Well I'm not going to become a conservative anytime soon, but this book has helped me see the world a little more through a conservative's eyes. RegarWell I'm not going to become a conservative anytime soon, but this book has helped me see the world a little more through a conservative's eyes. Regardless of my emotional reaction to a lot of conservative viewpoints a seed has been planted that reminds me that they conservatives are not necessarily wrong, misinformed (any more than liberals) or evil. Thinking of morals as tastes is helpful in at least intellectually appreciating other moral matrices even if my immediate emotional reaction is to gag. Thinking of liberal and conservative moral matrices as yin and yang is also helpful. Perhaps one without the other would turn into a sort of monist fundamentalism.
I had trouble with Haidt's beliefs in the evolution of group traits and his seeming belief that being a team player is better and less selfish than being an individualist. Still there is so much in this book that has made me think and question my own beliefs. I pretty much buy his argument that moral intuitions come first and strategic reasoning is secondary and grows out of and does everything it can to defend those intuitions. I appreciate that Jonathan Haidt is trying to bridge the Manichaean gap between liberals and conservatives so that we all might get a little better at working out our differences.
I was maybe looking for an aha moment in this book, but didn't experience it. The book did make me think though, and it did make me question how I'veI was maybe looking for an aha moment in this book, but didn't experience it. The book did make me think though, and it did make me question how I've been viewing and relating to a family member who has BPD. I have been angry at her for a long time and tend to be pretty persecutorial and judgmental of her. I think the big question in my mind is what should she be responsible for, and what things is she just not capable of? What kind of expectations is it ok for me or anyone else to have of her? Another huge question is how does her behavior affect her kids, and how should I try to help them make sense of their mother? The bottom line is that my biggest concern is for the kids.
This book was a good starting point for trying to get a handle on BPD. I plan on checking out some of the resources listed in the back of the book, and will try to find other books or articles dealing specifically with children of BPD parents. ...more
My emotions and thoughts are too all over the map after reading this to say anything very coherent. The book clearly provoked something in me, but I fMy emotions and thoughts are too all over the map after reading this to say anything very coherent. The book clearly provoked something in me, but I feel pretty clueless about how to make sense of what I've read in the context of my own life. I think I need to let all the feelings and ideas gestate and see what forms they start taking before I might have an inkling of how to proceed......more
I suppose you could generally define my attitude as "Support the troops. Don't support the war." I do question the necessity of large scale wars, so II suppose you could generally define my attitude as "Support the troops. Don't support the war." I do question the necessity of large scale wars, so I question the necessity of training the largely young and naive to become killers. I question whether anyone should be put through this kind of training. I also think about what I've read about how there are a lack of rituals for males to transition from boyhood to manhood, and how the military or gangs are providing these rituals.
I was very moved by the section on Vietnam vets, and how their experience in war was very different and unprecedented from the experience of soldiers in previous wars. The author claims that the lack of support and the angry, hateful reception they received from war protesters when they returned home exacerbated the incidence of PTSD. They already felt guilt over their participation in killing, even though they were put in an untenable situation where it was kill or be killed. I have to think that I might have been one of those protesters in my younger years, and it really causes me to pause and think deeply about my attitude toward soldiers.
In general, this book has caused me to question some of my beliefs about war. The strongest feelings I am left with are great sadness over what soldiers have had to endure and continue to endure as veterans, and gratitude to them for risking and sacrificing so much for people like me and for what they see as a noble and just cause.
Just one aside, I did not care for the final section of the book about the causes of violence in society. I don't necessarily buy his arguments about the media being largely to blame.