In our highly sexualized world, it can seem as though some people are thinking so much about sex at all times, that women are almost not allowed to no...moreIn our highly sexualized world, it can seem as though some people are thinking so much about sex at all times, that women are almost not allowed to not conform. Joan feels that way, and has no problem voicing her agony when her husband asks to have sex,...oh, say...once or twice a YEAR.
Reading this book was quite painful to be honest because I truly just felt so horribly for her husband. Sexuality aside, there was no true compromise here or even genuine concern for his emotional well-being. Joan was pretty clear in her opinion that for him to even want her want him sexually, he was basically being a whiny, selfish and perverted little boy. Her "solutions" to their bedroom drama were all focused on her own comfort and she made little apology for it.
I began to think this was more a tale of an asexual woman trying to overcome or endure a mutually gratifying relationship. After dragging this poor man through sexual therapy, then berating him for being attracted to the therapist, engaging in masturbation, or even pornography, she still refused (and refuses to this day according the epilogue!) to give in more than scheduled and practically choreographed "relations", the conditions of which also included the occasional need for him to "finish off by himself".
The real story here was less about our sex-driven culture and more of how not to treat a spouse, in or outside of the bedroom.
All things being said, however, Joan was a very honest and transparent narrator. The story was well-written and jam-packed with information from therapists as well as other authors she contacted personally or cited.
I'm sure there are some women who really needed this tale, and I'm glad Mrs. Sewell had the courage to share it. Ridiculousness aside, I thought it was very funny at times, and I did feel sorry for her as she tried to explain the physical and mental trauma she felt when even considering sexual activity with her husband, even in spite of her love for him. She has a very humorous and no-holds-barred way of explaining how she and her husband fought to finally get on the same sexual wavelength, (to her dismay), and ultimately how they reverted to what was most comfortable for HER.
The book is fairly short, and if you want a quick, humorous look at a topic which really does affect lots of women, I'd recommend it. However, keep in mind that Joan's approach towards "solving" the problem may not agree with you.
This book was AMAZING. Ms. Skloot did an excellent job of nailing the black-speak given by Henrietta’s family. I was equally gratified with her abilit...moreThis book was AMAZING. Ms. Skloot did an excellent job of nailing the black-speak given by Henrietta’s family. I was equally gratified with her ability to provide just enough back-story to engage us in not only what her cells became, but who Henrietta was. There were times very early in the book that I found myself weeping for this woman, whose story, though I’d never heard it before, was somehow familiar to me. I was infatuated with the world surrounding HeLa, the name given to Henrietta’s cells. Cells that eventually were used to develop vaccines and medicines for cervical cancer and HPV, flown into space, and blown up in atom bombs. I would encourage anyone with a passion for good story, medicine, and a trip down a rabbit hole, to visit the library and check this book out. I was severely impressed. Informative, Well-Written, Engaging, Well-Researched, Health-Conscious, and Passionate(less)
Very important look at the effects foster care has on young adults. I was in love with the writing contained in this book, and found it to be more hon...moreVery important look at the effects foster care has on young adults. I was in love with the writing contained in this book, and found it to be more honest than expected. (less)
Not only was it humorous, but the illustrations were perfect. Although it is a great title for talking about being different, I found it would be also...moreNot only was it humorous, but the illustrations were perfect. Although it is a great title for talking about being different, I found it would be also a good book for discussing adoption.(less)
sigh. Once again, I'm on the opposite side of the review fence. Everyone else seems to love this book. I was unimpressed.
So many things turned me off...moresigh. Once again, I'm on the opposite side of the review fence. Everyone else seems to love this book. I was unimpressed.
So many things turned me off. It felt as though McCafferty tried too hard to introduce a new brand of lingo and it was annoyingly basic.
There was no real catalyst for the girl's change in personality. Just all of a sudden, "I hate everything I said I loved about myself". Huh?
I did appreciate the emphasis being placed back on love and actual relationships. The freedom to choose how to live is the backstory of all great dystopian novels, but McCafferty seems to have tried a bit too hard. She tried to adhere to the formula just for formula's sake, and it was just not as riveting a story as it could have been.
I also found it a bit one-sided because there was no exploration into the feelings that the actual infertile adults were having. She basically said what she wanted to say about religion and reproductive technology, and wrapped it up under the guise of advocating for choices and reproductive rights. She made all the adults in the book sound like spoiled brats who wanted designer babies. Which, I know is also a staple in the dystopian novel, but unlike other dystopias, McCafferty's adults had REASON to be distraught. There was REASON for the need to procreate. So rebelling against the system in the way in which she chose to have her characters rebel, was kind of stupid.
The book also ended on an awkward note and left me thinking, "Ugh, there's going to be another one? What the hell for?" Bah humbug.(less)
Lottie Paris is a busy young lady today. She and Papa Pete have to visit the park, Lottie has to build a castle in her room, host a tea party, secretl...moreLottie Paris is a busy young lady today. She and Papa Pete have to visit the park, Lottie has to build a castle in her room, host a tea party, secretly steal Papa Pete's phone to play with, etc. You know, normal busy little girl stuff!
Readers of other Angela Johnson stories will love Lottie Paris just as much. Through the picture on their wall, it's clear that Papa Pete is a single father or maybe even an adoptive dad. Readers never see his face, so the story takes on a very Muppet Babies feel (Nanny's legs), but he's got just as much personality . LOL
Lottie ends up in the quiet chair a couple times, and she's busier than a bee, but she's also cute as a button and very loving. Little girls will love the cute and colorful pictures while adults will chuckle at the similarities to Lottie Paris and perhaps a similar girl in their life. The illustrations are bright and cheery, and Lottie Paris is a serious cutie.(less)