it is not too technical that is makes loose interest in the book. She also notes her references throughout allowing any enthusiasts to research further and delve deeper if they so wish....more
my curiosity got the better of me in reading this book. wanted to be able to compare it to the movies. it reads like a movie and was written for the mmy curiosity got the better of me in reading this book. wanted to be able to compare it to the movies. it reads like a movie and was written for the movies. exceedingly syrupy and sweet to the point of nausea. an easy read as i went through the book quickly but it's not really a challenging read and the book does not deal with any life issues. it's just one huge make believe fantasy that always ends happily ever after. everything works out for the main characters and therefore leads to the book having absolutely no substance....more