I decided to read this book after hearing about the movie Carol on NPR. I confess to a curiosity to what was thought of lesbian relationships back inI decided to read this book after hearing about the movie Carol on NPR. I confess to a curiosity to what was thought of lesbian relationships back in the early 50s. I was three years old when the book was published in 1952. To be honest, the book seems too modern to have been published back then.
I found the character Carol easy to believe, but the main character Therese less so. The book is written from the point of view of Therese. She is a 19 year old young woman with little sexual experience and yet she seems to have no qualms or questions about being attracted to and in love with a woman. I could see that happening today but in the early 1950s? It seems that cultural expectations and societal mores would have created more tension in Therese regarding the acceptability of her relationship with Carol.
There is one area that I don't quite understand. Early on we are told that Therese:
had tried to have an affair with Richard three or four times in the year she had known him, though with negative results; Richard said he preferred to wait. He meant wait until she cared more for him. Richard wanted to marry her, and she was the first girl he had ever proposed to, he said.
Highsmith, Patricia. The Price of Salt: OR Carol (p. 21). Dover Publications. Kindle Edition.
But later in the book Carol asks Therese:
“Do you sleep with him?” Carol asked her. “I did. Two or three times.” Therese told her about those times, the first time and the three times afterward. She was not embarrassed, talking about it.
Highsmith, Patricia. The Price of Salt: OR Carol (p. 75). Dover Publications. Kindle Edition.
It is mentioned again in another context.
it occurred to her Richard’s attitude was that his place in her life was unassailable, her tie with him permanent and beyond question, because he was the first man she had ever slept with.
Highsmith, Patricia. The Price of Salt: OR Carol (p. 101). Dover Publications. Kindle Edition.
So what is it, did she or did she not sleep with Richard? If she did then what is this business of negative results during attempted affairs with Richard? Or do I simply not understand early 50s sexual code words?
The Dover Publication Kindle Edition is in need of some editing. It appears to me that the book was optically scanned and little attention was paid to the scanning errors in the final results. I don't find such things terribly aggravating but for those who do, you will find plenty of errors. My rating, three and a half stars (rounded up) does not take these errors into account ...more
Nice reference information, but unfortunately the Kindle edition is poorly edited. The section for ISTP was left out. The section for ISFP appears twiNice reference information, but unfortunately the Kindle edition is poorly edited. The section for ISTP was left out. The section for ISFP appears twice. ...more
Actually I listened to the Audible version, not the CD. Goodreads doesn't have a listing for the Audible. Excellent performance, good book. It gives aActually I listened to the Audible version, not the CD. Goodreads doesn't have a listing for the Audible. Excellent performance, good book. It gives a cultural and historical explanation for the elements role in human affairs. I would really like to take the time to read the Kindle version as well but so many books so little time. ...more
I found the first half very slow. The second half was more interesting. I can't get past the feeling that the book is far better than I allowed and II found the first half very slow. The second half was more interesting. I can't get past the feeling that the book is far better than I allowed and I have missed something. Three and half stars....more
Take what you learn in a business ethics course, mix in a little economics, evolutionary biology, and philosophy and apply it vaguely to romantic relaTake what you learn in a business ethics course, mix in a little economics, evolutionary biology, and philosophy and apply it vaguely to romantic relationships and keep it within 100 pages long, all written by James Bond and Yoda.
I found it pretty dry, although the author did have some good points. For those interested in a how to manual, look elsewhere. ...more
Excellent description of the female erectile structures, how they function during arousal, and a hands on guide for self discovery of these structuresExcellent description of the female erectile structures, how they function during arousal, and a hands on guide for self discovery of these structures. This book has the best description of urethral sponge and its function that I have read to date. Winston removes some of the mystery and all of the hype from female ejaculation, taking it out of arena of a pornographic spectacle, and through the anatomical and functional description of urethral sponge, places it squarely in the realm of a real phenomenon that can be learned and worthy of a woman's or couple's pursuit. Winston also introduced what for me was a new structure, the perineal sponge, a small area of erectile tissue embedded in the posterior vaginal wall. Also of value for me was a good description of the pelvic musculature and particularly the round ligament (really a muscle) that elevates the uterus during arousal.
A good bit of the book is devoted to self discovery. Winston provides exercises for increasing awareness of the body, mind, and spirit in what she call "Wholistic Sexuality." She also touches on the sacred nature of sex, introducing energy flows, ying/yang, the chakras, and tantra. In doing so though, she manages to maintain an atmosphere of reality. You don't get overwhelmed by moon beams. It is a nice mixture of ancient wisdoms and modern science.
While the book is predominantly written for women, I would say that it has just as much value for men as well. She includes many side bars called "Hot Tips For Guys" and there is a short review chapter devoted to men. The book is also illustrated with black and white reproductions of classic erotic paintings.
While I enjoyed awareness chapters, for me, the real value in this book was the detailed descriptions of anatomical structures of female arousal. All in all an excellent resource. ...more
I was inspired to read the series by the latest Jesse Stone movie, Lost in Paradise. I like the movies much better. The movies are for me pieces of arI was inspired to read the series by the latest Jesse Stone movie, Lost in Paradise. I like the movies much better. The movies are for me pieces of art, scenery, music, moodiness, rain, dark lonely evenings with these repetitive quirks with a not bad detective story thrown in for free. (Like something that would appear in a sort of a slob's version of the Cannes Film Festival.) The book had the detective story (although somewhat different from the movie) but lacked the art. Not sure if I will read any more in the series. I own all the movies (except the latest) on DVD and I drag one out every now and again and watch it much like I listen to a symphony. ...more
Far better than I expected but obviously not Larsson's writing. Lagercrantz is a competent writer and he told a fair story, but the magic of Larsson wFar better than I expected but obviously not Larsson's writing. Lagercrantz is a competent writer and he told a fair story, but the magic of Larsson was just not present in the story. In one minor aspect, there was an improvement. We did not have to suffer through Larsson's weird technological descriptions of out of date Apple computers or read 20 pages of a security system interview, but as I said the magic, what ever it is, was lacking.
The other thing that tugs my heart on this story is the legal battle between Larsson's partner of 32 years and his father and brother. They never got married, Swedish law does not recognize common law arrangements for inheritance, and Larsson died suddenly before the first book had been published and the series became popular.
My feeling on this is that we decide who we love in life but are assigned families. As such I gravitate to Larsson's widow. Thirty two years together, yes, she is his widow. The lesson here is take care of the people you love while you are alive.
That said, the law is the law, and while my sympathies lie with Larsson's widow, I voted with my purchase for Lisbeth.
Here is an interesting account of the creation of the fourth book. NOTE THE ARTICLE CONTAINS A SPOILER.
The Kindle version was cheap, $2.99 so I bought it out of a curiosity for what the loyal opposition is doing. While I am a rather poor excuse for a ChThe Kindle version was cheap, $2.99 so I bought it out of a curiosity for what the loyal opposition is doing. While I am a rather poor excuse for a Christian (I like Christmas Trees) with a one way ticket to hell for some matters involving lusting over a bare thigh (in church no less) for which I refuse to ask forgiveness, I am a rather dyed in the wool monogamist. So for the price, I thought I would see what the good pastor has to say.
Actually I was pleasantly surprised. The book starts out fairly secular. Later chapters he drags out the sin and purity and starts thumping the Bible, but if you can get around the rhetoric, for the most part the suggestions in this book are good and would apply to non-religious folks as well as the religious. Let us say that I agree with most of his methods.
His main tenet is that instead of looking for the right partner become the right partner. Become the person that you are looking for. Pretty good advice. He goes a little overboard in my estimation on premarital sex...the sin and purity stuff that doesn't set well me. That said however I will admit that I think he is right, jumping into sex prematurely blinds one to the relationship flaws. Sex is a powerful binding element in human relationships, but it does not guarantee longevity in a committed relationship. He states the way to resolve your relationship issues is with a clear head before you get involved with sex. I agree, but I don't think waiting until your wedding night is a good maneuver for determining your sexual compatibility. But then again I don't find premarital sex conducted in a committed loving relationship with the aim of marriage to be sinful. Am I willing to bet my Soul on that? Yes, but I am not willing to bet yours so read what he has to say and decide for yourself.
While I didn't agree with all he had to say and perhaps the theology behind it, I have to say if you can ignore the churchy hype, this guy has something important to say about love, sex, and marriage.