This book is just amazing, as small as it is (just 33 pages) but it really has a big value and meaning, I believe this is one of the life-changing boo...moreThis book is just amazing, as small as it is (just 33 pages) but it really has a big value and meaning, I believe this is one of the life-changing books I have read, a must read for everyone really. Before reading my review(more of a summary), I really recommend reading the book for yourself, the effect will be much better. --
It starts with defining what is an agreement, an agreemenet is the set of rules we have settled for our lives, the way we see things, the way we name the colors and the words, everything is agreed upon since our childhood. Your self-image is an agreement with your self, each and everyone of us has this image about him/her self, You believe you are good at your work, you believe you are smart, your believe you are stupid, you believe you are sensitive, you believe you are strong ... each and every single believe is an agreement that you have inside you about yourself, these agreemenets might be imposed on you because of the way your parents raised you, may be because of situations you faced in your life, or may be this is just the way you see yourself.
We had no choice as we grew up .. we accepted all the agreements as kids, we accepted what was the definition of right and wrong from our parents, we accepeted for our actions to be judged by the surrounding people .. seeking the acceptance of everyone, killing the child within us who longs for trying new things and taking the risks. Then the judge inside us kept doing this task for us over and over again, blaming ourselves for the mistakes we're done again and again, we are the only creatures who get blamed for the same mistake infinite number of times.
We need to agree to 4 new agreements, to break the spell of all the negative past agreements we had in our lives, it needs a strong will and power to stop living the wrong way and live in more healthy way. 1. Be impeccable with your words. Impeccable means make no sins. Each word we say is like a magic spell, it can be a black magic destroying ourselves or the one we love. spelling our poison and negative thoughts on others. Or it can be pure magic transforming the life into a much better one, spreading the love and kindess within on others and on ourselves.
2. Do not take anything personally.If someone tells you,"hey you are stupid", don't take it personally, it is just a black magic spell thrown at you, it does not mean you are stupid, it means he is throwing his inner poison of whatever agreements he has in his beliefs thrown at you. The same if someone tells you "hey, you're so intelligent" .. even that you should not take it personally, you have to believe in your own agreements, don't wait for others to add their spells on you. You are what you believe.
3. Do not make assumptions. Assumptions are our inner thoughts and expectations of someone to do something for us, or something to happen to us. Wake up. How do you expect the other people to act based on your inner thoughts? And why would you blame them and start throwing your black spells on them for not meeting your expectations? they will never know what's in your head, nor you should expect them to do, and you should not blame them for not knowing your dreams. Each and everyone of us is living in his own dream, our dreams together creates the world we live in, but you have to wake up and see your dream for real, removing all the fog mixed with these dreams with expectations from others, and even expectations of ourselves.
4. Always do your best. *your best* varies from one day to another, just always try to do the best your can do, your best when you're happy will not be the same best when you're sad. just give it the best you can at that specific moment. and again do not let the inner judge start throwing spells at you "you could have done better." This will not happen because inside of you you know you did your best at that moment. Do not leave a space for yourself to be judged and victimized. Do your best not because you *have* to. Do it because you feel *happy* that you did your best. Do not do something you don't wanna do. Do something because you feel happy to do that thing.
At the end of the book it proposes 3 ways to apply these 3 agreements. -- to be continued. (less)